VAWA, Part 6

[onye uwaoma 131]

hello, Folks.It's my birthday today, lol and I am in Toronto, Canada since last Friday vacationing.I love Canada, it's gorgeous.

Happy belated birthday! Wishing you long life and prosperity in Jesus name, amen!

[Sandra G. 5,046]

Thank you, everyone, for my birthday wishes.

[houston8 3]

Hello everyone,

I got married in June to my wife. We met in February of this year. We already filled for I-130, I-485, I-765, I-864 and I-131. I already did my biometric last week. She has been abusive for the past two weeks. I work in the petroleum industry and I lost my job in March. I have given her about $10,000 from my savings since we met despite that I am not working since March. For the I-864, I had to use my savings and my apartment that I bought without loans last year for the I-864. Her income was too low to support me on the I-864. I also put her name as co-owner of the apartment that I bought solely from my savings.

She has been threatening me to give her more money. I told her I am currently not working, that I will be able to give her more money after I receive my work permit. She wants me to give her money from my savings. She also lied to me that she was working. I later discovered she currently does not do any work. She also has financial crime (theft) convictions from the past. I asked her about it after we got married. She said she had no crime or court cases for theft in the past. I later showed her the documents; she was upset and said I was shoving her dark pasts in her face. I am currently suffering depression because of this. I have not gone to see a psychiatrist or psychologist; however, I know I am suffering depression from her actions. I do not want to meet a lawyer, because I am currently not working.

I am from a Sub-Saharan country and I do not want to go back to my country now, because of crimes and I would be a target because I came back from the United States. Criminals from my county always assume that people returning home from United States have lots of money. I was on L1 Visa because I worked in Brazil before my company transferred me back to the United States. I first came to the United States in 2006 on F1 Visa, and I ended up getting 2 master (MS) degrees in a science related field and in an engineering related field from reputable universities in the United States. I will surely get another job in the United States when oil price go up. I plan to do a PhD in case I do not get a job on time.

I have been married twice in the past to United States Citizens. The two ended in divorce; one in 2010 and the other in 2012. I never filed for AOS with any of the two previous marriages. I have never been arrested. I have never been accused of a crime. I have never overstayed my visa. I am currently on B-2 visa in the United States.

Do you think I have any chance with VAWA since I have only known my wife for 6 months and our marriage is only 2 months old? Thank you.

Happy Belated Birthday Sandranj. You are very active on the VAWA thread.

Edited August 22, 2015 by houston8

[leilabird 18]

Good luck Houston 8. Sounds like a legitimate abusive relationship.

[Jawaree 717]

Sorry to hear of your plights the best person to answer those VAWA

questions....I do know proof of a signed certification is needed, she has

not hit you & verbal abuse is harder to prove my beliefs) and that was

a short arriage

Others knowing about your abuse should be willing to help with a statement

I guess....good luck dude

[houston8 3]

I have phone text messages requesting that I should give her about $2000 within 24 hours from 'our money' according to her. She was at her parents house when she sent the messages. That she is probably not my wife then if I do not give her $2000 within 24 hours. The money is the money in my savings and my money before I met her. I never added her name to my bank accounts.

[leilabird 18]

Sorry to hear that Houston8. You must have gone through an ordeal because of it.

Why did you not add her on your bank account? Not only abusr but also you'd have to prove a bona fide marriage to The USCIS.

Did you know anything about VAWA before you got married to the 3rd woman?

[houston8 3]

Hi leilabird. My plan was to add her to my bank account after marriage. However, I did not add her because she is good with spending money. I told her about having a joint bank account, but she told me she did not have any money to contribute to the joint account. For proof of marriage to the USCIS, we have a property in our names together. We also have utility bills in our names. I got to know about VAWA about a week ago from my search on the internet.

[leilabird 18]

I see. I don't blame you at all if she has the habits of spending the money.

Yah like Jawaree says it's really difficult to prove it to the immigration if the police weren't involved. But nothing is impossible. I'd do more research on other visa possibilities since it's obviously not a healthy marriage to stay in.

Sounds like you are a highly educated person, why wouldn't you apply for a work visa

I work at the University Hospital, our university hires a lot of qualified scientists all around the world and sponsors their H1 visas.

Your health is the most important, I'd stay out of it before it gets too ugly.

[houston8 3]

Thank you very much for your inputs. My majors are focused to the petroleum industry. Right now, no petroleum company in the United States is willing to employ foreigners and file working visa because of the low oil price. In fact many petroleum companies are even firing employees. My other option is to file for an I-140 working visa, National Interest Waiver (NIW). For NIW visa, I do not need an employer to file it for me.

[Sandra G. 5,046]

jawaree he does not need any certification because he will file VAWA, just U filers need certification from the police or from the prosecutor, VAWA filers do not need that ok.The length of a marriage is not important, I had a VAWA case approved based in mental abuse and the alien was married just for 6 days.

[Sandra G. 5,046]

houston8 I do not know all details about your case regarding the abuse, but considering just what you said here it seems more like you have marital conflicts and a mean wife instead of someone suffering abuse. There is a HUGE difference between being married to a nasty person and married to an abuser.Without having a diagnose of major depression and/or post-traumatic disorder due the abuse suffered your chance to have your VAWA approved is zero.I saw a few people that had their VAWA approved without a psychological evaluation, but they were married for many years and had a lot of witnesses.You need to attend therapy 5/7 sessions and have a psychological evaluation done.

You were married to 3 American women in the last 5 years and I believe you will have a tough time to convince USCIS that you had a bonafide marriage with your last wife. I will not elaborate here why.What do you have to prove bonafide marriage?

[mamaof3! 9]

Houston8, what matters here is your proof, timing of marriage plays a part if Uscis don't believe you. If you have your proof in order and can explain your situation, you should be fine. Start gathering all the proof and people that can write a letter to verify some of wife's behaviour.

BE ready, to explain every important detail for what you have been through. Uscis can decide if you have a case or not. Goodluck

[leilabird 18]

Hmm, that's very interesting. Actually I myself made a 2 year contract with Haliburton in 2010 after I graduated from the University of Hamburg. Haliburton's main industry is in Texas but I was offered to work in North Dakota as a part of a research team because of a major oil boom.

VAWA is not easy my friend. If you cant provide what USCIS wants, you will lose many years without working. Dont go through what I went through.

I wish you the best

Edited August 22, 2015 by leilabird

[houston8 3]

Thank you everyone for your responses. The major proof of our marriage is owning a property together ( an apartment in Houston, TX). Internet and Electricity bill is also in our names. I plan to have therapy sessions and have a psychological evaluation done in the next few weeks. The major issue I can see are my previous marriages to American women which ended in divorce. However, I never filed any I-130 and I-485 in my previous marriages.