VAWA, Part 6

[Youngseattle 0]

based on my understanding, immigration is pure business between immigration candidate and government,

[Sandra G. 5,052]

yiyang your understanding about politicians/government and VAWA is wrong. Thousands of people have VAWA approved EVERY YEAR,They were able to prove abuse and bonafide marriage,you did not prove that.The problem was with your case or the way you handled your case . You were denied because you did not prove abuse,or bonafide marriage or both.

You still hope to reconcile with your wife, VAWA was not created for you to get status in the USA because your wife refused to sponsor for your GC, and then reconcile with the abuser .The purpose of VAWA is beyond your interpretation,and should not be used for what you intend. VAWA is to help victims of DV flee from abuse!. It seems to me you had an unpleasant marriage,and not an abusive marriage, your wife is a drug addict and of course you experience unpleasant circumstances living with her,but from that to abuse there is a HUGE difference. USCIS will not care about her drug addiction,her DIU and if she loves you.VAWA is not based in these circumstances.

If you can't prove that you left the U.S. because she imposed risk to your life then if you file VAWA abroad your case will be denied,and it seems she did not acknowledge your existence here,because she was high all the time, then I doubt you will be able to prove that you could not live in any other State in the U.S.and had to flee to NZ to protect yourself. Man USCIS will not "wonder why this guy keep coming back after married to an US citizen for 7 yrs". VAWA is about to prove abuse and bonafide marriage,not why you are still married to her,not because of the length of the married or why you are replying again.We have here one guy denied 3 times and he has a child with the abuser and was married living together for 6 years.

[Sandra G. 5,052]

yiyang you did not ask me,but I will say something.You are so proud of your Christian marriage,you said that several times in the past,but proud about what? Because you are Christian and a pastor celebrated your marriage? Being a cristian is not just to declare I am a christian,it's about to live the life considering your belief, and clearly your wife is all way down to the wrong Christian path.Your christian marriage failed!.

Please seek some counseling,and talk with a pastor/minister about marriage. I am a Christian missionary since 1987,not working in any mission abroad in the past 6years, and I truly believe you are trapped with wrong ideas about Christianity and marriage. You have your life ahead.You have a Ph.D,live in a beautiful Country, please find some peace for your life,let this woman go for good, meet a good Christian woman and be happy. I wish you the best.

Edited June 18, 2015 by sandranj

[leilabird 18]

Yingyang, I got a questiong for ya. What do you mean by "u need two VAWA witnesses"?

[Villanelle 4,122]

Hello all,

I am new here and was directed to this forum via another post. I have a strange situation and it's slightly opposite of what this thread is intending. But I am wondering:

Are any of you by chance the USC of a foreign husband who was physically abusive, who is now trying to use a conditional residency to gain permanent residency through our marriage? I know it's a long shot but I am just lost right now!

Oh my dear no... You are not going to find USCs on here. I told you to come here for moral support for the abuse you suffered and for strenght for fighting through your divorce.

Guys...

Smferguson is a very kind hearted woman. She was married to a physically abusive man (broke her nose etc etc) they have a child together) he happens to be an immigrant and took off on her and refused to co-operate in a divorce. He has since returned seeking to Remove conditions on his GC with his new girlfriend!

She is very afraid of him (for good reason) and does not know what to do. Many of us have been there. Her fear is keeping her from feeling like she can negotiate in the divorce. He wants visitation and all that good stuff in the divorce and she is lacking the strenght to stand up for herself.

I felt coming to this thread would be a good idea as she would see all the strenght from the survivors here because status aside everyone here is a survivor.

Someone must have something they can say to her? Encouragement? Advice? Support? Lots of us have went through divorce and faced our abusers. Its tough but necessary. Please dont pass her post by... thank you.

[blest.but.strest 50]

Yingyang, I got a questiong for ya. What do you mean by "u need two VAWA witnesses"?

I think he means that he needs 2 people to write affidavits for him, mentioning that they witnessed the abuse or at least were aware of it

[leilabird 18]

Oh okay. Thats' s the easiest part i believe. Yiyang, you may include print outs of text messages, emails that you exchanged with your friends or abuser's family members that you talked about the abuse. And also you may ask them to write you a letter with regards to the abuse you have experience to their knowledge.

I wish you the best of luck. I am sorry that you got denied. But justice will be served one day.

[Sandra G. 5,052]

Smeferguson first of all find an attorney to represent you in the divorce case,if you can't afford to hire one then find some pro bono attorney to help you. If you fear for your life file a restraining order against him,you have to protect your child and yourself.

You are not a victim, but a survivor,and I am glad you survived.Each year 3.000 women/men are murdered in this Country by their spouses/partners.In honor of all victims and survivors live your life like there is no tomorrow. Mahatma Gandhi said 'Live as if you were to die tomorrow. Learn as if you were to live forever. His GC is not your business anymore,it doesn't mean that you cannot contact USCIS to let them know about your story,and you should contact USCIS, but once you contact them please move on, your husband was just part of your history,but not part of your destiny.

The grief has 5 stages(denial,anger,bargaining,depression and acceptance) and I truly believe you have to go through each stage in order to heal completely,that being said you have enough on your plate to deal right now,then focus just about the divorce, child's custody,do not worry if he will be able to renew his GC or not. When we are hurt sometimes we want vengeance, some people call "justice", anyway when you become consumed with hatred,anger then the abuser is winning,how? thinking all the time about what he did against you, thinking what he will do in the future,about his gf, thinking if he will renew his GC or not, all these things hold you back from healing.You do not have to forgive him, but you have to forget him.I know you have a child with him, then focus on creating the best environment for your child to live.

The Court will stipulate custody/visitation,but request an order for supervised visitation. Enroll your child in the "Children's Passport Issuance Alert Program" (to prevent international parental abduction), and if you think he can try to take the child away from you using a foreign passport then you should ask your attorney to ask the Court to prohibit him to remove the child from the U.S. Many good things will come in, but you have to let go the old ones.

I read your post in the other thread. I doubt that he will be able to renew his GC.Good luck.

[Sandra G. 5,052]

Did Smeferguson vanish? geez...

[smferguson16 2]

No, I apologize, I work second shift over 9 hours a day, so I haven't seen any replies until now.

My concern is for my child's safety. Him being in a different country is the best safety I could ask for. The courts may grant supervised visits for awhile, but not forever. I have worked extensively with domestic violence and sexual assault survivors, I know this is about controlling my life. He could very easily divorce me and get a new GC with his new gf if that's what he wanted. But it's about controlling me, scaring me. Not only would he be in the country, I would then be financially responsible for him. This is someone who has never held a job for more than several months, no house, no car. I'm already in student loan debt, raising a child alone. I'm not vengeful, I just want him out of our lives. I had done so well over the last year in healing, new house, new job, new city. I was feeling strong again. Now I'm back to having panic attacks and dreaming of him killing me. I'm just saddened that I didn't document more. I mean, I have pictures, and a police report, and therapist, and a medical record. But how extreme the abuse got, I haven't told many people let alone documented it. I know this is how it usually is. Like you said, all I can do about the GC is go to immigration. I have an appointment next week. I'll show them what I have. That's all I can do. I guess I was just wondering if it were even possible for someone to do and I couldn't find any information about a situation like this anywhere. Thanks for your support.

[Youngseattle 0]

Thanks Sandranj, my wedding pastor said the same thing to me which is smilar to your idea. for one thing, I am proud of being a chrisitan, I am not going to divorce my wife just because she is drug addicted and refused to help me for my GC, without GC, I am still a NZ citizen and come to US without visa requirement. maybe another reason is I am tired about going back church to read bible for my another chrisitan marriage, for men one time marriage is enough, Period.

I know Vawa is serious about evidence, I am just taking a chance to reapply it. I am a Phd or a researcher, I know my wife's drug habit and her abused behavior to me has no direct connection, but still have side effect on our marriage life as couple. that is VSC's job to judge it based on US government's moral standard.

Oh, my friends, the reason I mentioned two witnesses for abused evidence is LA attorney's requirement, she can handle VAWA case with two strong abused witnesses, that is her requirement not VSC's requirement, anyway, just try your best, there is a will, there is a way, God bless U all.

[Sandra G. 5,052]

smeferguson I askedif you vanished because your first message her ein the thread message was deleted.

Look this thing I will be responsible financial for him, it does not work that way.First of all he CANNOT get medicaid if he is not a GC holder for at least 5 years, he can't get food stamp, he won't get any financial aid from social services,then you will not have anything to pay back,because all these benefits will be denied if he applies ok, of course after 5 years he might get medicaid,food stamp and then you have the obligation to pay the Government back ,but I would say 90% of divorced people after 5 years apply for Citizenship, and once he becomes american your obligations will not exist anymore.Everything I mentioned may happen if he is able to renew his GC,I doubt that he will be able to have his GC renewed.

The Court can grant supervised visitation until you are able to convince the court that supervised visitation is necessary. I Know two people that their children are 9 and 11 years old and they still have supervised visitation .Unfortunately you will not have him out of the child's life forever,then you have to work now with what you have.As i mentioned before if you fear for your life get a restraining order against him, despite you did not documented in the past the abuse,you still can mention the reasons why you feel for your life when asking for the restraining order.

Edited June 19, 2015 by sandranj

[Sandra G. 5,052]

yiyang USCIS will not make any connection about her drug use and abuse,period.Vermont applies the standards specified in the VAWA manual, and what you are saying does not exist in their list..

I am sorry to be blunt,t but you want to have the VAWA approved to get a GC and reconcile with your wife, USCIS got that, now you know why they denied your case. VAWA was created for abused people to break free from abuse, and not because the spouse is a drug addict and doesn't want to sponsor the GC.

I get really mad when people try to use VAWA with any other agenda than to break free from abuse and start a new life. I will not comment in your posts anymore.I will stand up ALWAYS for real victims of domestic violence.

Edited June 19, 2015 by sandranj

[greenteacookie 1]

Question: How long would it take to receive a notification from uscis that they receive my paperwork and informing the applicant that they are starting to work on it. (The letter that includes receipt number)

I sent my paperwork June 9, which they received June 10. Just wondering how long should it take to receive the letter.

Thanks to sandraj for helping me review the paperwork! ;-)

Thanks guys.

[Hypnos 6,577]

It can take up to thirty days to receive receipt notifications from USCIS.