Fraud? Wife cheated now wants divorce.

[Girl from Celebes 588]

If she just came here for a green card, she must be a very patient person who had waited years before ask for a divorce. Unlikely she will get slap by doing fraud. People got divorce any time and the immigration probably will overlooked the case.

[Cathi 5,748]

If i were u go to ur local immigration office and do a infopass on the website and cancel the AOS. Don't feel sorry for her or any regret. On the end you still lose no matter what. if the AOS has been cancelled she will return to the Philippines as far as i know.

what AOS? They are lifting conditions. Read the post

[dmck 80]

forget the fraud, take care of yourself. Either move out or change the locks, immediately. If, hopefully not, she claims a domestic violence you will have very serious problems. You are going to have a rough few months as you come to grips with your marriage. Don't do anything in haste, protect your heart and just work with her to separate as fast as possible. If she stays in the US, so what. Just keep yourself healthy.

[S_R 148]

"My Filipino wife has been in US for 3.5 years"...I was under the impression that lifting of conditions {I-751} is done within 2years? I never knew you could wait for 3.5years to lift conditions...

[I love San Diego 18]

I hate seeing these stories... everything thinks it won't happen to them. Terrible. I am sorry my friend.

[Ugly_American 11]

I'm much less concerned with having her deported than obtaining custody of our 2 year old. Today I spoke with an attorney who seemed to offer sound advice. As of a few days ago the plan was for me to move out and take up primary residence 2 hours away where my new job starts This week. Over the life of our sin it could be argued that i was the primary caregiver. The lawyer said that the custody mediators were inclined to keep the child in the status quo. Therefore moving out of our apartment is basically giving her a leg up. As a result i will forgo the job and move 45 mins away, living with my parents and maintaining a 50/50 custody while also searching for day care there. This way the status quo will be 50/50 and if the mediator leans one way or the other i likely have an advantage because my mother has been the most active child care for him outside daycare. I'll just have to find a job there but that was already a short term goal. It's been frustrating trying to locate a lawyer. I've only seen one but spoken with several.

[VOL 425]

If I was in your shoes, I wouldn't let her know anything and act as if all is good or normal. Book a trip for you and her back to Philippines and then confront her there, Hopefully her parents are alive and maybe her Dad or Uncle or Brother will do what needs to be done to her for her actions.

Good Luck

[Ugly_American 11]

I dont know what that means. I know they would all be ashamed. But can I trust her? Also i dont want to reward her with a trip there for bad behavior. I could skype them, but again I dont know how long this would last. She has no interest in me anymore. She's already dating another guy. I think i just need to move on although i really dread being a single parent.

[icv21 110]

I dont know what that means. I know they would all be ashamed. But can I trust her? Also i dont want to reward her with a trip there for bad behavior. I could skype them, but again I dont know how long this would last. She has no interest in me anymore. She's already dating another guy. I think i just need to move on although i really dread being a single parent.

Yes exactly whats the point of that. You just have to look for yourself and your kid, You will be a great single dad, you'll have your family to help you if you need something, you mentioned your mom already and just always choice the best for you and this kid eveyrthing else will fall in place if you do the right things.

You will also find someone when it's the moment and have a wonderful family again.

Work for now on the custody and for everything you wish for.

[Xanax 349]

Take care or your child and yourself first.

File for divorce, be amicable but not nice. Disengage your finances fairly and have limited contact with her- do not give her any leverage at all.