"Mail order brides" GRRRRR

[ariana623 0]

Ok, I didn't know where to put this, but I'm guessing you all might not yell at me I am really irked that all these men who want wives and go on dating sites and find women from Russia and Phillipines etc are clogging the visa process up and those of us who ACTUALLY love the person we are with have to wait even longer!!! I looked on one of those stupid sites and here's a paragraph I found on the first page:

The Russian woman's attitude about herself is feminine. She expects to be treated as a lady, she is the weaker gender and knows it. The Russian woman has not been exposed to the world of rampant feminism that asserts its rights in America.

#######!!! If you believe that then move to Russia, dont bring her here! No offense to those who have met a SO from one of those countries and have a relationship. I just wish there was a seperate process for those who went out looking for a wife so we could get our fiance's here faster. Granted we have it easier than some other countries since our fiance speaks english and the flight is a lot cheaper so I shouldnt complain too much, but :-P Ok, thanks for letting me rant Hope we all get our visa's SUPER FAST!

[TracyTN 237]

I don't think you're going to get much support here for such ideas. True that 'mail order bride' cases may take a bit longer to adjudicate (more checks to do, etc), but the USCs still have the right to petition for the bride. If it is a sham relationship, then you've got to trust that the system will catch it.

I know of many couples here on VJ - both US/Filipina and US/Russia - that met both the traditional way, and the way you describe. Who are we to say who is and isn't in love?

Personally, I'm thankful that our system scrutinizes ALL of us. The immigration system in the UK, if you can call it that, is eventually going to strangle that country's infrastructure.

[edsperfect 25]

Ok, I didn't know where to put this, but I'm guessing you all might not yell at me I am really irked that all these men who want wives and go on dating sites and find women from Russia and Phillipines etc are clogging the visa process up and those of us who ACTUALLY love the person we are with have to wait even longer!!! I looked on one of those stupid sites and here's a paragraph I found on the first page:

The Russian woman's attitude about herself is feminine. She expects to be treated as a lady, she is the weaker gender and knows it. The Russian woman has not been exposed to the world of rampant feminism that asserts its rights in America.

#######!!! If you believe that then move to Russia, dont bring her here! No offense to those who have met a SO from one of those countries and have a relationship. I just wish there was a seperate process for those who went out looking for a wife so we could get our fiance's here faster. Granted we have it easier than some other countries since our fiance speaks english and the flight is a lot cheaper so I shouldnt complain too much, but :-P Ok, thanks for letting me rant Hope we all get our visa's SUPER FAST!

It must be wonderrful to know you are always right and perfect and not have any prejudices or bias or make generalizations.

This country is for all of us not just you. Grow up!

[mRx 16]

This fire has been started many times.

1) just because someone is petitioning for a fiancee in Russia/Phillipines ect. doesnt make that person a mail order bride. Many people will take offense to that.

2) how do you know what feelings one person has to another? You are not the governing power that decides what love is legit, and what love is not.

3) If you want to complain about mail order brides, why not complain about how some of these poor women are married into abusive and manipulative marriages, and have no way out? Instead of being so selfish and inconsiderate by only thinking about yourself and how it slows down the visa process for you.

So heres to your rant...

[Candace 2]

Ok, I didn't know where to put this, but I'm guessing you all might not yell at me I am really irked that all these men who want wives and go on dating sites and find women from Russia and Phillipines etc are clogging the visa process up and those of us who ACTUALLY love the person we are with have to wait even longer!!! I looked on one of those stupid sites and here's a paragraph I found on the first page:

The Russian woman's attitude about herself is feminine. She expects to be treated as a lady, she is the weaker gender and knows it. The Russian woman has not been exposed to the world of rampant feminism that asserts its rights in America.

#######!!! If you believe that then move to Russia, dont bring her here! No offense to those who have met a SO from one of those countries and have a relationship. I just wish there was a seperate process for those who went out looking for a wife so we could get our fiance's here faster. Granted we have it easier than some other countries since our fiance speaks english and the flight is a lot cheaper so I shouldnt complain too much, but :-P Ok, thanks for letting me rant Hope we all get our visa's SUPER FAST!

Who are you to suggest that people with partners from non-western countries are not in love with them?

You think there should be a 'separate process' for people who didn't 'go looking' for a wife?? Did your partner fall into your lap from the heavens? Looking down the pub as opposed to on the Internet doesn't make you a better person, you know.

Edited January 30, 2007 by Candace

[Tim and Bethanie 1]

Ok, I didn't know where to put this, but I'm guessing you all might not yell at me I am really irked that all these men who want wives and go on dating sites and find women from Russia and Phillipines etc are clogging the visa process up and those of us who ACTUALLY love the person we are with have to wait even longer!!! I looked on one of those stupid sites and here's a paragraph I found on the first page:

The Russian woman's attitude about herself is feminine. She expects to be treated as a lady, she is the weaker gender and knows it. The Russian woman has not been exposed to the world of rampant feminism that asserts its rights in America.

#######!!! If you believe that then move to Russia, dont bring her here! No offense to those who have met a SO from one of those countries and have a relationship. I just wish there was a seperate process for those who went out looking for a wife so we could get our fiance's here faster. Granted we have it easier than some other countries since our fiance speaks english and the flight is a lot cheaper so I shouldnt complain too much, but :-P Ok, thanks for letting me rant Hope we all get our visa's SUPER FAST!

IMBRA

[payxibka 10,045]

If it were not for all the petitioners from the UK clogging up the system we could get our "loved" ones here faster... the shoe fits on both feet....

Edited January 30, 2007 by fwaguy

[pjc1973 0]

If it were not for all the petitioners from the UK clogging up the system we could get our "loved" ones here faster... the shoe fits on both feet....

Easy tiger, two wrongs don't make a right.

By all means object, but for the right reasons.

[payxibka 10,045]

If it were not for all the petitioners from the UK clogging up the system we could get our "loved" ones here faster... the shoe fits on both feet....

Easy tiger, two wrongs don't make a right.

By all means object, but for the right reasons.

Obviously you missed the sarcasm....

[fozzie 41]

How come there are so many responses in the UK forum from people who are not from the UK?

[Jenn! 918]

How come there are so many responses in the UK forum from people who are not from the UK?

Because any member can post in any forum they want to regardless of what country they're going through.

For better or worse

[*julez* 124]

How come there are so many responses in the UK forum from people who are not from the UK?

Cos we're an equal opportunity forum.

[ariana623 0]

Ok sorry all, I was just really irked last night after reading one of those posts that was questionable. I most definitly think everyone should have the chance for love regardless of where your from! Doesnt matter where you find it everyone should be happy. I just irked about people doing it for a visa and lost my cool, sorry all!!! I really need to think before I write stuff...

[UmmSqueakster 54]

Weee, party in the UK forum

[heishe 2]

Oh man, I saw this this morning and was hoping it would scroll down off the front page before anyone else noticed. Not a good topic, Ariana! Offended visitors please move right along, nothing to see here! She didn't mean it!