Why'd You Import a Foreign Husband?

[SAT 9,609]

[Tina and Johan 206]

I imported my foreign husband because I had a better career, family nearby, and a stable home. Plus a teenage daughter who maybe wouldn't have adjusted well to moving to Ireland in the middle of high school. Whereas, he didn't have any family nearby, as they're all in South Africa, his job was less paying, and he lived in an apartment. His 10 year old son seemed to be at a more resilient age for an international move. Plus, his accent makes me melt.

[js2015 2]

I never thought I would bring over someone foreign and I wasn't even looking for anyone to date at the time. It just happened! And he's a really sweet and smart guy, but I did dream of being with a Hispanic at one time and now I got one! Te amo, Jesús

He's totally worth it even though tons of money and time are invested into this process, I want my sweetheart :'( he's a rare gem, I love him tons. His English is superb and communicating with him is fantastic. He gets my jokes and he's funny too.

[rlogan 2,036]

Well, for me, it was all about the traditional values. I'd go on dates with or meet American men and it was all about "what are you going to do for a career?" or "I can't really see having kids until my 30s, it will totally cramp my man child style" or "I'm really particular about what I wear and the interior design of my house."

So, I met my foreign husband and it was perfect. He wanted to know how he could best provide for me while I stayed home and raised our children. He didn't want to help me with the cleaning or cooking and that was certainly perfect. Couldn't ask for anything more.

Plus, he is built like an ox. Seriously.

Politically correct feminist posturing in America is to denigrate traditional values with malicious terms and most especially the sneering derision about women who want to be wives and home makers. No choice is better than any other in a free country, I just hate to see how nasty feminist-correct propaganda is with their hypocritical mocking of traditional values. So you want to have a career and pursue your own interests until 40? No problem. Just don't be nasty about women who choose otherwise, and pretend there is something wrong with them.

The way they do it is attack the man and say "you just want a submissive maid". It is the person uttering that phrase that is trying to dehumanize wives/home-makers/mothers, not the husband. A guy like me thanks his lucky stars every morning, noon, and night that he has his babe back in the cabin in case a half ton log crushes him today out in the woods. Nobody can even find me if I get hurt besides my wife. This lifestyle is impossible without traditional values. So for us it not only works but is imperative and whose business is it but ours? It is an hour each way to town so she bakes cookies instead of zipping out to buy them in a car. We have more than a hundred pounds of rice and flour each, a quarter ton of various meats. Etc. We don't go anywhere except as a family for months at a time.

Occasionally I start to clean a dish or put something away and my wife chases me away. What are you doing?! I suppose if she went out and started welding stuff in the shop I'd chase her off too. So I understand where you are coming from. It stands to reason that with traditional values held in such contempt for the women that conversely the men aren't going to show much either. Both my wife and I were so thrilled when we met each other, and it came down to traditional values, namely we have two kids we are raising, homeschooling, the husband working the subsistence/homesteader lifestyle.

Edited December 30, 2014 by rlogan

[NikLR 13,227]

Part of finding the right relationship is making sure you have the same relationship goals. Too many marriages fail because people are just too incompatible in real life, whether it is duties at home or work, finances, or intimacy. You need to learn to collaborate to succeed.

[marriedimorocco 8]

I wanted a young buck with a sexy accent. I got one