Aos interview in 2 days but no spouse avaliable

[giftason80 1]

Hi everyone,

i have been on my adjustment of status for over 8 months now, i went thru the up and down of it,but barely a month ago i received my interview notice and informed my spouse about it who happen to be out of own with her mom who is on chemotheraphy, so she said she will show up, so last night she said she might not be able to or she wont be able to that i shouldnt raise my hopes up, most devastating statement ever, so now am stuck with what to do.....anybody ever been in suitation like this? cuz am confused, i was even thinking on rescheduling but looking back that i started my journey in march 2014 and just getting interview notice in december this really suck...so plz beautiful people any idea??

[NancyNguyen 1,657]

It doesn't sound like you have a smooth marriage. It is really late to reschedule your appointment, no show will deem abandonment and you have to start from scratch. Sorry but your spouse is the key here.

[nesta37 3]

I'd reschedule - most important here is to support your spouse as she is going through a difficult time .

[NancyNguyen 1,657]

I'd reschedule - most important here is to support your spouse as she is going through a difficult time .

His reschedule request will not be there on time.

[SBanos0621 0]

Wow, Sorry to hear that. OKC is my local office too. When did you file?

[giftason80 1]

Wow, Sorry to hear that. OKC is my local office too. When did you file?

02/14

[giftason80 1]

So no one here has a better opinon bout this???...i really need that date i have been waiting for this ....

[NikeS 49]

Short of convincing your wife to fly in before your appointment tomorrow, the next best thing is to attend the interview alone and explain the family medical emergency that warranted your wife being out of town up till that very moment. Ask for a new appointment there and then, with a formal letter asking for the reschedule, have printed out documents of your wife's trip out of town if available - a copy of her train/ bus pass, plane ticket etc. If you have text messages stating her inability to make it on time (provided it doesn't paint the wrong picture of your marriage).

If your wife can write a letter tonight, sign and scan it to you so you can attach it then do so. If not then she can send an email stating her inability to make it.

Really it is a desperate move right now. So you have to give it your best shot. This is what I would do. I hope this helps.

Edited December 13, 2014 by NikeS

[SBanos0621 0]

So no one here has a better opinon bout this???...i really need that date i have been waiting for this ....

Not really much else you can do. I guess you could go alone and explain the situation. See if they could reschedule then. If you go that route you should probally take some sort of documentation or proof of your situation.

[giftason80 1]

Short of convincing your wife to fly in before your appointment tomorrow, the next best thing is to attend the interview alone and explain the family medical emergency that warranted your wife being out of town up till that very moment. Ask for a new appointment there and then, with a formal letter asking for the reschedule, have printed out documents of your wife's trip out of town if available - a copy of her train/ bus pass, plane ticket etc. If you have text messages stating her inability to make it on time (provided it doesn't paint the wrong picture of your marriage).

If your wife can write a letter tonight, sign and scan it to you so you can attach it then do so. If not then she can send an email stating her inability to make it.

Really it is a desperate move right now. So you have to give it your best shot. This is what I would do. I hope this helps.

yea well i already suggested the bus ticket thing too.so she said she was gonna send it, trust me idk if she has or not but am trying my best to get this thing over with, cuz she doesnt even understand tht its a life and death thing, shes insistin she cant leave her mum or so excuse whatsoever, i was even thinking of going with a lawyer but she was feedind me the reschedule craps......i think i would just just show up with adequate proof and see how is goes the interview is on wednesday..idk with her i still believe it can stil go right ve had people go alone.

[NikeS 49]

It is a marriage-based application so your spouse must be there. The only exceptions I know of are spouses of military personnel who are stationed abroad or for some official reason cannot attend the interview. Hopefully someone who did the interview alone and was approved will contribute soon.

[Leo7777 243]

Maybe she is trying to give you a hint.

[giftason80 1]

Maybe she is trying to give you a hint.

Hints on what?

[Teddy B 17,252]

Sounds like cold feet to me. Whether her Mom is sick or not, she's known about this interview date for over a month. Arrangements should have been made to postpone the interview or for her to be there if she really wanted to be.

[JohnR! 5,495]

There is nothing you can do at this point, other than to reschedule your interview. Before you read too much into it, remember that your wife is probably having a hard time caring for her mother.

Good luck!

Hi everyone,

i have been on my adjustment of status for over 8 months now, i went thru the up and down of it,but barely a month ago i received my interview notice and informed my spouse about it who happen to be out of own with her mom who is on chemotheraphy, so she said she will show up, so last night she said she might not be able to or she wont be able to that i shouldnt raise my hopes up, most devastating statement ever, so now am stuck with what to do.....anybody ever been in suitation like this? cuz am confused, i was even thinking on rescheduling but looking back that i started my journey in march 2014 and just getting interview notice in december this really suck...so plz beautiful people any idea??