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re: fear of heights - move to where the sea level is less than 5 feet.

re: your 'boss' - you can choose to decimate her or do the right things for her to write up a great performance review. choose which path you want to take, and go forth. it really is either/or, only 2 choices .

re: I dealt with the fear of heights...calmed down eventually :P

re: I don't want to decimate her. I think she needs help in learning how to lead/supervise. I just am not sure how to act ...do I just put my head down and send her every little thing for approval and apologize if i make a mistake ? I did that and she said

I need to toughen up and have more personality but then if i do have personality she does not like it. I feel like there is no way i can be to satisfy her. Last time she talked to me about "my performance" she ran away literally after talking to me without

hearing any feedback from me. She just got up and left to breathe it out.....feedback attack full on. uh....I guess put my head down and try to do the best I possibly can and hope for the best.

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Kill her with kindness.

ok. Hopefully it will work.

man... detox day 1 - no sugar, no coffee, no meat, no bread...water and smoothies and salad, 1/4 cup cashews and egg whites for snack. 7 more days to go.

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re: I dealt with the fear of heights...calmed down eventually :P

re: I don't want to decimate her. I think she needs help in learning how to lead/supervise. I just am not sure how to act ...do I just put my head down and send her every little thing for approval and apologize if i make a misItake ? I did that and she said

I need to toughen up and have more personality but then if i do have personality she does not like it. I feel like there is no way i can be to satisfy her. Last time she talked to me about "my performance" she ran away literally after talking to me without

hearing any feedback from me. She just got up and left to breathe it out.....feedback attack full on. uh....I guess put my head down and try to do the best I possibly can and hope for the best.

OMG , J. Decimate the ! You bent over backwards for your ex-hubby and look where that got you!! Don't make the same mistake.

Oh and if you get fed up with your job, you are welcome to join me and Steve at the Brooklyn pole dancing classes;)

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OMG , J. Decimate the ######! You bent over backwards for your ex-hubby and look where that got you!! Don't make the same mistake.

Oh and if you get fed up with your job, you are welcome to join me and Steve at the Brooklyn pole dancing classes;)

haha. The pole dancing would be a possibility only after a good amount of detox on my part and gym.

I cannot afford to decimate anyone - I need this job for at least 2 years with good references. If i was to say or do anything -nobody would ever believe me - I am new and as such would be perceived as the trouble maker no matter what.

I believe the idea here was to work as a team of 3 women - two being Assistant Directors and one being Associate but still on the same level but she is taking this as an opportunity to control and boss someone around and because she never

did this before (while I had) she finds it difficult to do and ends up not giving clear assignments or communicates in riddles to not have to give out a proper order and I on the other hand find it hard to not say "look, I am not an idiot - I have

done your job too, i have supervised someone before I know it is not easy let's just get along" which makes her even more angry (at which point she finds the balls to actually bark out orders but then they become petty because they are given

out of anger). It is a vicious circle. I will do the kindness thing and try my hardest to avoid errors.

GC received on the 28th of February, 2014 - no interview, no additional RFE's

Divorced as of September, 2014

NOA1 for ROC 14 October, 2014

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haha. The pole dancing would be a possibility only after a good amount of detox on my part and gym.

I cannot afford to decimate anyone - I need this job for at least 2 years with good references. If i was to say or do anything -nobody would ever believe me - I am new and as such would be perceived as the trouble maker no matter what.

I believe the idea here was to work as a team of 3 women - two being Assistant Directors and one being Associate but still on the same level but she is taking this as an opportunity to control and boss someone around and because she never

did this before (while I had) she finds it difficult to do and ends up not giving clear assignments or communicates in riddles to not have to give out a proper order and I on the other hand find it hard to not say "look, I am not an idiot - I have

done your job too, i have supervised someone before I know it is not easy let's just get along" which makes her even more angry (at which point she finds the balls to actually bark out orders but then they become petty because they are given

out of anger). It is a vicious circle. I will do the kindness thing and try my hardest to avoid errors.

So team up with the third member of the team. Hint to those higher up that this "boss" is spending company time doing her side business. Get tough.

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2- what??? Frenchy is inviting people to my place? When did I get a French concubine??

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So team up with the third member of the team. Hint to those higher up that this "boss" is spending company time doing her side business. Get tough.

Can't do....she was hired because the two of them are friends. And the other girl has been there for 8 years and was a first hire of the Director. There is absolutely no way I can be tough. They are not bad women they just don't want anyone else in their

tight group especially since they themselves fight for the attention of the Director. One of them is the dramatic kind aka she actually did not open her office one day for a good hour or two because she was upset over....wait for it....dropping a bagel. It seemed like someone died

and the other one ran to her with a hug and pat on the back because the bagel thing was clearly a big deal.....and they are not stupid either. This is a game I cannot win. What Steve said - kill her with kindness, be as good as she allows me to be at my job while making sure

she is not overshadowed...aka...she is the best, she knows everything and look for a place elsewhere possibly making sure that I won't be supervised by a newbie. For now....I am stuck and have to suck it up.

Either way....I will need to find a job that is a little closer to where I work...driving 2 hours a day to be put down and driven to the ground is not worth it but it has to wait for now.

GC received on the 28th of February, 2014 - no interview, no additional RFE's

Divorced as of September, 2014

NOA1 for ROC 14 October, 2014

Life goes on, my ex-husband is a moron.

 
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