Complicated situation, please help!

[TimsDaisy 0]

By the way - the rules pertaining to border crossings with identification have changed in the past month. I am not positive how this affects Canadians, but I know Americans are now requried to show passports when traveling to Mexico or Canada when they want to return to the U.S.

This makes it pretty likely that your fiancee will have to show a document and possibly be stamped for entry at a border check point.

Check out the US State Dept website on those issues - travel.state.gov - to find out more details.

[misa 2]

Canadians flying to the U.S. need to have a passport. If they are driving, they don't until sometime this summer.

[JenT 0]

Unfortunately none she can depend on...

Alone? No family or friends?

Not that it's any consolation, but it's not her first pregnancy, so at least she knows what to expect in that regard. That being said, being pregnant AND having another young one to take care of with no help, plus the stress of the divorce and her wanting to be with you is going to be very draining.

Provide the support you can from afar, visit as often as you can, and try to be patient.

Jen

[AngelD 0]

I am a Canadian engaged to an American. I was able to cross over to visit in May of 2006 while I was VERY PREGNANT and had no issue. I was honest and said we were going to see the baby's father. I was asked if I knew that I need a K1/K3 visa to stay and told them "yes, we are going to apply for that soon". I did not bring anything with me to prove ties to Canada but did explain that I have a job here and 2 older children in school. I was simply going to the US to spend some quality time with my fiance before the baby was born. It was uncomfortable for a few seconds but I was honest and was let through.

I had a letter from my Midwife stating that I was okay to fly and had plenty of time until the birth. That part was wrong! My daughter was born in the US, at home (california home) 2 days before I was scheduled to fly back to Canada. I waited 12 extra days to fly back because we wanted to make sure our daughter would be fine (she was nearly a month early). Called the airline and explained and they changed my flight without charge (air canada was really nice). We got her birth certificate before I left (she is an american!!) And at that time did not need a passport.

There is ALWAYS a possibility you can get denied at the border for any reason. THere really is no way to speed up the process (do not go in illegally it will screw you for life-we thought about it).

The best thing is to plan a 3 month trip if she is due soon. Make sure you get the name of a Midwife there (or hospital) just to keep on track with her pregnancy -you just never know(we called one because I dropped very early and my fiance was worried) the midwife cost us $2500 and she was kind enough to see me 4 times before the birth to do blood work and exams at $30 a time. The cost of a hospital birth is ridiculous there (yeay Canadian health care-I will miss you!) of couse only go with a midwife if there are no complications that may require a hospital. Explain to the midwife that she is Canadian and visiting and you just want to make sure everything continues smoothly. If she is dead set against having the baby in Canada-where it's free--then plan to have her fly back a month before the due date--if not--yeay American Baby (which doesn't help the process-just one less head to pay for during the visa process) but you will also need to get the baby's passport for them to fly back to Canada to wait on the visa. While waiting, she and baby can fly back to see you provided she show strong ties to home. I am flying out next friday (yeay yeay yeay!) and have a letter from her daddy stating I have permission to fly.

Another thing I did when she was born in the States and since we are not married--I hyphenated her last name so there would be no issue of parentage. This way her last name and my last name are on the paperwork. Daddy doesn't like it-but when we are married I think I am going to hyphenate or we will just stop adding my last name at the end of her's.

Good luck and congrats on the new baby, new life and new journey!

I hope this helps

Angel

one more thing

check with the airlines to make sure what their policy is about pregnant women flying. THey are all different -some will let you fly 7 days before due date other say 30.