Family issues

[crymwest 6]

My husband came to the US and we agreed with his daughter's mother about that she would care for their child until she could not anymore (roughly 4yrs) and we would get settled here and be in the best possible shape with both working jobs and a house when she came. I'm concerned bc the mother is violating the parenting contract and the child is reporting being possibly harmed on visits to the grandparents. Would Aussie CHild Protective services pay attention if we call since we aren't there and can't get there. He JUST today got the Noa1 for the 485 and his job app. Ideas?i know it's not the usual but I'm worried.

[AnnaMaria 68]

This is terrible. If the child is in absolutely any kind of risk of danger, you need to call someone NOW. I don't know the age of the child, but remember that there is an age where sometimes they exaggerate the truth. Regardless, it sounds like you're genuinely concerned and you need to call someone. I think that either Child Services or the police can do a courtesy check based on your concerns, it certainly warrants one. It's a non-intrusive way of allowing an authority to talk to an individual to ensure that they are safe or not in any sort of danger. I would definitely see what kind of option Australia has along those lines.

[canadian_wife 1,822]

Do you have solid evidence of the child being harmed or is it speculation?

good luck

[Penguin_ie 5,993]

It would be better if the grandparents called, as they have direct knowledge of what the child said, and possibly physical evidence.

Of course, it is also possible the child is angry with mom/ missing dad and making it up.

Edited September 21, 2014 by Penguin_ie

[Illiria 980]

Er sounds as if the child is saying they are being harmed on visits to the grandparents, so why would they report themselves?

Also if there is any indication a child is being harmed then the father should report it. If there isn't anything happening then no harm no foul but if there is then you could be saving the child's life. These things escalate sometimes very quickly and you don't want to think what if later on.

Edited September 21, 2014 by Illiria

[crymwest 6]

We think this may have scared bio-mom enough to where she will stop allowing the visits, but we are now installing apps to record all Skype calls. We have always known that his brother is violent. The brother is severely autistic and just had a tumor in his brain removed that was making him more aggressive. The stepfather banned my husbands mother from getting the brother the help he needs and he's roughly iq wise around age 9-10 in a 29yr old body. He has hurt my stepdaughter before and we have witnesses who overheard him cursing her out one day when my husband left vent on to run to check the mail and the brother came in and was yelling at her. I'm still pushing for a Cps call or at least the lawyer, but he wants bio-mom to step up and be the mother she demanded she could be.