K1 Relationship Struggles

[slangofoil 50]

Agree with coniefl. A marriage that is less than a month old and falling apart is not worth any effort of trying to get the unwilling partner into counseling. Save yourself the grief, follow the practical advice on here, and move on. Maybe get counseling just for yourself since you said you came out of a bad relationship before this one. Everyone deserves a happy, fulfilling relationship - you just need to learn how to find the right person, and how to make a real partnership last. Good luck. I hope you find happiness.

[RC40 6]

Ok, so I talked to her more and I believe the fraud part was a misunderstanding, so if I could I would change the title of this topic if I could. The one person was certainly right when he said Filipinas can sometimes say the complete opposite of what they mean. I certainly felt scared and unsure what to do when I made this thread. I'm sure that fear and past pains have also driven so many to reply. I don't wish to put any of our other private details on here. I kind of regret making the thread, but my initial fear was valid. I've gotten some good advice from the replies, so I hope it helps someone else in a similar situation. I do not wish anything bad to happen to her. I still love her. I will take my comments offline now.

[icv21 110]

Ok, so I talked to her more and I believe the fraud part was a misunderstanding, so if I could I would change the title of this topic if I could. The one person was certainly right when he said Filipinas can sometimes say the complete opposite of what they mean. I certainly felt scared and unsure what to do when I made this thread. I'm sure that fear and past pains have also driven so many to reply. I don't wish to put any of our other private details on here. I kind of regret making the thread, but my initial fear was valid. I've gotten some good advice from the replies, so I hope it helps someone else in a similar situation. I do not wish anything bad to happen to her. I still love her. I will take my comments offline now.

So it was also a misunderstanding she threatened you about calling police if you didn't file for AOS?? That she was searching information by herself??? That she left the house??? That she has been recording you without you knowing???

I wish you good luck with your decision.... I'm assuming you 2 had a talk the past 24 hours and decided to do AOS.

I feel I have the obligation of saying to be careful and once you sign the affidavit of support and send the documents you will be in contract for 10 years even if you two get divorce later... or until she becomes a citizen... From the outside what happened looks very sneaky and seems she realized and wants her green card now, and sure you love her but make sure she feels the same way for you and is not using you.....

Good luck

Edited December 1, 2014 by IRIScv

[Darnell 8,478]

Ok, so I talked to her more and I believe the fraud part was a misunderstanding, so if I could I would change the title of this topic if I could. The one person was certainly right when he said Filipinas can sometimes say the complete opposite of what they mean. I certainly felt scared and unsure what to do when I made this thread. I'm sure that fear and past pains have also driven so many to reply. I don't wish to put any of our other private details on here. I kind of regret making the thread, but my initial fear was valid. I've gotten some good advice from the replies, so I hope it helps someone else in a similar situation. I do not wish anything bad to happen to her. I still love her. I will take my comments offline now.

Brother - something is weird - with her packing the bags and moving out - that's not tampo, at all.

[dwheels76 5,468]

Ok, so I talked to her more and I believe the fraud part was a misunderstanding, so if I could I would change the title of this topic if I could. The one person was certainly right when he said Filipinas can sometimes say the complete opposite of what they mean. I certainly felt scared and unsure what to do when I made this thread. I'm sure that fear and past pains have also driven so many to reply. I don't wish to put any of our other private details on here. I kind of regret making the thread, but my initial fear was valid. I've gotten some good advice from the replies, so I hope it helps someone else in a similar situation. I do not wish anything bad to happen to her. I still love her. I will take my comments offline now.

You can always ask the admins to delete the threads. If you feel it would be a service for others you can request it be re-title. Just click the report button for either action.

I hope you really thought this through. I don't see how moving out threatening you with police is a misunderstanding. She sounds like she has been coached very well. Please be very wise and careful..

[Boiler 45,516]

Another train wreck.

Perhaps they need their own forum.

[Jon and Krissy 452]

OP: the laughing and calling the police stuff is not a misunderstanding. I mean, come on. I was the one who though this might be a case of 'the opposites' as I posted upthread, but the new information you provided makes it very, very clear her intentions are not good.

I feel for you, I really do, but please do not compound/prolong your pain by staying with this woman. I'd bet my eyeteeth that you'll come to regret it.

Edited December 2, 2014 by Jon and Sol

[Ryan H 3,812]

***On the basis of the comments made by the OP in post #52; this thread is now closed to additional discussion. The OP can request to have it unlocked if they desire.***