K1 September 2014 Filers (TSC)

[Dana-Kristen 20]

We still have 3 working days and really hope you and all of us get approval this week. Fingers crossed.

Thanks! Hoping the same for all of us, too. I can't see it happening for me. I already feel like the rare worst-case scenario. If we hadn't planned a wedding for October I'd be a lot less nervous. I've got a timeline. Our fault, I realize this now. It seemed like a safe choice at the time. Sigh..

[Dana-Kristen 20]

We were there a couple of months back. We watched more or less our entire month being approved, with our filing date being the 2nd, and we just sat, going nuts, with no idea why. And we'll never know what happened.

I should probably declare myself a walking miracle, considering the number of nights of escaping strangulation by my cell phone cable and avoiding electric shock considering all the tears that probably ran into the charging device. We won't even talk about the pillow cases, good for nothing more than the trash now, having been stained beyond help with a blend of mascara, snot n tears.

We survived. I won't say unscathed, but we did live to tell our tale. Of course whether anyone would believe it is another matter, entirely!

I mis-read that as "My life is being used to level someone's wobbly desk." Well yeah, that too.

How many days were you approved in? When I was at 209 days I thought, "Bah, 220 seems crazy, it's coming!" Here I am at 225.

Thanks for the encouraging words, though.

And haha, yes - using my life to level someone's wobbly desk seems pretty legit too!

[Mewbear 20]

I don't have the "energy" to post anymore, but I keep watching this forum and I'm supportive to all of you. Rich finally snapped last night and it was the most heartbreaking thing. He is ready to call on Monday and rage till we get answers. He always has been so positive and helpful, I feel incredibly guilty that I put him in that position. He keeps repeating that he loves me and he would do it a thousand time if necessary, but I just can't shake that feeling that he wouldn't have to go through all of this if he wasn't with a foreigner.

We will get through it, and it will make us closer than ever, but I don't think we'll ever forget how strenuous this process is. Keep swimmin' guys.

[Dana-Kristen 20]

I don't have the "energy" to post anymore, but I keep watching this forum and I'm supportive to all of you. Rich finally snapped last night and it was the most heartbreaking thing. He is ready to call on Monday and rage till we get answers. He always has been so positive and helpful, I feel incredibly guilty that I put him in that position. He keeps repeating that he loves me and he would do it a thousand time if necessary, but I just can't shake that feeling that he wouldn't have to go through all of this if he wasn't with a foreigner.

We will get through it, and it will make us closer than ever, but I don't think we'll ever forget how strenuous this process is. Keep swimmin' guys.

"but I just can't shake that feeling that he wouldn't have to go through all of this if he wasn't with a foreigner."

I can't tell you how much this resonates with me. However, they could say the same for us. And, I'm sure every man in here could reassure us that they ~wouldn't do it for someone they weren't completely and absolutely in love with. So, there's that. But I hear you. I've been trying to think of a way to distract myself from constantly checking (now I deleted my app, so that's good), thinking about it and, most of all, worrying about it. I'm going to try super hard to enjoy what "little" time I have left here in Canada and spend more time with friends/family and less time in my room with Netflix checking my USCIS app in a fit of desperation and depression.

I feel like I have turned into the worst kind of human.

[Mewbear 20]

I've been trying to think of a way to distract myself from constantly checking (now I deleted my app, so that's good), thinking about it and, most of all, worrying about it. I'm going to try super hard to enjoy what "little" time I have left here in Canada and spend more time with friends/family and less time in my room with Netflix checking my USCIS app in a fit of desperation and depression.

I feel like I have turned into the worst kind of human.

Yup. My family has shown an incredible support, even though I try to avoid the subject as much as possible (I start crying anytime anywhere woot woot! ). The whole Netflix/USCIS thing.. I realised last week that my life revolved around tv show marathon, constantly checking the app and over working out till my body gave up yesterday (I don't know if you ever have pulled a muscle in your butt it hurts like a mothertrotter!).

I feel like USCIS has taken our lives in hostage.. and also my liver, cause beer and wine became my bestfriends

[AirConditioner515 15]

"but I just can't shake that feeling that he wouldn't have to go through all of this if he wasn't with a foreigner."

I can't tell you how much this resonates with me. However, they could say the same for us. And, I'm sure every man in here could reassure us that they ~wouldn't do it for someone they weren't completely and absolutely in love with. So, there's that. But I hear you. I've been trying to think of a way to distract myself from constantly checking (now I deleted my app, so that's good), thinking about it and, most of all, worrying about it. I'm going to try super hard to enjoy what "little" time I have left here in Canada and spend more time with friends/family and less time in my room with Netflix checking my USCIS app in a fit of desperation and depression.

I feel like I have turned into the worst kind of human.

I agree with this. I'm the petitioner and although there are times when I rage about this whole process, I can't help but to think how much worse it is for my fiancée (beneficiary). Her whole life has been basically put on hold for X amount of time. In the meantime, I can continue with my life/career waiting for her to come over. While she has to stop everything, change her plans, and count the days till her life can "continue" again.

I've been fortunate and blessed in that she hasn't really shown any anger/frustration about this whole long process so far. Granted, it's only been about 3 months since I got my NOA1. I can only imagine what the Sept/Oct petitioners are going through.

It's really unfortunate, unfair, ridiculous with the processing times of CSC vs TSC.

I'm happy that the CSC don't have to go through this miserable process like we do. But sometimes I think to myself, for CSC petitioners this is just a brief process. For TSC petitioners, this is a journey.

[Mewbear 20]

I agree with this. I'm the petitioner and although there are times when I rage about this whole process, I can't help but to think how much worse it is for my fiancée (beneficiary). Her whole life has been basically put on hold for X amount of time. In the meantime, I can continue with my life/career waiting for her to come over. While she has to stop everything, change her plans, and count the days till her life can "continue" again.

I've been fortunate and blessed in that she hasn't really shown any anger/frustration about this whole long process so far. Granted, it's only been about 3 months since I got my NOA1. I can only imagine what the Sept/Oct petitioners are going through.

It's really unfortunate, unfair, ridiculous with the processing times of CSC vs TSC.

I'm happy that the CSC don't have to go through this miserable process like we do. But sometimes I think to myself, for CSC petitioners this is just a brief process. For TSC petitioners, this is a journey.

At least you acknowledge her hardship and I'm sure she's beyond grateful for it. The uncertain of not knowing what to say to work, family, when to prepare, dealing with administration papers etc etc is a huge load of stress on top of the rest.

Can you please ask your fiancée her recipe to keep cool? Cause a lot of us could use it!

I decided to completely stop watching anything regarding CSC. Last time I read a timeline from a couple who got their NOA2 in a MONTH. A MONTH!! I can't capslock hard enough to show how much I felt about it ahahahh

Good for them, but I'm not gonna lie, it made me utterly jealous and made me hate the system even more.

[JF & YF 2]

Hi, I just registered and post here at the first time, but I have been following this thread for a long time. It has been 230 days and we have not heard anything from TSC yet. My fiance called and waited for 3 hours but he could not even get a tier 2. I tracked 5 cases forward and 5 cases after us and all of them have been processed. It seems we are skipped somehow. I'm seriously wondering if they lost our case. So frustrated. This thread gave me lots of support. Thanks and hope we will hear from TSC "soon".

[Dana-Kristen 20]

I agree with this. I'm the petitioner and although there are times when I rage about this whole process, I can't help but to think how much worse it is for my fiancée (beneficiary). Her whole life has been basically put on hold for X amount of time. In the meantime, I can continue with my life/career waiting for her to come over. While she has to stop everything, change her plans, and count the days till her life can "continue" again.

I've been fortunate and blessed in that she hasn't really shown any anger/frustration about this whole long process so far. Granted, it's only been about 3 months since I got my NOA1. I can only imagine what the Sept/Oct petitioners are going through.

It's really unfortunate, unfair, ridiculous with the processing times of CSC vs TSC.

I'm happy that the CSC don't have to go through this miserable process like we do. But sometimes I think to myself, for CSC petitioners this is just a brief process. For TSC petitioners, this is a journey.

It was refreshing to read this. Having your life on "hold" is all kinds of awful (especially at 32 years old - eesh). Sometimes I feel like my fiancé doesn't realize it, because he is in your position where he gets to continue on living his life, advancing in his career, doesn't have to close bank accounts or sell his vehicle, etc. And often times when I get all anxious about the process like now) he seems so calm and positive and says everything is going to work out. Or he just apologizes that I'm taking it this hard. I feel like he doesn't at all feel what I'm feeling (not that I wish it upon anyone) but I feel alone, you know?

Next week my employer wants to meet to discuss my pending departure and my timeline - so that adds more pressure. I mean, I've got nothin' until I at least have an NOA2 and can make a better guess.

But, what can we even do? Our hands are tied.

I agree wholeheartedly about the difference between CSC and TSC. Ugh.

Thanks for the comment.

[Dana-Kristen 20]

At least you acknowledge her hardship and I'm sure she's beyond grateful for it. The uncertain of not knowing what to say to work, family, when to prepare, dealing with administration papers etc etc is a huge load of stress on top of the rest.

Can you please ask your fiancée her recipe to keep cool? Cause a lot of us could use it!

I decided to completely stop watching anything regarding CSC. Last time I read a timeline from a couple who got their NOA2 in a MONTH. A MONTH!! I can't capslock hard enough to show how much I felt about it ahahahh

Good for them, but I'm not gonna lie, it made me utterly jealous and made me hate the system even more.

Yeah, any time I read (accidentally, because I certainly try my best to avoid it) a CSC approval, I feel like I need a paper bag to breath into.

I'm typically a very cool and collected person, but the past few weeks have been an ongoing anxiety attack.

[Wooderz 314]

As the petitioner, I've tried very hard to recognize and appreciate the difficulty of this for my fiance. The unknown and having to pick up his whole life. Leave everything he's ever known. I'm not sure that he really feels like his life is on hold, but I can appreciate that because I feel like mine is. I can't get started with my family, I'm delaying making a decision about going back to school because I don't want to be in school when he moves and is trying to adjust to a new place. I won't do that to him - work full time, then go to class at night, homework on the weekends while he's stuck at home unable to drive or work. So I also feel like my career is on hold.

I try to support him and do as much as I can do in this process to keep him from stressing more over all the things left on the to-do list. The post-noa2 embassy stuff stresses him, just seeing how much there is to do and that a lot of it I can't really help much with.

I've always been super outspoken about the CSC stuff, to the point of discussing it with mods. What upsets me even more than the time difference, because of the excellent work so many people have done to try to bring it to light with people who have authority to do something about it, is how it is treated here. How else are we supposed to feel when we see a thread called "OMG APPROVED IN 21 DAYS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!" and then see them say "OMG I'M SO GLAD I DIDN'T GO TO TSC!!!" Yes, I have seen that more than once. Mods treat that as happy people just being happy. We should be considerate of their happiness and just ignore it. If we say something to them, we get reported and posts removed from the thread. How in the world is that not taunting? And then of course, there are those who are approved in a month and come into our threads and tell people who have been waiting 5x longer to be patient. Honestly, the best thing is to completely ignore it like we've all learned. But it can be hard to do when you're having a bad day.

Luckily, we have each other and we can vent and be angry here. And then be happy together, too, when our day finally comes.

[VincentW 7]

I don't have the "energy" to post anymore, but I keep watching this forum and I'm supportive to all of you. Rich finally snapped last night and it was the most heartbreaking thing. He is ready to call on Monday and rage till we get answers. He always has been so positive and helpful, I feel incredibly guilty that I put him in that position. He keeps repeating that he loves me and he would do it a thousand time if necessary, but I just can't shake that feeling that he wouldn't have to go through all of this if he wasn't with a foreigner.

We will get through it, and it will make us closer than ever, but I don't think we'll ever forget how strenuous this process is. Keep swimmin' guys.

I'm so sorry to hear what happened, from what you said he's a very calm and easy-going person, but you shouldn't blame yourself for the whole situation. I honestly couldn't know what it's like to be in a serious relationship (the getting-married one!) but you two are above all partners, he's not alone in the whole process and neither are you. Though unfortunately I do have to agree with your last statement.

My words are similar for Dana-Kristen.

I'm going to try super hard to enjoy what "little" time I have left here in Canada and spend more time with friends/family and less time in my room with Netflix checking my USCIS app in a fit of desperation and depression.

I feel like I have turned into the worst kind of human.

I got to say, this is probably one of the darker pages throughout this thread. It's great that you still have that mindset of enjoying the time you have left, but I think you're being a bit too hard on yourself. I believe that the others here who had their NOA2s issued should serve as beacons of light that our case is in the works, and hope hasn't forsaken us.

I'm also enjoying the little time I have in Brazil, and ironically my final months here have been my best. The thought of leaving behind my friends hurts me more than the thought of leaving behind my own family, believe it or not (I still can't understand that).

If I could leave one message to TSC, I would constrain myself to just say: You're doing us a service, NOT a favor. We pay you, and a lot for that matter.

For me, things are feeling different. Just a year ago, going to the US was a fantasy, but now every time I close my eyes it's like my eyes open in the US, as.. Trippy as that sounds. My soul and mind are there, but the hardest part, my body, is not.

Edited May 6, 2015 by VincentW

[br9k 23]

Of the group I was watching (started at 10), 1 more person approved (curiously, approval dated yesterday but only showed up online today). So now it's 4 (including us). So far that's 1 approval a week . I just hope they keep it up (even if we are the last of these 4).

[wbeem 568]

I'm so sorry to hear what happened, from what you said he's a very calm and easy-going person, but you shouldn't blame yourself for the whole situation. I honestly couldn't know what it's like to be in a serious relationship (the getting-married one!) but you two are above all partners, he's not alone in the whole process and neither are you. Though unfortunately I do have to agree with your last statement.

My words are similar for Dana-Kristen.

I got to say, this is probably one of the darker pages throughout this thread. It's great that you still have that mindset of enjoying the time you have left, but I think you're being a bit too hard on yourself. I believe that the others here who had their NOA2s issued should serve as beacons of light that our case is in the works, and hope hasn't forsaken us.

I'm also enjoying the little time I have in Brazil, and ironically my final months here have been my best. The thought of leaving behind my friends hurts me more than the thought of leaving behind my own family, believe it or not (I still can't understand that).

If I could leave one message to TSC, I would constrain myself to just say: You're doing us a service, NOT a favor. We pay you, and a lot for that matter.

For me, things are feeling different. Just a year ago, going to the US was a fantasy, but now every time I close my eyes it's like my eyes open in the US, as.. Trippy as that sounds. My soul and mind are there, but the hardest part, my body, is not.

Hi Vincent

It's Lee here. I'm the beneficiary, not the USC. I want to throw a slightly different perspective in here. Sometimes text doesn't read the way it's intended, so I hope this comes across the right way.

Your investment in this process is somewhat different to that of the majority of us on here, in that you are not the fiance(e) in this process. I also have a daughter, granted she is younger than you are, and her struggles with this process have been just as real, but very different to those of myself and my fiance.

Unlike you, I didn't have any plans or dreams to try and move to the US. The only goal and desire William and I have is to be together. This is not a means for me to emigrate to the USA. The emigration process is just a necessary step I have to go through so that William and I can be together. Had it been a better option for us, we would have picked a different country to live in, but we assessed our circumstances individually, and as a couple and as a family and living in the USA was the best of what we had to work with. This process is not difficult because we don't have patience. We do not have a problem waiting. Our problem is that we can't be together while we wait. The separation and complete absence of a timescale to work with, just so we can be together is what hurts so much.

I hope that didn't come across as diminishing the challenges you face or how hard this is for you too, but I wanted to highlight that our challenges are different and you may read some of the posts and think that they are a little 'dark' or over the top. But for us, this is about being with the person we love.

[TabeaK 517]

Hi Vincent

It's Lee here. I'm the beneficiary, not the USC. I want to throw a slightly different perspective in here. Sometimes text doesn't read the way it's intended, so I hope this comes across the right way.

Your investment in this process is somewhat different to that of the majority of us on here, in that you are not the fiance(e) in this process. I also have a daughter, granted she is younger than you are, and her struggles with this process have been just as real, but very different to those of myself and my fiance.

Unlike you, I didn't have any plans or dreams to try and move to the US. The only goal and desire William and I have is to be together. This is not a means for me to emigrate to the USA. The emigration process is just a necessary step I have to go through so that William and I can be together. Had it been a better option for us, we would have picked a different country to live in, but we assessed our circumstances individually, and as a couple and as a family and living in the USA was the best of what we had to work with. This process is not difficult because we don't have patience. We do not have a problem waiting. Our problem is that we can't be together while we wait. The separation and complete absence of a timescale to work with, just so we can be together is what hurts so much.

I hope that didn't come across as diminishing the challenges you face or how hard this is for you too, but I wanted to highlight that our challenges are different and you may read some of the posts and think that they are a little 'dark' or over the top. But for us, this is about being with the person we love.

This, a billion times! It has never been my dream or preference to move to the US either, but to be with the love of my life it is the only practical option at present. I suffer because I have to make this huge disrupting move but cannot properly plan for it because of an archaic process that lacks any kind of checks and balances.