I got slapped in my ear and face

[Tink88_ 9]

Even if there was an incident recently they will arrest him and she can file a restraining order... She does not have to wait to be hit again... If it has not been more than a certain amount of dates she can still file for an incident that is in the past.. Depending on which state the law is different I think... They will arrest him... And that is ok! It is scary and yes he will be angry, but he will be in jail until they decide what will happen with him... The police will offer you to ask for a 72h restraining order. Do it! And then extend it at the court! It is free for victims of domestic vioence! The police also has information who to call and who to contact etc...

You can ask to be informed if and when he gets released. If he has been convicted before for any kind of reason they will most likely keep him in jail for a while...

Again, it is normal to be scared! But do it for your own sake! It only gets worse! Not better!

If you have any messages of him insulting you or where he talks down to you or is making threats, take them with you and show them to the police.

Get it all off your chest and just be upfront and honest with them! It s normal to be ashamed... Men like this who abuse women in such ways try to keep you silent! They know what they do is wrong! They just think that they took away enough of your selfconvidence, that you will not tell anyone...

Break the cicle!

[shama786 14]

Hi I feel very sorry for you being a woman be strong nothing can go wrong with you be brave and leave the looser there are lots of source's will help you pray have a Faith in you and God you will find a way and I am sure you will not regretted!!!!

[raven52 233]

NO MAN, should ever "lay a hand on a woman".,.,no matter what the reason.

Do you have a friend, out of the area you can go to, and get away from him.

Find an attorney, or find the "assistance" (for those not able to pay, now) of an attorney, and do what ever the law provides, to protect yourself.

Not all American men act like this, leave, heal, and discover a new life, for yourself.

[Husakovic 31]

You have to go to a womans shelter. It is for abused women. Google womens shelters in your area to get the address and telephone number. This is America, women here don't take abuse!!!!!! This is not a sharia law country!!!!!!

[Glyn and Kathy 288]

OP, when you get the chance, please let us know you are ok.

[Vagabond1 7]

I hope you are not on this site any longer pondering what to do... As you should be in a womens shelter by now.

But in case your still playing around I would suggest you Google " How to tell if your living with a controlling person". If you read up on this subject you will certainly see all the benchmarks signs of a controller. You will also learn the chances of these people changing is extremely rare. In fact you will read from healthcare professionals that you should not try to FIX a controller, but to get out.

I wish I could tell you tge number of times I have had an employee in this typeof situation. The odd thing is that the victim will mkve from one abusive person to another like they NEED to be abused.

Not to offend but spitting in someones face is a form of physical assault. So you need to exam your own behavior when you become frustrated or angry. Go check the doors on your home... You will find the all have hinges installed. This is by design..... So you can enter or leave anytime you desire to.

As I suggested before and you ignored it...contact a shelter as your first step. Don't bother with the police now. The shelter can help you with that. The shelters are secret lications. He will not know where you are. Wordy about all the rest after your in the shelter. You will find the shelter very helpful.

The health insurance and all that is just another card in the controllers deck. He will threaten you with everything possible in order to control you. Don't worry about having missed out on a previous job opportunity... Controllers do not allow their victims to work. Life will only get much much better from here if you would only listen. Remember to Google how to identify a controller.

Meanwhike, get iff this site and get busy!! Good luck to you

Edited January 1, 2015 by Vagabond1

[chaves88 1]

Follow their advice. Leave and go to a shelter. I am also having bad experience with my husband but right now I am giving him a chance.. I will leave too if things come into a worse situation.

[Zergrush 2]

This is America, women here don't take abuse!!!!!! This is not a sharia law country!!!!!!

Very rude. You can say what you want to say without the need to insult other people's culture.

To OP: I hope you have already removed yourself from this violent situation and have sought help. Let us know how you are getting on. My thoughts are with you.

[NikLR 13,231]

NO MAN, should ever "lay a hand on a woman".,.,no matter what the reason.

I agree with this.

And no woman should ever lay a hand on a man. - no matter what the reason.

Neither should they scream and yell at each other.

People should talk about their problems, but if they're too angry, they should learn to back away until a calmer time.

[Jawaree 718]

OP love never hurts...why are you not calling the police, get your

stuff and go to a shelter, that's not a friend or partner...ppl lile

that ends up killing.... You have left hopefully

[chaves88 1]

You guys are right. That is exactly what I told to my husband when he asked me why I am silent. I told him the way I handle arguments is that i am silent when I am too upset and calm myself then talk when I am ready. But he is not, especially when he is stress or I did something wrong or misunderstood what he said or didn't do what he expected me to do. Everything! He will just scream, yell, say bad words and insulting words, and ended up sending me home. Guess what? He blames everything to me too. I have seen, meet and knew a lot of people who argue in a calm way, not even hearing insults, attempt or hurt physically the partner..that's why I don't understand why he is like that. Anyway, I am just saying..until now i am still trying to work out with him.

[sunshine2014 0]

Chaves88

I never heard from you... I wonder if you are okay...

No call message here too..