I Don't Often Rant; but When I Do, I Prefer to Rant on VJ

[Caryh 5,206]

Stretch catches catfish with her bare hands.

I thought is was the hillbilly's job to go noodling?

[SAT 9,609]

Stretch eats catfish with her bare hands....

Tark cleans toilets with his bare hands.....

[*Snowdrop* 604]

Caryh - so one of the reasons we are living here is it's a family property so we don't have to worry about rent. But you're right that the tension on both sides comes from being under a lot of strain on both sides. I do see his point too.

And yes - there was living beyond means which happened before I got here - and we are paying the costs of that now. I am a good budgeter though so I am getting things under control but it has been a tough few years - the savings were mostly taken up with emergencies like car repairs, hospital co-pays, etc. Which I guess is what savings are for.

Also I think we are a bit burnt out emotionally after the stress of losing my Mum to cancer, dealing with the terrible toddler years , plus the terrible teenage years etc.

It was nice to rant about it though last night - I haven't really moaned about it to anyone else because I don't want people from home to worry that I'm not happy over here.

[Caryh 5,206]

speaking of seafood. I just realized last night I've been eating seafood all week.

Monday backed spicy crab

Tuesday pompano on the grill

Wednesday whole shrimp (with the heads like they should be), sauteed in some new idea my wife thought of, which tasted fantastic.

I better get some real meat tonight or I'm gonna start growing gills.

[*Snowdrop* 604]

I guess -

I Don't Often Rant; but When I Do, I Prefer to Rant on VJ

[SAT 9,609]

I think Stretch said she making a smoked turkey

I guess -

I Don't Often Rant; but When I Do, I Prefer to Rant on VJ

Love that sense of humor

Keep yapping to us, we'll make you nuts like the rest of us

Juna gonna serve eggrolls for dinner.....

Ah craps.....time for my third coffee.....

Edited September 25, 2014 by SAT

[Merrytooth 5,748]

She did a "Jada"

Oh.. you are good at creating new words.

I have a cold, go make me some congee

Ask your new company girl to buy takeout for you.

I loved living rural. But I didn't truly realize how much it was costing me until I moved back to the burbs.

I can't stand the mozzies and creepy bugs.

And I like to have electricity and fresh water.

[SAT 9,609]

Oh.. you are good at creating new words.

Ask your new company girl to buy takeout for you.

I can't stand the mozzies and creepy bugs.

And I like to have electricity and fresh water.

1- thank you

2- I want home cooked

3- how pinicky of you.....

[Caryh 5,206]

Caryh - so one of the reasons we are living here is it's a family property so we don't have to worry about rent. But you're right that the tension on both sides comes from being under a lot of strain on both sides. I do see his point too.

And yes - there was living beyond means which happened before I got here - and we are paying the costs of that now. I am a good budgeter though so I am getting things under control but it has been a tough few years - the savings were mostly taken up with emergencies like car repairs, hospital co-pays, etc. Which I guess is what savings are for.

Also I think we are a bit burnt out emotionally after the stress of losing my Mum to cancer, dealing with the terrible toddler years , plus the terrible teenage years etc.

It was nice to rant about it though last night - I haven't really moaned about it to anyone else because I don't want people from home to worry that I'm not happy over here.

I know it helps to let out a rant now and again! I do it myself on occasion.

I'm sure you're letting the stress make you feel more negative about the situation to. After all, you were a big money maker and now you've a greatly reduced income and likely working harder than you did before, yet where is it getting you?

Besides including the comment about your husband being an azz for heaping blame on you, to point out your husband is probably feeling as trapped in the situation as you. He's already gone 12 hours a day working, what more can he do?

Having chosen to live in the sticks myself for a number of years, and yes one of the reasons was rent was cheap. But I didn't really realize how much extra it costs to live out there. You need something, you either go without, travel a long ways to get it, or buy it closer and pay much more. The miles on my truck was wearing it out faster requiring more repairs, gas and sooner looming need to replace it. Plus the time each day, OMG was that a huge cost. Now my trip was only an hour each way, so its nothing like his 2 hours. But think about it, you're working 8 hours, you've got 60 minutes for lunch, you sleep 8 hours, you've got an hour at least getting ready to go to work. That gives you 7 hours for dinner with family and enjoying life, but you'd be spending 4 of those hours driving. Now you're down to 3 hours to eat with your family, live and de-stress from the day. Why spend over half of your living for yourself time each on the road? How much more could he help at home if he was there even 2 or 3 more hours a day, giving him 5 or 6 hours? How much would that help to make your and his life better? And getting rid of a ton of chores for you to, maybe you could find time to bring in even a little more cash each month.

Sounds like you have a pretty decent husband from other things you've said about him. But I think the two of you might be working yourself to the bone and not allowing enough time together to enjoy life and even just be lazy together for a bit each day. And the reason might be because you think you're saving money by not paying rent, but the cost to do so might be higher than rent.

[SAT 9,609]

That's a long commute. Gas is costly....

[NikLR 13,227]

I have to agree. I think a serious discussion about moving closer to town would be ideal. Even if you do end up working outside the home, as your child gets older, then you'll both be doing this horrendous commute. It's nothing but that really. You'll get more family time, more couple time, less wear and tear on the vehicle(s?) And less gas.

We're buying a house and have to seriously look at getting a more fuel efficient vehicle. Beyond gas costs, our lifted Jeep just can't take the wear and tear as a daily driver. A truck would even be a better option at this point.

On a personal rant my daughter wants to spend Xmas day in Canada because it's been 4 years since she's woken up in HER bed. Apparently her bed at my house doesn't count. While I get how she feels, I've been through it, it's my Christmas year and I think I should force the issue. I also think she should be coming down more of the time but my darn job just doesn't pay for all that. I'm worried about losing my job to take off that Xmas time too, even though I'd like to start schooling (even more of a reason to need a fuel efficient car as the school is in downtown Denver and not close to (new I hope) home. I'm lost at what to do.... I think she just needs to spend more time here.

Edited September 25, 2014 by NLR

[SAT 9,609]

I know someone selling a dodge neon

[Caryh 5,206]

I have to agree. I think a serious discussion about moving closer to town would be ideal. Even if you do end up working outside the home, as your child gets older, then you'll both be doing this horrendous commute. It's nothing but that really. You'll get more family time, more couple time, less wear and tear on the vehicle(s?) And less gas.

We're buying a house and have to seriously look at getting a more fuel efficient vehicle. Beyond gas costs, our lifted Jeep just can't take the wear and tear as a daily driver. A truck would even be a better option at this point.

On a personal rant my daughter wants to spend Xmas day in Canada because it's been 4 years since she's woken up in HER bed. Apparently her bed at my house doesn't count. While I gwt how she feels, I've been through it, it's my Christmas year and I think I should force the issue. I also think she should be coming down more of the but my darn job just doesn't pay for all that. I'm worried about losing my job to take off that Xmas time too, even though I'd like to start schooling (even more of a reason to need a fuel efficient car as the school is in downtown Denver and not close to (new I hope) home. I'm lost at what to do.... I think she just needs to spend more time here.

You're the mommy, she's the kid. Tell her its not doable this year and quit feeling guilty because its not. I know we all would like to do everything for our kids, but there is still the reality that not everything is possible.

I know someone selling a dodge neon

could a dodge neon make it that far?

[NikLR 13,227]

Doubtful. Lol

[Darnell 8,478]

1) Just like I said... Lazy

2) I'm not gonna ask him. I suspect it's something pejorative, since I didn't agree with something what that person wrote. But it's all good

maybe a combo / mash up of

finicky with picky with something else (that escaped me)