The NVC October Moral Support/Ranting Thread

[charlie0225 13]

For those of us going through stress meaning still at NVC this is for us. I know I had a nervous breakdown when talking to poor Betsy and I want everyone to know the

warning signs. This is NOT an easy thing for me to admit, I'm usually a very strong person one people come to when things are bad, never thought in a million years this was possible.

5 Nervous Breakdown.

1. crying easily, and seemingly endlessly, at the drop of a hat - whether you're male or female! No need to be embarrassed.
3. feeling guilty for all kinds of reasons: 'not pulling your weight', not being there for someone else, not being your 'normal' self, etc
5. feeling alone - you're embarrassed and don't want to bother with anyone. You don't even recognize yourself.
7. feeling joyless - increasingly withdrawing from all the things you would normally enjoy - no wonder with all those symptoms!
9. being/feeling 'paranoid' - feeling that people are out to get you and single you out for every scrap of negativity.

It is not surprising that often a nervous or mental breakdown goes hand-in-hand with depression.

Therefore I'm going to be straight with you: you're not going to get better by staying in bed, miserable and worried!

A nervous breakdown really means the point of exhaustion reached after a prolonged period of anxiety. The overwhelming anxiety, depression, and stress leads to a sense of overwhelm, helplessness, and utter exhaustion; a feeling of not being able to deal with life.

So if anyone feels this way, I think this thread helps lot also it says to do thing with family and friends if possible.

A nervous breakdown really means the point of exhaustion reached after a prolonged period of anxiety (perhaps related to relationship, financial, health, or work worries; often a combination). The overwhelming anxiety, depression, and stress leads to a sense of overwhelm, helplessness, and utter exhaustion; a feeling of not being able to deal with life or even get out of bed. - See more at: http://www.uncommonhelp.me/articles/nervous-breakdown-symptoms/#sthash.SGHFJzuP.dpuf

A nervous breakdown really means the point of exhaustion reached after a prolonged period of anxiety (perhaps related to relationship, financial, health, or work worries; often a combination). The overwhelming anxiety, depression, and stress leads to a sense of overwhelm, helplessness, and utter exhaustion; a feeling of not being able to deal with life or even get out of bed. - See more at: http://www.uncommonhelp.me/articles/nervous-breakdown-symptoms/#sthash.SGHFJzuP.dpuf

A nervous breakdown really means the point of exhaustion reached after a prolonged period of anxiety (perhaps related to relationship, financial, health, or work worries; often a combination). The overwhelming anxiety, depression, and stress leads to a sense of overwhelm, helplessness, and utter exhaustion; a feeling of not being able to deal with life or even get out of bed. - See more at: http://www.uncommonhelp.me/articles/nervous-breakdown-symptoms/#sthash.SGHFJzuP.dpuf

I have four of the five, so far not #2, so if you feel any of these they say you need to take action to relive these feelings. One says to get out of the house which is a great idea if you can do that. Walk on the grass barefoot sounds a little ridiculous to me but if it works why not. You don't have to have all of these symptoms to have or be close to a nervous breakdown. It's a horrible feeling I pray I never have again.

A nervous breakdown really means the point of exhaustion reached after a prolonged period of anxiety (perhaps related to relationship, financial, health, or work worries; often a combination). The overwhelming anxiety, depression, and stress leads to a sense of overwhelm, helplessness, and utter exhaustion; a feeling of not being able to deal with life or even get out of bed. - See more at: http://www.uncommonhelp.me/articles/nervous-breakdown-symptoms/#sthash.SGHFJzuP.dpuf

Thanks for the post. I have been on the verge of this for a couple of weeks now. I have an appointment with my Doctor in the morning. The depression and anxiety has been overwhelming. I have been through some tough times in my life but this situation, and the daily stress of being without my wife is hard to handle. They say God will not give you more than you can handle. And I believe it. That doesn't mean you don't need to ask for help when needed.

[EOC 440]

My thought and prayers are with you Soloenta. I'll be praying Betsy sort out this mess ASAP.

[AustinCanada 681]

One says to get out of the house which is a great idea if you can do that. Walk on the grass barefoot sounds a little ridiculous to me but if it works why not.

I live in a rainy city (Vancouver, Canada). There are over 161 rainy days (mainly from Nov to Mar) per year.

Many Vancouverites (including myself) get depressed in winter. I do the following things in order to feel better:

- Drink coffee

- Exercise (yoga helps)

- Take a sauna

- Take vitamins and St. John's Wort

- Go outside (when it's not raining!)

- Stay away from negative people (especially drama queens!)

Well, it's October! It'll start raining!

It's important to look after our mental health especially when we're applying for immigration.

[romii 150]

I was very lucky to get Betsy she is a compassionate supervisor and told me not to send anything until she gets back to me so this wont happen again. I spoke to Candy just now, who was very sweet and helpful said Betsy requested my file but it takes two days so to call on Friday, which or course I will do.

They can't tell me anything about the AOS they have no idea why this happened, I told Betsy thatt they told me Aug 10 our AOS were accepted and Sept 24 Th we had CC. She didn't know what to say but, "OMG I'm sorry" good that did me they wont even expedite our case due to these lies. When I talk to her God willing Friday I will ask her if she can ask her supervisor due to the circumstances of all the blatant lies if my case can be rushed. I know they wont but will be worth a try.

Thank you my friend.

That is just great! Hopefully Betsy proves to be a better supervisor and a person with some sort of moral compass to make things better for you.

Keeping you in my prayers hun!

[emmaface 12]

I'm so sorry USCIS is the worst I would say 30 days is most likely the most realistic but I would keep calling NVC a land line would be better than a cell is you have one. Some people use Skype or other services. I don't trust cells for calls this important. It has been taking a lot of time for everything but this part is short then what is to come. I would call NVC on Wednesday and Friday every week. You just never know when it will arrive then NVC scan it into their system. Please keep us posted. I'll be saying a prayer so your journey will be an easy and quick one. Also To the thread.

Thanks for your thoughts and prayers Soloenta, it's greatly appreciated! I haven't read your whole story yet, but I hope your journey gets easier soon!

[romii 150]

I live in a rainy city (Vancouver, Canada). There are over 161 rainy days (mainly from Nov to Mar) per year.

Many Vancouverites (including myself) get depressed in winter. I do the following things in order to feel better:

- Drink coffee

- Exercise (yoga helps)

- Take a sauna

- Take vitamins and St. John's Wort

- Go outside (when it's not raining!)

- Stay away from negative people (especially drama queens!)

Well, it's October! It'll start raining!

It's important to look after our mental health especially when we're applying for immigration.

Oh man living in New Jersey, I can surely attest to this. We get a lot of rain too, maybe not as much as Vancouver

I've become bipolar because of that seriously!!

[Robisons 91]

I live in a rainy city (Vancouver, Canada). There are over 161 rainy days (mainly from Nov to Mar) per year.

Many Vancouverites (including myself) get depressed in winter. I do the following things in order to feel better:

- Drink coffee

- Exercise (yoga helps)

- Take a sauna

- Take vitamins and St. John's Wort

- Go outside (when it's not raining!)

- Stay away from negative people (especially drama queens!)

Well, it's October! It'll start raining!

It's important to look after our mental health especially when we're applying for immigration.

This is how England has looked since Monday. My 5 year old daughter asked if she had to go school on Monday morning, I felt like saying no.

[jcruzazucar 131]

I just received my Welcome email/letter with Document Cover Sheet! I am SOOOOOOOOOOOOOO happy & excited!!

AOS fee is still unavailable (hopefully it will be unlocked this week) and I can get the ball rolling and send out my documents by next wednesday

[Soloenta 2,218]

Please help dear friends, what do I do, I have everything ready to send NVC but the supervisor said to wait until she can check if what they are asking is all that is needed

Octavio not sure if I can believe him or not said what I have ready to send is what they need. What do I do? Send or wait? Thank you in advance it's 1:56 pm her now I need to do this soon or just wait.

[romii 150]

Please help dear friends, what do I do, I have everything ready to send NVC but the supervisor said to wait until she can check if what they are asking is all that is needed

Octavio not sure if I can believe him or not said what I have ready to send is what they need. What do I do? Send or wait? Thank you in advance it's 1:56 pm her now I need to do this soon or just wait.

Since Betsy said she will review it. I would wait for a couple of days. She will probably get back to you in a day or two and hopefully it'll be good news. Even if she still asks you to send it in, you can overnight it on Friday or even Saturday and it'll get there on the weekend and you will have a scan date of Monday.

I personally would wait. It's better to lose a couple of days now than to be placed on hold for 60 days after sending in the documents.

Edited October 8, 2014 by romii

[Soloenta 2,218]

My thought and prayers are with you Soloenta. I'll be praying Betsy sort out this mess ASAP.

Awww thank you precious! Prayers are better than anything in this world. I Hope Betsy such a cute name hahaa is true to her word. I think I scared her to death.

I live in a rainy city (Vancouver, Canada). There are over 161 rainy days (mainly from Nov to Mar) per year.

Many Vancouverites (including myself) get depressed in winter. I do the following things in order to feel better:

- Drink coffee

- Exercise (yoga helps)

- Take a sauna

- Take vitamins and St. John's Wort

- Go outside (when it's not raining!)

- Stay away from negative people (especially drama queens!)

Well, it's October! It'll start raining! :bonk:It's important to look after our mental health especially when we're applying for immigration.

Leave it up to you to make me laugh haha ty. But I hate summer it depresses me and I would love Canada and the UK because it rains so much I just love it can't get enough. I would be that dog sitting in the rain. Poor baby Oh and caffeine does nothing for me my body doesn't react to hit or I'd have so much energy I would be skinny. OMG I be Betsy thought I was a drama Queen but it was a full blown nervous breakdown. After the call I thought OMG Austin would be proud of me it this

was fake.

That is just great! Hopefully Betsy proves to be a better supervisor and a person with some sort of moral compass to make things better for you.

Keeping you in my prayers hun! :joy:

Thank you so much I know prayers work there is no question in my mind. Yes poor Betsy she is my third and I can understand her. Which is always a plus. She asked

me If I wanted to call Octavio again hahaha OMG I started crying and blurted out waaaaaaaaaaaa but I can't understand a word he says!

[Soloenta 2,218]

I'm coming back here everyday to get an update on your case Soloenta and it seems to get more and more insane as time goes on. Like how can NVC be in such a tizz over it, giving all sorts of different and conflicting info about your AOS when really it's black and white: either it's correct or isn't. How can they have different interpretations of its status? Even going so far as to say you had CC when you didn't. Truly baffling

Awww thank you my friend and the only reason you haven't heard that some crazy woman in Ca went out on a killing spree is because of you and the rest of our friends on this thread, but I must include Jsumners beautiful wife, Saylin and and angel from heaven her majesty Dewheels.

I agree and don't know what to make of NVC they just can't be that stupid.

By the way OMG that picture you have on your profile, what a beautiful couple just beautiful!

Edited October 8, 2014 by Soloenta

[Soloenta 2,218]

I just received my Welcome email/letter with Document Cover Sheet! I am SOOOOOOOOOOOOOO happy & excited!!

AOS fee is still unavailable (hopefully it will be unlocked this week) and I can get the ball rolling and send out my documents by next wednesday

Awww so very happy for you ty for sharing we need good news to.

Since Betsy said she will review it. I would wait for a couple of days. She will probably get back to you in a day or two and hopefully it'll be good news. Even if she still asks you to send it in, you can overnight it on Friday or even Saturday and it'll get there on the weekend and you will have a scan date of Monday.

I personally would wait. It's better to lose a couple of days now than to be placed on hold for 60 days after sending in the documents.

Thank you so much for your input I think it's a good idea.

[samreen23 461]

Please help dear friends, what do I do, I have everything ready to send NVC but the supervisor said to wait until she can check if what they are asking is all that is needed

Octavio not sure if I can believe him or not said what I have ready to send is what they need. What do I do? Send or wait? Thank you in advance it's 1:56 pm her now I need to do this soon or just wait.

I agree with romii soloenta. Wait till Tomm night. Otherwise overnight on the weekend. I can't believe this is actually happening to u, but they can torture us not kill us. And we r not gonna give up. We are praying for u here my dear friend

[charlie0225 13]

Please help dear friends, what do I do, I have everything ready to send NVC but the supervisor said to wait until she can check if what they are asking is all that is needed

Octavio not sure if I can believe him or not said what I have ready to send is what they need. What do I do? Send or wait? Thank you in advance it's 1:56 pm her now I need to do this soon or just wait

If you send it now its not going to prolong anything. The worst case is they ask you on friday to send something extra. I hope for good things to come to you soon.