Removing CR1 Condition but wife not cooperating

[N-o-l-a 7,167]

Quite simply, you are saying she doesn't wish to generate joint financial evidence with you. If you have a genuine marriage, then this is not a problem because you can provide other evidence at the 2 year ROC or worst comes to worst, attend an interview and prove that you are actually married in spirit as well as on paper.

Now, to me, it seems like you are upset that she is refusing to generate financial evidence because you feel like you need evidence in order to divorce and remove conditions on your own. Right? If that isn't the plan, your concerns are unfounded. If that is the plan (and you need not confirm it), then good for her for not falling for it.

2 options:

1. Divorce and attempt to remove conditions on your own with some evidence that your marriage was in good faith (you will have to be creative, I sense)

2. Work on your marriage now with counseling and a lot of introspection and don't worry about ROC for the moment. The chances of a valid couple getting denied ROC are practically 0.

[FZSA 23]

If i did wrong with her then why she is living with me ? why she is not getting divorce ?

[N-o-l-a 7,167]

If i did wrong with her then why she is living with me ? why she is not getting divorce ?

1. Why are you not getting one if you are so unhappy?

2. Why should she care one way or the other? You are presuming that she grossly dislikes you or hates you in some capacity. Maybe she just tolerates your existence?

[j&ana 363]

If i did wrong with her then why she is living with me ? why she is not getting divorce ?

it is arrange marriage maybe she feel she has no choice.

Edited January 5, 2015 by j&ana

[Sandra G. 5,047]

Even if she signs l751 form the chance to have your GC renewed it is almost non existent without commingling finances.It does not matter if the marriage was arranged or not, without commingling finances your case will be denied .

[Hotter Otter 1,211]

Sounds like there was a wedding but not much of a "marriage" going on.

Some people have been harsh to the OP but to be honest if it was an arranged marriage with both parties unhappy I feel sorry for both of them.

[N-o-l-a 7,167]

Even if she signs l751 form the chance to have your GC renewed it is almost non existent without commingling finances.It does not matter if the marriage was arranged or not, without commingling finances your case will be denied .

No, not really. It makes the chances of a person getting an interview waiver unlikely, but there is no requirement to comingle finances.

[medsox 2]

If i did wrong with her then why she is living with me ? why she is not getting divorce ?

You are asking these questions in the wrong forum. You may not get good answers about marital matters here. Going to counselling is your best option.

[JohnR! 5,495]

It seems she changed her mind. File for divorce and consider going back home to resume your life. Without evidence it will be hard for you to prove you actually have a marriage.

Hi All,

Hope you all are good !!!

I am writing here with dis heart situation , I came in USA on CR1 green card and need to remove condition .

Now situation is that from very first day my wife is not cooperating with me in any relation . She said on first day that live your life as you want and let me do what I am doing . She spend her time on job and outside , go to outside in morning and come back in late night .

She is not opening bank account with me, not taking any insurance with me , even not taking joint lease in apartment and not interested to submit joined Tax return . I try to give her pocket money but she refused.

I married with her in good faith and we were happy but when she came back to USA after 3 months of marriage she suddenly changed.

I need good advice please and how I can prove good faith ?????????

[Eric & Idalia 56]

I would say don't worry about removing the conditions now because until I know you should do it before your GC has two years. Better work on your marriage. Go to counselling.

If the marriage was arranged:

I know it seems hard to go back to your country and start all over again. But don't you think that is better than living an unhappy life with someone who doesn't love you?

I don't think people in this website will help with advice about relationships because it is a website about immigration that's why some of them have given you their opinion about fraud.

If you love her, do not give up.

[Pinkrlion 2,719]

It is an arranged marriage, what were your expectations. It seems you are more concerned about your gc than your marriage.

[Ckmciver70 31]

Pre arrange marriage ?

I said she was happy but not now ! She does not have any problem with me accept she want to live with her style !

I just happened across your thread and thought I'd offer some thoughts (as the U.S. female getting ready to marry a Pakistani - although it is not an arranged marriage in our case). I met my fiancée while working in Pakistan, and have quite a bit of insight into the culture there, so hopefully this information will be of some use to you.

In the U.S., as I'm sure you were aware before you got married and came over, women have far more rights and freedoms to enjoy. You may not have realized just how many/much. Perhaps you and your wife did not discuss your expectations and hers about what she would and would not give up to be married to you, and come to an agreement on what would happen when you arrived and how you would live as husband and wife. Unfortunately, if your expectations were that she would stay home and be the traditional Pakistani wife (no job, no friends outside of the home, only interacting with women), you didn't have realistic expectations, as about zero U.S. females are interested in leading a secluded home life. And I'm sure she had no idea of what your expectations would be if you did not directly state them.

In the U.S., a wife has as many rights as the husband. And therefore, you and your wife should talk about - and agree upon - what your life together will be. Otherwise, you will be unhappy, and end in divorce. And it doesn't sound, from what little I've read, that that is what either of you would like.

That said, if you talk and then decide that your relationship won't work with compromise, then that's what needs to happen. However, I wouldn't count on being able to stay in the U.S. The conditions of your visa/stay are based on your marriage to this woman. I'd be surprised if Immigration let you stay when that marriage fails in such a short time. It calls into question how serious you were in the first place, and that your application may have been a fraud.

I also agree with most others here that you should be more worried about fixing the marriage than getting your green card. That's not a good sign at all.

Good luck. Christine

Edited January 5, 2015 by Ckmciver70

[TBoneTX 45,291]

A couple of overly judgmental posts have been removed. Please respond to the OP's situation without making conclusions as to his situation.

Thread is moved from the ROC forum to the Effects of Major Changes forum, where similar issues are often discussed.

[leang99 0]

Why don't you try to hire an Immigration lawyer?

For fiance, if other parties not happy, he/she can sent you back home.

In your case, it is a different story because your aren't her fiance, you are her husband.

[Sandra G. 5,047]

N-O-I-A your information is so wrong,but so wrong .You said there is no requirement to show commingling finances, really? well since I became an attorney in 1989 the Law did not change regarding showing commingling finances,period!

Commingling finances exception is applied just in Vawa cases, it's not the OP's case.