I Don't Often Rant; but When I Do, I Prefer to Rant on VJ

[TBoneTX 45,382]

1. No, these were fresh clean clothes that just needed to be put away.

2. Yeah, it has been rough, much rougher than I thought it would be. Even something as simple as going grocery shopping is a grueling and exhausting experience. That, and the pain in my back and my joints. (maybe it is a good think to get used to not taking anti-inflammatories) Ouch man. I don't know what kind of super viking I'm growing, but I feel like I've been run over by a freight train. At least the super acne has died down some.

Many. Edit: He doesn't re-wear clothes no matter the smell factor. I do though! No reason to wash something that is basically clean.

1. Did he plan to wear some of them imminently, or leave them out to consider wearing some of them imminently, huh ma'am? (This is an aspect of Higher Male Thinking that few chicas comprehend, si man.)

2. [takes Nola by shoulders and shakes, see ma'am] Dear, a lot (a LOT!) of your bodily pains can almost certainly be muted or banished via acupuncture, see here ma'am. Having been in your situation within vivid recent memory, I hate to see you suffer. Will you PLEASE investigate the nearby acupuncturists, or at least PM me with your location so that I and my resources can do such legwork for you, huh ma'am?

Many. Where were you when I was single, huh ma'am?

super drunk. bartender should be given an award for those mango martinis YUM.

Fotoes of drunk Singapura or she didn't happen, see or no ma'am. If too late, fotoes of hung-over Singapura or she didn't go partying, see or no ma'am.

In before the nightly monologue.

Just made it, si ma'am! Now read and dialogue, plea ma'am.

[TBoneTX 45,382]

1. Brain power, see man?

2. si man......

Many. It's the cesspool of Destiny, and I'm the Tarklar.....

Many. Si man.....

1. You have finally read my august materials (September though it be) and seen the light, see light man.

2. Imitation is the sincerest form of flattery, oj tak.

Many. You can aspire to this dream only in your dreams, sorry man.

Many. Oj tak.

[TBoneTX 45,382]

Tark cleans toilets with his bare hands.....

This menial chore is delegated to the most base of my underlings, see here man. I spray, they clean, si man.

speaking of seafood. I just realized last night I've been eating seafood all week.

When I see food, I eat it, sea man.

[N-o-l-a 7,167]

1. Did he plan to wear some of them imminently, or leave them out to consider wearing some of them imminently, huh ma'am? (This is an aspect of Higher Male Thinking that few chicas comprehend, si man.)

2. [takes Nola by shoulders and shakes, see ma'am] Dear, a lot (a LOT!) of your bodily pains can almost certainly be muted or banished via acupuncture, see here ma'am. Having been in your situation within vivid recent memory, I hate to see you suffer. Will you PLEASE investigate the nearby acupuncturists, or at least PM me with your location so that I and my resources can do such legwork for you, huh ma'am?

1. Nope and this is typical him behavior. When I first went to visit him in DK, his dresser was empty and his clean clothes in bags. *sigh* Can't say I wasn't warned.

2. There are maybe 2 about 45 minutes from here, but that drive makes me want to take a nap while driving.

[TBoneTX 45,382]

1. clean house - Many/hour

2. garden work - Many/hour

Many. take care of child - Many/hour

Many. cooking - Many/hour

Many. wood restocking during winter time - Many/hour [sorry]

start making compost, 1 to Many tonnes/month

Tarkculus applied via Polish math, oj tak.

He might use Tarkculus to figure this out.....

See above, see man.

take Many aspirin then

The perfect number, si man!

Why is tiff texting me like crazy.....

She's up to no good.....

She's fooling around with her rojo, see man. Ignore her and return to one or more of your rubias, whee man.

Edited September 26, 2014 by TBoneTX

[TBoneTX 45,382]

Doing the math

Doing the math

IMO, it's personal finance Many.

(Polish) Math done, see above man.

because she's bored laying on her back while her bf has sex with her?

I already said that she's with her rojo, validation man.

all the toilet seats

[perks up ears] Did someone say "toilet $eat$," huh man?

1. fat pic of tiff

2. Tark is pumping porta-jons right now.....

1. Is there any other kind of wife-foto, man?

2. As stated, delegated to base underlings, hmmmph man. I personally continue to rake in megabuck$ from sales of pre-owned toilet seats, $i man.

Edited September 26, 2014 by TBoneTX

[TBoneTX 45,382]

Oh btw....the Dow took a dive, your Manys are shot.....

Your Polish math is corrected, oj tak.

I'm hungrier than Tarklar at an all you can eat taco stand...

No one surpasses moi in said situation, no man.

Had a grilled chicken sandwich. Many bucks....

Hard to find a place around here that charges that much, no man. Texas Many, Nueva York zero, again man.

[TBoneTX 45,382]

See?

You came to work.

You've already drunk Many coffees.

And now you're saying you're hungry and leaving for lunch.

And you want us to believe you actually come to work to do some working?

+1 despite Polish-math goof, oj tak.

[TBoneTX 45,382]

You can get a Many square foot home sick built here for Many k.

You can get a MANY-sq.-ft. casa built here for only Many k, ha man. Texas Many, Nueva York zero, again man.

Nice weekend project !

And ideal to double as a taco truck, whee man!

[rlogan 2,036]

Moved to the US - with no debt (worked like a crazy person for the whole year of immigration process to make sure I paid off all student loans and credit card debt ect) plus I took a redundancy package on my stable staff job which gave me a whole year of income plus three months paid leave.

Despite having the whole (I thought) money talk before we got married,when I arrived discovered my husband had severe credit card debts plus really heavybstudent load repayments.

I have used all my savings/retirement ($90,000+) over the last six years to supplement our income because I have not been working full time but that doesn't seem to count.

Also we live in a 19th century log cabin in the middle of the country in Virginia, our only heat is a wood stove in winter and there is no air con in summer. It's not an easy life. Sometimes it's under 20F inside when we get up in the morning, in winter I spend all day stacking the wood stove, somedays I do all our cooking on the top of the woodstove. Some winters it's been so cold during the day that I wear my full ski gear inside the house all day.

I do all the cooking, cleaning, laundry, 80 percent of the childcare, 50 percent of the vegetable gardening and work 20-24 hours a week online as a website manager.

Thoughts...?

You did not imagine having the money talk before marriage.

You were lied to. Not just about money. It comes down to character: what they are willing to perpetrate upon another person. They're going to say that they did it out of their love for you. They were afraid they were going to lose you so lying about something so terribly important to you actually proves how deep their love is. It's absurd of course, the exact opposite of what love is and indeed yes - if you knew what kind of person they were then you would not have married them. So it comes down to deceiving someone into marrying you.

Would you do that to someone? Of course not. It would be unthinkable to you.

The tactic he used is called the double-bind: put you in a situation where once you come over here and discover the truth you have only two losing choices: go back home, and face the wreckage of having made the mistake, or as you said put a stiff upper lip on it and tolerate having been lied to about what kind of person this is. The most important thing to understand about this is how carefully he thought through making sure to get you over a barrel before letting you find out.

Student loan debt, house debt, but most especially credit card debt: that's not some accidental lightning bolt that hits people randomly. It goes to what kind of person you are. The choices you make. Your choice was to work like an ox financially before coming over and his choice was to conceal debt from you until it was too late, after you had already told him how important avoiding debt was to you.

From that alone it's pretty bad but with beating you down to the point where no amount of work you do is enough for him to even acknowledge your effort..... gah! He knows better than you do how absurd it would be to pay day care, commute, be away from your daughter, etc. - the point is to make you feel bad. The most financially responsible person is made out to be the problem by the person who is the least financially responsible.

That's how they work. No conscience whatsoever. Since you have a conscience, exploiting yours is a cakewalk.

Well my thoughts are that no amount of explaining, arguing, or pleading is going to matter. Working harder too - all of these are just going to exhaust you. What you do is lay down conditions. Boundaries. Along with what you are doing if they are not met. You better be prepared to follow through. The fact you let him get away with such a devastating deception was bad precedent. They keep returning to strategies that work. Children are a classic double-bind too and you have already explained why. Put up with abuse in order to keep the kids in the abusive marriage instead of a broken marriage where the wife has control of her life back.

It isn't easy. But you have to stand up for yourself. People can be made to change when they are facing consequences they don't want. It doesn't mean threatening divorce recklessly. Whatever it is, do it openly and above board instead of something like cutting off sex and refusing to say why- thinking that he will get the message you are refusing to put into words. Tell him. This is not making me happy. STFU about me working outside the home. Not another word or - [condition].

Such a person understands consequences.

Edited September 26, 2014 by rlogan

[TBoneTX 45,382]

1. I'm laying out the pieces tonight, tinker-toy fashion, making the cuts at the farmhouse, building a wall at a time. Final construction will be 'nail walls together and put the roof on'. I really like the idea of the opening wall as well.

2. My only real concern is what to sleep on, but I have a futon thingie that's comfy.

1. Before-, during-, and after-fotoes or it won't be/isn't being/wasn't built, see and see and see or no or no or no man.

2. You should be concerned about what to poop on, see man. Will jump you over the waiting-list crowd and fix you up with the finest available pre-owned TS, D man.

saturday or sunday

But not before brownies, see here ma'am!

Edited September 26, 2014 by TBoneTX

[TBoneTX 45,382]

I will freely admit to acting my shoe size as often as I can get away with it.

But do you wear a size Many or a size Many? Details are important, see man.

Hubs wears size Many shoes. I can fit my whole foot, from toe to heel just on the part from ankle to toe on him. I has size Many.Many.

That's only a half-size difference, see ma'am.

What does this have to do with my new pencil sharpener?

If you continue to spam the thread with off-topic material, a thread-ban is in your future, see here man.

Isn't that the dog someone suggested Niki get? Ipso fatso?

Oj nie nie nie -- it was a Llama Alpo, see woof man.

It would be cheaper for me to go out and buy one.

At Harbor Freight, obviously. Good choice, D ma'am.

I put a pic of short and fat tiff on PB

Fotoes HERE or the shortness/fatness didn't happen, see blubber or no man.

[TBoneTX 45,382]

1. Nope and this is typical him behavior. When I first went to visit him in DK, his dresser was empty and his clean clothes in bags. *sigh* Can't say I wasn't warned.

2. There are maybe 2 about Many minutes from here, but that drive makes me want to take a nap while driving.

1. I retrospectively recall observations of Mrs. T-B.-to-be's lifestyle quirks that have definitely carried over as quirks in her lifestyle as Mrs. T-B. that I have observed, she man.

2. Consider how much more awake you'd be while driving if you got better (any) sleep at night, which acupunking can also help with, see here ma'am. Hate to see you suffer, sigh ma'am.

Edited September 26, 2014 by TBoneTX

[Asia 2,498]

Morning!

[Asia 2,498]

shipping containers might be perfect for the structure.

What about heating such homes?

How do you make it warm and cozy inside?

I've been wondering about it for a while now...