Marriage great/wife wonderful/both of us are very happy/how about some good news for a change

[msbau764 245]

Thanks for sharing your story, the thing about VJ is that the happy marriages that work out vanish into the ether because we don't need to post about them so it is only the sad stories where people need advice that we read. So sometimes it's easy to be cynical on here, especially when you read the effects of major family changes forum.

I wish you and your wife every happiness for the future

A lot of people that post here barely know their SO. That in and of itself is not inherently wrong. Who hasn't fallen instantly in love with someone at first sight? Nevertheless it baffles me how one thinks they could be ready to marry someone after being with them one day, one week or even one month. I am sorry, if you propose to someone you have met through skype you are just asking to get scammed.

[rlogan 2,036]

You mean to tell me that you chose a woman based on a moral standard which is Catholic, and then married her and forced your religion on her? And now you continue to pray to a God you don't believe in for things that the bible says he won't grant anyway and use that as your proof he doesn't exist? Did you ever consider that maybe it's not God doing the bad things in the world, but us?

lol. Look up the word "nominally":

http://www.merriam-webster.com/thesaurus/nominally

in a very small quantity or degree

Synonyms negligibly, nominally, slightly

Related Words meagerly, scantily; barely, hardly, just, marginally, minimally, scarcely

Your vocabulary is apparently not only limited, but your reading comprehension too: because I explained in further detail that had she been more than "SLIGHTLY" Catholic, I would not have been interested in her. That SLIGHT Catholicism was strictly the last vestige of the Spanish forcing it upon the Filiipinos for several centuries.

FORCED my religion on her? Talk about hilarious. You just made that up without any basis whatsoever and in contradiction to what I actually said. She had not been to a church since she was a little girl - many, many years before I met her. Her mother FORCED her to go. Her father, like me, has no superstitions whatsoever.

No, the proof for the lack of God has little to do with his powerlessness. It is a science-based approach.

[TBoneTX 45,663]

Folks, let's keep this thread focused on individuals' positive stories. Compatibility can be sought through many paths -- religion or atheism, similarities or dissimilarities, many years' acquaintanceship or "struck by lightning," and so forth. Be happy for others and respect their stories, no matter how they ended up "bonding." Any off-topic or argumentative posts will be removed. Go ahead and post your own story if you haven't yet.

[raven52 233]

Elizabeth and John,

Nice to see great stories like yours of happy marriages, as this site is really about problem solving, It makes for pleasant reading.

I have to say my wife, Joy and I have a similar marriage, as we feel very lucky, to have this wonderful marriage, and I wass given so much help from this site, while going through the K-1 visa, at VSC. Very thankful for vj.com!

[indiana_sweetie 120]

We are doing good. We are now living on the north coast of California and loving the majestic nature in the area.

[Hotter Otter 1,211]

I moved to the US three months ago and I can honestly say it has been wonderful. Waking up next to my wife every morning and never having to do those awful airport goodbyes anymore is amazing. The journey to get a visa took us over 11 months and it was pretty hard on us but for the life that we have right now it was so worth it. There have been times when I've struggled to adjust to life in the US and felt homesick but my wife has been there for me every step of the way.

Of course we have our little arguments and disagreements, mostly joking ones over pronunciations and spelling, but I wouldn't change anything about our relationship for the world. It's lovely to read happy stories so please keep posting everyone

[Ketsuban 1,034]

These stories have been really nice to read. I was also noticing at least in the past week more and more scam stories appearing here and wondered if something was in the water over in the US.

I've known my husband for 11 years and to be honest I think back then I would have jumped at the chance of marrying him after only a month of knowing him. Sometimes you just know when someone is your partner in crime for life

[moemac59 192]

What a great post and so nice to see My husband and I were together for 5 years before we got married (coming up on 7 years together) and we saw each other every weekend. I was absolutely certain that I wanted to marry him. The process was long but well worth it and while things aren't perfect...we disagree over stupid day to day things but for the most part he is an amazing, funny, caring, wonderful man who spoils me rotten and I feel very blessed to have him as a life partner.

[Vanessa + Mario 4]

Thanks for sharing your story! It made my day!

We do hear a lot of sad stories on VJ. I'm glad that happy stories are shard as well. We need more of that!

My husband and I have been on one hell of a roller coaster ride for the past 10 years (due to outside factors). We are happy to finally be together. We were aware that this process would not be easy, but in the end, it is worth it.

So happy for you guys! God bless!

[Kay&Jay 44]

Weren't you just saying in another thread you were suspicious of him cheating?

Sorry - not trying to be a drama-llama, but that's strange.

This thread was refreshing. Thanks, JohnE.

Oh Cant give up on the love we built for so long.He is a great man,a great father I wouldn't ask for more, that's why I'm so jealous of him, Cause he is the king of my heart.

[Melow 4]

Good morning everyone,

I do not know about the rest of you but it gets depressing seeing all the posts where someone was "scammed" so the love of their life can get that prized green card, they got married and the love of their life magically changed into someone they do not know, the love of their life left them and is now talking about VAWA, they found out the love of their life really had a secret lover back in their home country and once they got the green card they were going to bring that lover to the US, blah, blah, blah. I guess I could go on but I think you get the picture. Marriage is something real that real people that really know each other and want to spend the rest of their life together till death do us part so help us God desire to make that commitment. Finding someone on a web site and talking on Skype will find you in the first stage of love...Romantic Love. Hey I fully understand she/he and you experience the emotions of joy and excitement. The novelty of a new love leads you to think about your partner day and night, imagining all the possibilities of how this person can fulfill your deepest desires. You want to spend every moment of every day with your new partner in the bliss of newly discovered love. At this point (and I am sure each and everyone of you have heard) if it is too good to be true it usually is...but what a great feeling. You have to think about realistic and mature love and how the love of your life coming to the US will be thrown not only into a marriage but a complete different world from their home country.

okay I guess I will get off my soap box but I pray that everyone will step back and let common sense drive their decisions and not let emotions take control.

Elizabeth (my beautiful and wonderful wife) came from Mexico to work in the US on a TN visa. She is an accountant and we met while my company provided accounting consulting services for her company. There was zero conflict of interest when I asked her out to eat after we had known of each other almost a year. That night we sat and talked for over two hours and yes I was hooked (romantic love!). We dated for almost 6 years before I popped the question. Mind you we did not live together and simply dated. September 14th of 2013 we said I Do. I will be the first to say the whole visa process was very hard. Since we applied for a K1 visa she had to give up her TN visa and go back to Mexico City. The great news is she also had a tourist visa so was able to travel from Mexico to the US a number of times while we waited on USCIS as I also traveled from Atlanta to Mexico City a number of times. We made it through those times which made our relationship stronger. Our faith in God has been the foundation of our marriage. We have not waited for times to get bad (too late sometimes) before we try marriage counseling as we are doing that when the times are great. Our church offers a number of marriage seminars and counseling services which we have used. Those services have helped with the day to day life of being married and life itself. We do not have the perfect marriage but we are making every effort to keep our commitment to God until death do us part. Have we had a major disagreement picking out a color of paint when I painted the kitchen??? oh yes! But folks that is everyday life and what a joy it is to share it with your wife. I wanted to share some good news for a change and we will keep each and everyone of you in our prayers.

May God richly bless and keep you.

Elizabeth and John

John,

May god always bless you, your wife and your marriage. I am on the k1 visa side but often look at other forums to see the reality of the situation. I think that your faith in god and your positive attitude has gotten you this far. I hope that you have a beautiful life together-because it is a journey and yours looks like there will be a happy ending-unfortunate for others. I think it is the most difficult thing to have a long distance relationship-to know if it's real but you have to believe in something right? And more importantly we all have this "gut feeling" in our hearts. I met my fiancé in feb 2013-he is actually the nephew of my aunt (we aren't related). I went to the Philippines when my dad had a stroke and eventually passed away and he was there. We were both married to other people at the time but in bad marriages. We got to know each other over a period of a few months and he is the best thing that ever came into my life. Sure we are not perfect and we argue but we know deep down in our hearts that we love each other and if we can get through this journey together, we can make it through almost anything that life throws our way. I cannot wait to be with him (although the time apart is liking me slowly), but I believe in my heart that everything happens for a reason and everything happens in it's own time. With that being said it is with my deepest sincerity that I wish you the best of luck in your marriage and your lives together. God bless you both!

[slangofoil 50]

It's nice to hear of happy endings! Though, I admit, part of why I come back to VJ sometimes is to read the horror stories - like a train wreck you can't look away from. Maybe I'm not right in the head...

Anyway, my husband has been here for 4 years and we're waiting on his citizenship now. We have a 1-year-old daughter and despite the struggles of becoming parents, this last year has been THE BEST in our marriage. He has blossomed into an amazing father and it is beautiful to watch them together. We were together 5 years before marrying - about half long distance, half together. We had some struggles in the first year or so after he moved over, but those are way behind us now. I love our life together.