your fiance/husband's first night in america...

[Jenn! 918]

but my belief is sex is natural, fun, a wonderful part of marriage, and i'm not embarrassed or uptight about talking about it.

And one can believe that sex is natural, fun, and a wonderful part of marriage while also choosing to keep discussion about it behind closed doors.

I just have no interest in hearing about others' sex lives. Call me uptight, but that's just me. Maybe we'll have to implement sex-talk disclaimers in the topic titles in the future.

[brnidokiegurl 0]

Your correct, it had been fun and enjoyable evening, try to help plan the first nite(s) sheets, lights, food, showers, etc then it all broke loose not once but twice, by that time its time to call it a night, got some ideas tho. All variety of SOs are coming, it doesnt have to be directed to any certain group or religion, if the suggestion doesnt fit within your lifes circle then dont use it, go to the next. Just my thoughts again.

[sereia 0]

amen, brinido!

i honestly didn't think this topic would go in the sex direction. i was asking for romantic ideas to make my home more comfortable, gifts, food, drink, music, things to do, etc for his first night. i already knew the "fill in the blank " part. but since it went in that direction its A-OKAY by me!

[brnidokiegurl 0]

All adult women, there was nothing (dirty) said it was all in fun, and good spirit, lots of good ideas were coming learned a few things, and then the normal............. some just look for something to pick at, dont worry you did good. It is a very interesting subject. I learned chicken is not meat ha

[sereia 0]

All adult women, there was nothing (dirty) said it was all in fun, and good spirit, lots of good ideas were coming learned a few things, and then the normal............. some just look for something to pick at, dont worry you did good. It is a very interesting subject. I learned chicken is not meat ha

i kinda skipped over the whole halal section when reading when i got home. chicken is not meat? since when? ahh i'll just go back and read.

[~Jackie~ 30]

Discussing your sex life, or lack of with strangers and mixed company is just tacky. And I would appreciate no suggestions to 'just not read' or 'go somewhere else'. I have longevity as you can see from my join date. I'm staying.

Jackie

[Sofiyya 1,687]

Jen, honey, yesterday's blow up was nothing more than an excuse to go at me, specifically. I'm a round peg that won't go into the square hole. Since I've been here, there have been other sexual leaning threads with no complaints. IMO, it's just a matter of too much time on some hands, too much gossiping, and too many alpha females with need to assert their "authority" and maintain a "hierarchy". If you have any group dynamics training, you can even discern repeating roles among the players. Sadly, most of the time, they are succesfull, thus the tenacious tactics. When they're not, they have the kind of intimidation fit that happened to this thread. Last night, some of us went back and read old threads, and it's clear that this sort of thing has been going on for a while. Nothing new, no original thought, same ole, same ole. Please, don't allow it to distract you.

It is a fun thread and everyone deserves some fun, so, back to the topic!

Being imminently practical I like Natty's suggestions very much. I've already got furniture for him and a closet. I'll have a bus pass waiting, and other neccesary things to help my hubby get settled in. I plan to spoil him!

[sereia 0]

Discussing your sex life, or lack of with strangers and mixed company is just tacky. And I would appreciate no suggestions to 'just not read' or 'go somewhere else'. I have longevity as you can see from my join date. I'm staying.

Jackie

Well I'm obviously a newbie but common sense tells me if you find something offensive that is as lighthearted as this... you just don't post in this topic! My point is why do so many women here have to be so rude all the time? if you posted something I found tacky I would never go in your post and tell you it was just for the sake of having my opinion known that i find you inappropriate! I would just ignore that topic because there are tons of others to read and post in! Newbie OR old school.

Edited February 7, 2007 by abdounjen

[Together4ever 1]

... and here we go again...

[Sofiyya 1,687]

All adult women, there was nothing (dirty) said it was all in fun, and good spirit, lots of good ideas were coming learned a few things, and then the normal............. some just look for something to pick at, dont worry you did good. It is a very interesting subject. I learned chicken is not meat ha

Agreed, it was in no way over out of bounds. I've read more graphic stuff in ahadith. This is not a new subject, it's just new people discussing it, and that's the rub.

All adult women, there was nothing (dirty) said it was all in fun, and good spirit, lots of good ideas were coming learned a few things, and then the normal............. some just look for something to pick at, dont worry you did good. It is a very interesting subject. I learned chicken is not meat ha

i kinda skipped over the whole halal section when reading when i got home. chicken is not meat? since when? ahh i'll just go back and read.

Some don't call chicken meat, but it is still to be prepared as meat for an observant Muslim household.

[sereia 0]

oh okay that makes sense. i knew it was still prepared as such but that whole comment of it not being meat threw me off. terminology

[Sofiyya 1,687]

Discussing your sex life, or lack of with strangers and mixed company is just tacky. And I would appreciate no suggestions to 'just not read' or 'go somewhere else'. I have longevity as you can see from my join date. I'm staying.

Jackie

Well I'm obviously a newbie but common sense tells me if you find something offensive that is as lighthearted as this... you just don't post in this topic! My point is why do so many women here have to be so rude all the time? if you posted something I found tacky I would never go in your post and tell you it was just for the sake of having my opinion known that i find you inappropriate! I would just ignore that topic because there are tons of others to read and post in! Newbie OR old school.

I don't think telling someone you think they are being inappropriate is wrong, I've done that; several have. It's how and why they do it that bothers me.

Edited February 7, 2007 by Green-eyed girl

[doodlebug 3]

Discussing your sex life, or lack of with strangers and mixed company is just tacky. And I would appreciate no suggestions to 'just not read' or 'go somewhere else'. I have longevity as you can see from my join date. I'm staying.

Jackie

Well I'm obviously a newbie but common sense tells me if you find something offensive that is as lighthearted as this... you just don't post in this topic! My point is why do so many women here have to be so rude all the time? if you posted something I found tacky I would never go in your post and tell you it was just for the sake of having my opinion known that i find you inappropriate! I would just ignore that topic because there are tons of others to read and post in! Newbie OR old school.

For me, it really had nothing to do with the sex talk....I think that the "fill in the blanks" was kinda cute and all that. I know you're new here but greeneyedgirl has publically stated that certain people's marriages are not valid and that they are fornicating with their men whom they call their husband. For someone to do that and devastate some individuals who take things to heart, and then to go and talk about extremely sexual toys.....well it just kind of was the straw that broke the camel's back. And for her to know that the fact that on the one hand she's destroyed a few girls emotionally telling them that their marriage was false and on the other hand she's freely talking about her sex toys bothers some, and then to insert many many many references of it in this particular thread KNOWING it would rub a few people the wrong way, was just wrong and I apologize that it distracted from the true nature of the thread.

So.............it's not really about the uptightness re: some of the bedroom talk.....it's more about the audacity of someone to tell a woman right after she got married when she's on her honeymoon that she is fornicating and not really married, and then turn around and talk about her vibrator.

That being said, I'm writing down all these good tips myself and I do HOPE that we all can use them SOON!!!!

Edited February 7, 2007 by doodlebug

[brnidokiegurl 0]

New or old rude is rude, i maybe wrong but i dont remember anyone exactly (getting down to details) expressing (exactly) what would take place in anyones life. a detail reference is not needed. At work, school, friends, etc you put a room of girls together and its going to drift sooner or later, no one has to give details. Put a room of men together would be the same. Hopefully it can get going again, personally, i am going to check out the sheets target has on sale, and try to find new lights, maybe paint/decorate the room, make it more like his home style. I have already placed the things i brought back and he has send, some in den, some in living room, some kitchen and bedroom. Planning will take the edge away from all the waiting.

[sereia 0]

planning will definitely take the edge of waiting! thats why i'm doing this... to keep myself distracted from the fact i haven't even sent my forms in because i lost my BC and my passport expired. i'm rotting here waiting for one or the other to arrive and its just prolonging this further and further!

i just moved to ny myself so i need to buy a dresser anyway...so i'm going to look for an extra large one so there is room for us to share. anyone have ideas for online furniture ordering? i've looked at target.com, westelm.com, and a few others with no luck. i wish i could get something moroccan inspired........