My wife is about to lose her mind!!!

[Ed and Gina 45]

I think that everyone who has been at this step can say that it's been frustrating. We wait and wait for some word from NVC or the consulate. That's how it seems to go. Then, once all is said and done, suddenly, it's all in the past. I agree with some of the others...your wife should be doing something to keep her mind off from the waiting. She's only going to make herself more anxious.

You're almost there...it's likely to be another 2 or 3 months...

Good Luck!

[Canadian Tired 6]

I am in a similar position, except that being a (single) mother fills my days and keeps me from going insane (I think!). It's tough to go through the forums on VJ here, and see that K1 filers seem to be approved and arrive in the US far quicker than people who are currently married. It's also tough to go through NVC milestone by milestone (wait for AOS fees, pay AOS fees, submit AOS documents, wait for IV fees, etc etc), and have an arbitrary amount of time to wait after each milestone. I recently received a note from NVC to say that they received my documents, and that we need to wait AT LEAST 60 days to have them reviewed. All the while, my son is growing and his father is missing him terribly. All of the bureaucracy behind the NVC seems to have clouded the fact that there are real people's lives being affected. And real pain being experienced.

[Kiv 32]

Did she made big plans counting on a fast approval? like quitting a job, ending a lease or any other serious decisions?

Is difficult to predict how soon everything is going to be solved, maybe if she looks for contingency plans she can reduce her frustration.

This process requires a lot of patience.

[Ortolan 381]

I've been in your position, feeling horrible about the delay yet wanting so badly to help my spouse get through the time. It's very hard on you both, totally understandable.

There's nothing you can do to rush the NVC, but it's a matter of "mind over matter" at this point. There will be things in your married life that will be way harder than waiting. See if you can encourage her to use this time to learn something new (improve her English, learn Spanish, maybe?) and maybe that'll help take up the time.

Just know: this WILL end. It WILL be over. Gotta hang in there!

[twofors 30]

Over the time I have been a member of this community I have learned that each group of filers for VISAs have a specific set of problems to deal with. The most common link for all is wait times. I feel tremendous sadness when I read posts for couples already married (especially those with children) that tell of such long aggrevating waiting periods. I can't imagine the frustations associated with this terrible process when you are already in a legitimate married status. And those with children so compounded. Our prays are with you! I think that those recommending that your wife find things to do that can help pass the days are giving you the best advice. I can tell you that just trying to keep her calm with words of love and solice is probably not going to work at this point. My fiance was constantly busy in his home country with family, business adventures, and hobbies during our wait time. As much as we want to be together the last phase of the Visa process was so quick it took us by surprise. In affect we came off the hurry up and wait list to move your @#$@$ very quickly list. He has to finish up his business contracts, sell off those things he no longer needs, as well as many other things. I hope you encourage your wife to find some constructive outlets for her time. Perhaps she could plan a party for going away, or make plans for a celebration at her arrival. She could research her new home City in the USA and find out what opportunities are available for her here. Perhaps an online course or support community to help her talk about the things she will be doing once she arrives. There are many things that someone can do. Pay attention to what she wants. Send her flowers or whatever may be appropriate for her culture to remind her that you are thinking of her. Make a list of her needs and wants once she has arrived and start collecting the items to show her on face time or skype. Just be patient because before you know it the process will be over and she will be here.

Good day fellow members.

I am trying to get an immigrant visa for my wife who is from Korea. We are at the final step of waiting for the NVC to look through our civil documents before she can get the interview, but it has been taking them far too long! We have been waiting for the past couple months only to get an email from them stating that it's going to take 60 days rather than the usual 30 days. I am here in California about to start graduate school and my wife is still in Korea doing nothing but waiting for the NVC to give the clear for her interview date for the past month. She's getting really, really impatient to the point where she could go insane and I don't know what to do or say to her. I've tried to calm her and tell her that we're almost finished (for the past month) only for it to fall on deaf ears. We're both very miserable, and the NVC call center just tells us that they're backed up and that there's nothing they can do about it. Has or is anyone in this situation? Who else can I get help from? What questions should I ask when I talk to NVC? Can she come to California and somehow finish it here? ( )'

If anyone can help this distress post, it would be of great help.

Thank you.

RCG

[Soojung 4]

I did not apply for a spouse visa, but I totally understand how she feels. while I waited for my visa, I kept saying bad things about the future to my husband who was back to America, and I was also very negative. I know there is not much you can do, but you should keep encouraging her, talking with her about your wonderful future together as much as you could (not about the visa!!!).

While she stays in Korea, she should make herself busy. I think that is the best way! For me, I signed up for some language classes and cooking class. She also could take short trips during the weekends.

I know it is really difficult to both of you. Waiting for the visa is a pain in the ###.... But it is almost over! Keep stay positive and busy. I wish you the best!

[rcg111109 0]

WOW, fellow members. I cannot thank you enough for all your supporting posts and ideas regarding my situation. And thank you for sharing your experiences with me.

I have talked to my wife, and she has decided to take some computer classes (since she's interested in starting own business).

We used to live in Japan (she worked as a chemical engineer, I as a teacher) for a while, but she disliked her job and we both wanted to go back to school in the states.

Not knowing how much longer it would take, we got our documents (my wife's civil documents and I-864 Affidavit of Support) and sent them as soon as we could since we wanted to have our interview at the embassy in Tokyo. But a few days after we sent our documents, we got a letter from NVC stating that our documents needed to be sent with a cover sheet, so we kind of jumped the gun. Later, they said that our I-864 was missing information and we had to resent it again. We tried calling NVC a couple weeks after, and all they said was, "we have it, but you need to wait 30-60 (business) days."

So that's it.

Again, thank you all for your support!

RCG

[rcg111109 0]

Thank you Soojung for your post! I know that we're almost finished. I'm the passive/patient type, while she's the aggressive/short fuse type. t^_^ '

She also could take short trips during the weekends.

She says to me that it's a waste of money since I'm not with her. hahaha....

[Soojung 4]

Thank you Soojung for your post! I know that we're almost finished. I'm the passive/patient type, while she's the aggressive/short fuse type. t^_^ '

She says to me that it's a waste of money since I'm not with her. hahaha....

That is true. She would not be happy without you.

I traveled some places in Korea, and especially I did not live in Seoul, I liked to go there-- touring the places, going some markets, and buying presents for the families, etc. I hope everything is well to you and your wife.

[IMSM 2]

Good day fellow members.

I am trying to get an immigrant visa for my wife who is from Korea. We are at the final step of waiting for the NVC to look through our civil documents before she can get the interview, but it has been taking them far too long! We have been waiting for the past couple months only to get an email from them stating that it's going to take 60 days rather than the usual 30 days. I am here in California about to start graduate school and my wife is still in Korea doing nothing but waiting for the NVC to give the clear for her interview date for the past month. She's getting really, really impatient to the point where she could go insane and I don't know what to do or say to her. I've tried to calm her and tell her that we're almost finished (for the past month) only for it to fall on deaf ears. We're both very miserable, and the NVC call center just tells us that they're backed up and that there's nothing they can do about it. Has or is anyone in this situation? Who else can I get help from? What questions should I ask when I talk to NVC? Can she come to California and somehow finish it here? ( )'

If anyone can help this distress post, it would be of great help.

Thank you.

RCG

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