Husband's family making our lives a hell

[Buia 1]

Why his parent go to church yet they don't know about "LOVE"? Just tell them GOD have His plan if both of you meant to be in Church.

That is the exact same thing my husband and I keep saying here. I already mentioned, that what is the point of going if your heart is not really there, only your body?! I do not go to church by my choice, If I have one, but I am always trying to be a better person, and I would never do what they are doing to us, and they claim to be christians.

But it does not matter, their heads are as hard as rocks.

Edited October 23, 2014 by Buia

[rlogan 2,036]

But now, his parents tell us to go to church 3 times a week (I don't do church, and my husband is not a fanatic), if not we better start packing and leaving the house.

I take it that this condition was imposed after the decision to live there, instead of before. I mean - that is the kind of thing one would like to know beforehand. "By the way, you have to join a cult..."

Well the sooner you can free yourselves from them, the better. It is good that your husband speaks up for you. There would be no point to the marriage otherwise. As a man, I would feel it my responsibility to support a wife I brought over here and be busting my rear getting the finances fixed. Bad parents or no, he has to step up to the plate.

[tyene 5]

What type of Church is that? I'm asking because your husband might seek help from that congregation and ask for someone (whether it's priest or pastor or whatever depending on your denomination) to be mediator. From what I know most congregations really value proper and not dysfunctional family life and they are often willing to help. It might be best to bring some helpful, objective and restrained third party into this family to help all of you. If they claim to value religion so much they should be held accountable in the eyes of the Church.

[msbau764 245]

I know that there are a lot of worse situations out there.

We have been facing some serious hardship, financially, for reasons that I prefer not to discuss here, but they were not our fault.

We had to move to his parents house, and things are getting bad.

They yell at my husband for anything, even for eating. Tell us what time to go to bed and what time to get a shower. Now they are saying that we need to have a shower every other day, because of the bills. But they are always traveling, and his mom buying new clothes every week.

I have lived with that kind of rules, when I was a child, and even so, my mother did never talk to me like this one does to my husband.

Nobody yells at me, only to him, but is always "you guys this or that".

I am always cleaning the house and doing the dishes for everybody, no sign of appreciation of any sort. Even with all this treatment, I still do, to help, because I was raised like that.

My husband is religious and I am not, we talked and made decisions before we got married. We decided to no interfere in each other believes. And so far we did pretty well, we can both talk without arguing.

But now, his parents tell us to go to church 3 times a week (I don't do church, and my husband is not a fanatic), if not we better start packing and leaving the house. My husband does not stay quiet, he defends us and try to put some reasoning in their minds, for an example that we are married, and our decisions are ours only, but they do not listen, everything they say is " it does not matter, is not your house". It's like they help in a very hard situation, but always throwing in my husband's face all his mistakes since he was 3 years old. They terrible things to him like they got the wrong baby at the hospital, just because he did not get a house yet, or finished college. Funny thing is that, his younger brother lives here too, and is treated like a prince, does not have a job, and nobody is giving him any rough speech. I am mad and upset for all of this, even more so because of my husband, he does not deserve this, I try to be careful, because I do not want to get things worse, but I have to hold on inside to not yell and say pretty bad things to these people.

I am in the AOS process, did not receive the EAD yet, my husband is searching for jobs so we can get out of here.

I did not come here to make fuss or be polemic, but sometimes when we see similar situations, is easier to keep going.

So, did anyone experience anything similar to this?

Checkout /r/personalfinance on reddit for help with your finances. And /r/frugal

[wwconkright 1]

If you guys like driving and he is looking for a job, maybe you might consider doing trucking for awhile, if you have no kids then wife can accompany hubby in most companies and even train to be a driver herself. If your driving and criminal records are clean and you are not overweight, then you are good to go, it might take coupld of months for training to get your license , but then once hired you guys could move out and live in the truck for awhile and drive across country, just an idea. Stop by a truck stop for the best advice who to go with