Awful '50s Marriage Advice Shows What Our Mothers And Grandmothers Were Up Against

[decocker 7,198]

Stealing is stealing, regardless of the amount involved.

okay karma, lesson learned.

[Teddy B 17,252]

Jerry Springer? Is that still on TV?

Not sure, just picked something and ran with it.

[decocker 7,198]

Everyone knows whenever something bad happens to women, it's because they asked for it.

this is true.

[spookyturtle 9,465]

okay karma, lesson learned.

Good. You'll feel better now.

[Teddy B 17,252]

Spooks, you ever have a Reuben sandwich from Kelly's Roast Beef?

[spookyturtle 9,465]

Spooks, you ever have a Reuben sandwich from Kelly's Roast Beef?

No, just the roast beef. Are the Reuben's good?

[Teddy B 17,252]

No, just the roast beef. Are the Reuben's good?

Best Reuben I've ever had. I just had one for lunch, fantastic!

[SMOKE 1,426]

that's easy to say. i think that this plays a part in the demise of many vj relationships.

my husband doesn't have a problem with me making more than him, now. i've always made more money than him, back to when we were simply friends and he lived in canada. but that didn't mean that once he got here (and especially during the time that he wasn't authorized to work) that accepting my salary in comparison to his would be immediate. it took time, and even still - lots of our friends will jokingly refer to me as a sugar momma. he laughs it off - but i can tell it bothers him. not that i make more money, but that my doing so implies to others that he's not keeping his end of the deal or that he's getting a free ride.

2 questions...why do your friends know your finances? why don't you put an end to the comments?

my wife had no prior work history before coming here, we never discussed finances with anyone outside of our marriage. within a few years she became an electrician earning a nice paycheck, we never discussed finances with anyone outside of our marriage. now she is working for Halliburton making great money, we never discuss finances with anyone outside of our marriage.

I do get the occasional jab about my 4'8" 85lb. wife working blue collar (man jobs), while I work a white collar (woman job). but no paycheck comparisons, because its no one outside of our marriages business. and it wouldn't be tolerated if they knew.

fwiw: I do make more money than my wife. I see that changing within 5-10 years though. and i'm great with that. I couldn't be more proud of her & what she has accomplished.

[GBCW 397]

white collar jobs are womens jobs? wow flyover values sure are weird.

[aaydrian 479]

2 questions...why do your friends know your finances? why don't you put an end to the comments?

my wife had no prior work history before coming here, we never discussed finances with anyone outside of our marriage. within a few years she became an electrician earning a nice paycheck, we never discussed finances with anyone outside of our marriage. now she is working for Halliburton making great money, we never discuss finances with anyone outside of our marriage.

I do get the occasional jab about my 4'8" 85lb. wife working blue collar (man jobs), while I work a white collar (woman job). but no paycheck comparisons, because its no one outside of our marriages business. and it wouldn't be tolerated if they knew.

Part of it is common sense. If you are a manager at your local Wal-Mart and your spouse is a part of the senior management team at GE then it would be quite obvious that there is a huge gap in salary between the 2 and who brings in the bacon. Also folks in similar careers with similar qualifications and experience know what the going pay is for one in a similar position. Another thing is depending on the level of friendship, friends sometimes talk about pay whether they are happy with it or disgruntled.

[decocker 7,198]

2 questions...why do your friends know your finances? why don't you put an end to the comments?

my wife had no prior work history before coming here, we never discussed finances with anyone outside of our marriage. within a few years she became an electrician earning a nice paycheck, we never discussed finances with anyone outside of our marriage. now she is working for Halliburton making great money, we never discuss finances with anyone outside of our marriage.

I do get the occasional jab about my 4'8" 85lb. wife working blue collar (man jobs), while I work a white collar (woman job). but no paycheck comparisons, because its no one outside of our marriages business. and it wouldn't be tolerated if they knew.

fwiw: I do make more money than my wife. I see that changing within 5-10 years though. and i'm great with that. I couldn't be more proud of her & what she has accomplished.

like i said, it's said as a joke. obviously, i'm no one's sugar momma since i don't go around buying my husband gifts. i'm a sugar momma only in the sense that i make sure i pick him up some peanut m&m's when i hit up the grocery store. it's not a big deal.

really i think we started the ongoing joking about it ourselves, when we first started the process and my exhusband told our son that orfee was only marrying me to get a greencard and my son was worried this was true. in talking about the situation, it became a joke that i was 'importing a man' (not a joke between me and my son, but me and orfee).

anyway we don't have a lot of 'friends' or aqaintences that know our business but we do have a few very close long time friends that know everything about us as we do them. mostly because they've known us, before we were 'us'. it isn't difficult to discern that i make more money, since i've been at the same administrative position for 11 years and he's worked mostly in manual labor, grocery, and custodial work - none of that pays well.

[SMOKE 1,426]

white collar jobs are womens jobs? wow flyover values sure are weird.

yes. you have a girlie job compared to my wife's. mute donkey

[SMOKE 1,426]

like i said, it's said as a joke. obviously, i'm no one's sugar momma since i don't go around buying my husband gifts. i'm a sugar momma only in the sense that i make sure i pick him up some peanut m&m's when i hit up the grocery store. it's not a big deal.

really i think we started the ongoing joking about it ourselves, when we first started the process and my exhusband told our son that orfee was only marrying me to get a greencard and my son was worried this was true. in talking about the situation, it became a joke that i was 'importing a man' (not a joke between me and my son, but me and orfee).

anyway we don't have a lot of 'friends' or aqaintences that know our business but we do have a few very close long time friends that know everything about us as we do them. mostly because they've known us, before we were 'us'. it isn't difficult to discern that i make more money, since i've been at the same administrative position for 11 years and he's worked mostly in manual labor, grocery, and custodial work - none of that pays well.

ok. I got it now. ty

[DavenRoxy 1,073]

that's easy to say. i think that this plays a part in the demise of many vj relationships.

I'm real keen to see the links to the research supporting this theorem.

[decocker 7,198]

I'm real keen to see the links to the research supporting this theorem.

you're going to be waiting a long time cause i wasn't purporting any theorem. but if you think there isn't any research out there showing that relationships often end over money issues i'd ask where you've been the past few decades.