Awful '50s Marriage Advice Shows What Our Mothers And Grandmothers Were Up Against

[decocker 7,198]

Patrice and Gid, October 1955

Lesson: Never out-earn your husband.

Patrice, a "slender, attractive" 36-year-old, had a good copywriting job at an advertising agency and was promoted. "My first impulse was to get my husband on the phone so we could share the big excitement," she explained. But her promotion meant she now earned more than her husband, Gid, made as a salesman.

When the couple married, Gid said he "didn't mind that [Patrice] had a darn good job." But he'd thought she also wanted to be a "real" wife. The counselor found Patrice at fault not just because of her career, but "the way she handled her career, her husband [and] her child." Patrice, the counselor noted, "grew to womanhood hating the unalterable fact that she was doomed to be a female in a man-made world." Luckily, she got her "true reward" in the end, "when she reduced her career to second place ... she became a successful wife and a successful mother."

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[We Keep Receipts 9,238]

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I don't care if she made more than me, as long as we're happy that's all that matters.

[decocker 7,198]

I don't care if she made more than me, as long as we're happy that's all that matters.

that's easy to say. i think that this plays a part in the demise of many vj relationships.

my husband doesn't have a problem with me making more than him, now. i've always made more money than him, back to when we were simply friends and he lived in canada. but that didn't mean that once he got here (and especially during the time that he wasn't authorized to work) that accepting my salary in comparison to his would be immediate. it took time, and even still - lots of our friends will jokingly refer to me as a sugar momma. he laughs it off - but i can tell it bothers him. not that i make more money, but that my doing so implies to others that he's not keeping his end of the deal or that he's getting a free ride.

[We Keep Receipts 9,238]

that's easy to say. i think that this plays a part in the demise of many vj relationships.

my husband doesn't have a problem with me making more than him, now. i've always made more money than him, back to when we were simply friends and he lived in canada. but that didn't mean that once he got here (and especially during the time that he wasn't authorized to work) that accepting my salary in comparison to his would be immediate. it took time, and even still - lots of our friends will jokingly refer to me as a sugar momma. he laughs it off - but i can tell it bothers him. not that i make more money, but that my doing so implies to others that he's not keeping his end of the deal or that he's getting a free ride.

In Germany, my first wife made more money than me. She was a hot shot hair dresser, and made twice what I made. We took turns on who paid for what. I guess I never really thought of it any other way.

[GBCW 397]

I wouldn't mind if she made good money. I would love to be a stay at home dad.

[decocker 7,198]

In Germany, my first wife made more money than me. She was a hot shot hair dresser, and made twice what I made. We took turns on who paid for what. I guess I never really thought of it any other way.

my exhusband was a mooch. i couldn't leave my purse/wallet/checkbook unattended in our house for probably seven years, if not longer. when i got out of that and into a trusting/equal relationship i found myself (and i still do this) often taking a step back in gratitude. like yay, i'm so happy i can leave my wallet on the kitchen counter overnight and it won't be touched come morning. it sounds simple but, money is a big deal in relationships in that it has a lot to do with trust and working together for mutual benefit.

I wouldn't mind if she made good money. I would love to be a stay at home dad.

whatever works for a couple should be embraced. i don't think any parent should be belittled for choosing to stay home and care for the kids. daycare is overpriced and the quality in care just isn't what it should be.

[_Paul&Jesica_ 70]

I don't care if she made more than me, as long as we're happy that's all that matters.

Same here! In fact she can work and made tons of money and I will stay at home

[spookyturtle 9,465]

my exhusband was a mooch. i couldn't leave my purse/wallet/checkbook unattended in our house for probably seven years, if not longer. when i got out of that and into a trusting/equal relationship i found myself (and i still do this) often taking a step back in gratitude. like yay, i'm so happy i can leave my wallet on the kitchen counter overnight and it won't be touched come morning. it sounds simple but, money is a big deal in relationships in that it has a lot to do with trust and working together for mutual benefit.

whatever works for a couple should be embraced. i don't think any parent should be belittled for choosing to stay home and care for the kids. daycare is overpriced and the quality in care just isn't what it should be.

But you used to steal cigarettes from your grandmother, so that was karma paying you back.

[Teddy B 17,252]

I wouldn't mind if she made good money. I would love to be a stay at home dad.

I wouldn't mind either, and seeing I don't have any kids, I'd just stay at home, drink beer and watch Jerry Springer all day. Of course she'd have to make me sammiches every morning before she left for work.

[decocker 7,198]

But you used to steal cigarettes from your grandmother, so that was karma paying you back.

that's true. but karma was a bit unequal in it's repayment considering the cigarettes i stole were free samples.

[GBCW 397]

I wouldn't mind either, and seeing I don't have any kids, I'd just stay at home, drink beer and watch Jerry Springer all day. Of course she'd have to make me sammiches every morning before she left for work.

Jerry Springer? Is that still on TV?

[spookyturtle 9,465]

that's true. but karma was a bit unequal in it's repayment considering the cigarettes i stole were free samples.

Sometimes it takes a tenfold payback to teach a lesson.

[decocker 7,198]

Sometimes it takes a tenfold payback to teach a lesson.

i assure you, that would be like a 1,000fold payback

[spookyturtle 9,465]

i assure you, that would be like a 1,000fold payback

Stealing is stealing, regardless of the amount involved.

[GBCW 397]

Everyone knows whenever something bad happens to women, it's because they asked for it.