Marriage Breakdown!

[liam4lisa 0]

Hello All,

I have been through the process and got approved for a (AOS), i have been living in the US just over a year now. Unfortunatly the marriage has not worked out and i am left wondering as a Tempory Resident what my options are. I know have a Job here, a drivers licence and ideally would rarther stay here than go back home. My question is ! what are my options if my wife and i were to seperate and possible divorce? I don't want to stay here and set up home again! if i will eventually have to leave anyway. Any constructive advice would be greatly appreciated, i am at a loss as to what corner to turn now.

Thanks

Edited January 28, 2007 by liam4lisa

[MissStacey 1]

Personally, I think you guys should take more time and try to work on your Marriage, go to Councelling. Honour your commitment and try to work it out. It is a Marriage, you will have great times and you will have horrible times together. When I meet people who seem so happily married and have been together many many years, I always ask them about it. Many of them say there have been times they thought about Divorce, but they did get throught it and are better for it.

Edited January 28, 2007 by Stacey33

[Fandango 1,439]

Hi Liam,

sorry to hear of your troubles it always sucks when things don't work out as planned. I don't know the answer to your question, but I wanted to direct you here to the designated forum where all these types of questions have been asked & answered. Hopefully you can find the answers you're looking for.

I wish you well!

[arwensun1965 0]

Hello Liam

I'm sorry for all that has happened, I know you went through it a bit just to get to America to be with Lisa, is there no chance of you two working it all out?? I am not quite sure what your options are but whatever you decide I wish you every happiness.

Janice

[babybunny 2]

you have an approved AOS. you can stay because, you entered in the marriage in good faith you did not try to avoid immigration rules. I know you went though hell liam to be with lisa. I rember your story. I wish you would work on your marriage. I know its insane comming from me. but, like i said I knew what you been through. we all know the 1st year of marriage is hellish.

[Moonie 0]

That is sad.. I hope you can work it out.

[pj1959us 0]

Liam,

I'm sorry to hear you are having problems. I, along with others, hope that you wait a while before heading in a definite direction. In looking at your timeline you are about at the same time as we were when things weren't too pretty between us. David was in the midst of certain stages of immigration and it is difficult. Had I owned an iron skillet, all you would have seen is the handle sticking out of David's head. It's hard enough to adjust to each other in a marriage but throw in an immigration and it is a recipe for some...ummmm...interesting times! Everyone's timeline for adjusting is different. We aren't even the same couple any more and had we thrown in the towel back then, I know I would have regretted it. Our marriage is stronger than I ever dreamed and it just gets better every day. Of course, I don't know what your issues are, and it's none of my business...but sometimes the adjustment process can affect both of you in ways that can't even be imagined.

Since you have a conditional GC, if your marriage ends in divorce you should still be able to submit the I-751 on your own once a divorce is final. You will need to be mindful of when the I-751 is due and review what actions need to be taken, and when.

Hang in there and best wishes to you,

PJ

[Cassie 8]

after all that happened in getting you here, I am sad to hear that things aren't working out right now. I really do hope that you and Lisa can reconcile (if possible). Best wishes as you work through all of this.

[liam4lisa 0]

Thank you all for your words of support! Lisa and i have decided to keep working on our marriage, i think that a new marriage is most probably hard on any couple, and then throw in Immigration and adapting to new life, new culture, we just need to be more patient and see this through. Please don't be discouraged if you are new to here, moving here and marrying my soul mate is the best thing i could of ever done, but just be prepared i guess for some hard times.

Take care all

Liam & Lisa

[Alex+R 0]

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Edited January 30, 2007 by Alex+R

[de_sjiem 0]

Good for you! I wish you the best in this and everything else!

[Nikita2Charles 32]

HI Liam and Lisa

I used to read your thread, all the hurddles you guys had to face to finally get together. It's a tough adjusment whether it's the man or the woman moving to a new place. There was a thread by MichelleandCraig, the lonelyness feeling and the problem they went through. The main thing now you are a couple, specially if you are use to be totally independent, but now have to consult each other on decision making, now you are a team, you watch for Lisa and she watches out for you. At times we may not even understand why the other person do something that make us upset, but once you sit down and then you understand what's the underlying message your partner is trying to pass. Both of you can go for counseling if that's an option, I am sure both of you will manage and a few years later both of you will laugh how silly those moments were. Life is precious and priceless.

We'll keep you in our prayer

[isleta521 5]

Glad you are both going to work at it - Your right, it is not easy. Something you have to work at every day - and then some. But its worth it.

[broma25 2]

Glad to hear that you are going to keep working on your marriage. Its hard enough being married but as you say throw into the mix immigration, adjustment to a new country etc and things get a bit out of hand sometimes.

Good Luck

[Kez/JWolf 6]

Good to hear you are working at your marriage.... We are almost at our 2nd anniversary and yes I am still glad I am here and that I am married to my husband.... has it been easy??? Hell no... have there been times when I wanted to just go home to where I knew how everything worked??? hell Yes.... Have there been times when I have wondered if it would be better to end the marriage... you bet..

BUT we are working at it and yes it is better this year than last... and I hope it continues to get better...

Keep going it is worth it..

Kez