"Mail order brides" GRRRRR

[doodlebug 3]

Hey Doodlebug...where did ya get the popcorn eating icon...I was looking for that..LOL

Weee, party in the UK forum

click on "show all" where the smileys live and scroll down to almost the bottom.

[garya505 2]

What about "mail order husbands"? I feel left out!

As the Lady said; she spoke without thinking....which i suspected that she did. Give her a chance.

My fiancee is from the Phils and I was offended until she said that she spoke out of frustration.

This process has tested us all........live and let live.

Speaking without thinking gives a fair insight into the person's true beliefs and attitudes and I think she's expressed hers very clearly.

Exactly. She is certainly entitled to her opinion, even if it insults people.

[garyandkris 0]

What about "mail order husbands"? I feel left out!

I've started calling my husband my 'mail order bride' now that he's immigrating to the States. It's in retaliation for all the times he called me his 'mail order bride' while I was going through the UK visa process years ago. Besides, he looks quite good in a dress.

[garya505 2]

I sent this guy 10000 bucks and I got this woman in the mail, but I was pissed-off because I thought it included the shipping and that was another 537 bucks!

(next time I'll specify a smaller woman so the shipping is cheaper)

[Savanphil 3]

I sent this guy 10000 bucks and I got this woman in the mail, but I was pissed-off because I thought it included the shipping and that was another 537 bucks!

(next time I'll specify a smaller woman so the shipping is cheaper)

You guys are silly :lol:

[midicat 0]

I sent this guy 10000 bucks and I got this woman in the mail, but I was pissed-off because I thought it included the shipping and that was another 537 bucks!

(next time I'll specify a smaller woman so the shipping is cheaper)

I'm not really sure what to think about this post. I suppose all I have to say really is just because someone found the person they are going to marry through a dating site, it doesn't mean they don't love them. We are all human beings, it doesn't matter what country we come from, we all have to wait through this horrid visa process.

[garya505 2]

I sent this guy 10000 bucks and I got this woman in the mail, but I was pissed-off because I thought it included the shipping and that was another 537 bucks!

(next time I'll specify a smaller woman so the shipping is cheaper)

I'm not really sure what to think about this post. I suppose all I have to say really is just because someone found the person they are going to marry through a dating site, it doesn't mean they don't love them. We are all human beings, it doesn't matter what country we come from, we all have to wait through this horrid visa process.

I hope you really didn't miss my joke.

Amyone who goes through this process knows how sad and pathetic its is when people refer to our loved one as a "mail order bride". I used to get mad at people who did that, now I just laugh at them because they're so fracking stoopid.

[TimsDaisy 0]

her beef wasn't with residents of specific countries, it was with the providers of services aimed at matchmaking for the sake of marrying off women to men who want wives. not men who want this particular wife because they love, adore, respect, whatever, the woman as an individual. they just want A wife.

of course, there's a fine line of distinction between a marriage broker and an online dating service, or a matchmaking system meant to unite two people with similar interests in values who haven't yet found each other.

i think the interplay between economic philosophies, moral judgment, and public policy make this process fascinating. (of course, i'd like it as a scholarly pursuit more than something affecting, like, my life here, but whatever). think about it: when it comes to evidence, all the lovey-dovey sentiment in the world doesn't hold a candle to a boarding pass and a bank account. how "legitimate relationship" is that?

marriage - civil marriage - in this country is a contract. we don't have a national religion to sanctify it beyond that - it's just whatever the couple holds in their hearts as they stand in a church or city hall or a park or wherever.

i don't find the original question here to be outrageously offensive or that off-base. but we're a community of the raw-nerved.

i do hate to see people shamed into recanting an honest venting, though.

[TracyTN 237]

I think we've all had a vent or two about this process at some point in time.

Learning which ones are good for sharing with others, though, seems to be the finer point.

[Ban Hammer 13,484]

Ok, I didn't know where to put this, but I'm guessing you all might not yell at me I am really irked that all these men who want wives and go on dating sites and find women from Russia and Phillipines etc are clogging the visa process up and those of us who ACTUALLY love the person we are with have to wait even longer!!! I looked on one of those stupid sites and here's a paragraph I found on the first page:

The Russian woman's attitude about herself is feminine. She expects to be treated as a lady, she is the weaker gender and knows it. The Russian woman has not been exposed to the world of rampant feminism that asserts its rights in America.

#######!!! If you believe that then move to Russia, dont bring her here! No offense to those who have met a SO from one of those countries and have a relationship. I just wish there was a seperate process for those who went out looking for a wife so we could get our fiance's here faster. Granted we have it easier than some other countries since our fiance speaks english and the flight is a lot cheaper so I shouldnt complain too much, but :-P Ok, thanks for letting me rant Hope we all get our visa's SUPER FAST!

just a wee bit judgemental, ain't you? and you just joined over two weeks ago and you want your visa now!

[Ban Hammer 13,484]

I sent this guy 10000 bucks and I got this woman in the mail, but I was pissed-off because I thought it included the shipping and that was another 537 bucks!

(next time I'll specify a smaller woman so the shipping is cheaper)

and batteries not included either

[DelcoCouple 1]

Ahhhhhhhhhh todays lesson on first ammendment rights RA

[payxibka 10,047]

I think we've all had a vent or two about this process at some point in time.

Learning which ones are good for sharing with others, though, seems to be the finer point.

A voice of reason.... STOP IT TRACY, STOP IT!!!!

[mamalovesdada 0]

yeah, i was kinda sad when i read her post...

[mRx 16]

her beef wasn't with residents of specific countries, it was with the providers of services aimed at matchmaking for the sake of marrying off women to men who want wives.

Nope, thats incorrect, actually according to her first paragragh, her beef was with men marrying women from the philipines and russia, and how it is affecting her precious lover from obtaining a visa in a swift manner.

i do hate to see people shamed into recanting an honest venting, though.

Well when an "honest venting" is a blatant insult, the OP should have been prepared for the replies. Or did she just assume everyone on this forum was as selfish and cold as her?