The NVC Moral Support/Ranting Thread

[Soloenta 2,218]

Thanks Soloenta. It makes me so angry and I just don't get it. To be literally told by an immigration judge to quit my PhD and start one in the US, when i'm a British citizen and have lived here for 24 out of 28 years of my life, is just disgusting. Any foreign student in my department is permitted to have their spouse with them, likewise any other EU citizen (non-British) has the right to live here with their EU spouse or their foreign spouse. Why am I denied the right in my own country? Most importantly, why is my dual US/British citizen daughter not allowed to have her father here?! I could understand if I wasn't working or if my husband was flagged for something but the only reason they give is because I gave birth to my daughter in the US and therefore I should live there. It's so petty! I'm so angry. I wanted more time with my family here and wanted to make the choice to go to the US or not.

I'm struggling with the thought of my husband leaving and going back home. I feel pathetic. Most of you wonderful people on here have been separated from your spouse for such a long time and i'm whining about a few months. I think the main issue though, other my daughter being heartbroken, is the fact that it's forced. If he were moving back for a job and to get our lives situated I would feel so much better. Instead, we have to go to the airport for him to be given his passport and watched to make sure he gets on a plane. It's evil and I feel like I can't handle it. I haven't done anything wrong and neither has he yet we're being punished. Sooooo many women in his position have been granted permission to stay because they clearly value motherhood over fatherhood. Furthermore, men earn more here and are more likely to be able to meet the financial requirements.

I'm so sorry for the rant but I honestly don't know how i'm going to drop him off at the airport, see my daughter cry and not want to punch or yell at the immigration officer. If I had my US citizenship I would probably lose my mind at them, but my fear of this IR-1 being denied means I have to just sit by and watch my life ripped from me. Now i'm sounding over dramatic, but due to some previous life struggles I have been plagued with an anxiety disorder and agoraphobia. He's my rock and whenever I can't leave the house, he has always taken over for me. The UK government told me that because i've always had anxiety, I should know how to cope. #######. I just hate this place more than anything.

Sorry again. You are all so strong. Hopefully some of the strength in this forum can rub off on me because right now I have none.

I wish I was there to give you a big hug and look into your eyes and tell you WHAT ARE YOU TALKING ABOUT, SORRY FOR THE RANT! That's what this thread is for and if anyone has the right to rant it's you. All governments seem to be the same with some exceptions. I know very well how unfair they can be. You have to wonder how they get to these conclusions. I'll tell you here in the USA they would have let your husband stay they take anxiety and agoraphobia seriously, but I think that might be the only difference. I also find the inequality of men and women disturbing, most women cry they aren't equal but men are the ones that suffer when it comes to family as in your case and mainly in divorce.

I totally understand your anguish when it comes to being pushed to do something against your will, our lives are in the hands of strangers (immigration) who don't care or know us at all. For now we are in their hands but soon God willing we will have our lives back.

Yes we have waited a long time but it doesn't make your pain any less nor do I think your whining at all. Your pain and anguish is just as valid as ours and your little one well poor sweet baby but soon her heart will heal and forget about this nightmare. Please remember we are always here for you to listen and if possible try to help.

You're in my prayers and in the prayers of many here I know, these are the most wonderful people I have met and we will get you through this. God bless you and many prayers going your way.

[romii 150]

Just got off the phone with GUS at the NVC... oh Gus, sweet Gus... the NICEST rep I've ever talked to...

He was nice even before I gave him my case number...

but once he looked at my file, he became my favorite person in all of NVCdom...

CASE COMPLETE :joy: :joy: :joy:

Wow congratulations!!!

[romii 150]

Spoke with Olivia at NVC. My last scan date is 30 July. My AOS has not been reviewed yet. She asked me to keep an eye on my email...

No luck for me this week guys... EOC4ever and all other end of July people, hopefully next week could be the week for us!!!

Which means your AOS has been reviewed! I spoke with Arthur the day my IV package was reviewed and he said it hasn't been reviewed but you should be getting an email soon. I got off the phone saying ok. But then later I thought about it, NVC never sends out emails unless they have a checklist and why did he tell me that I would getting an email.

So I called back saying I think my papers have been reviewed and surely enough they were and I had a checklist, which is what Arthur was referring to as my email. God forbid you have a checklist but honestly they never tell you to keep an eye on your email unless they've reviewed the documents.

Edited September 20, 2014 by romii

[samreen23 461]

Which means your AOS has been reviewed! I spoke with Arthur the day my IV package was reviewed and he said it hasn't been reviewed but you should be getting an email soon. I got off the phone saying ok. But then later I thought about it, NVC never sends out emails unless they have a checklist and why did he tell me that I would getting an email.

So I called back saying I think my papers have been reviewed and surely enough they were and I had a checklist, which is what Arthur was referring to as my email. God forbid you have a checklist but honestly they never tell you to keep an eye on your email unless they've reviewed the documents.

No romii they tell everybody to keep an eye on email because according to them they send a reponse right away when something is reviewed and they don't want us to call them repeatedly. I don't thnk it's anything to worry about

[anuspras 65]

Ahhhhhhhhh................ A lot of speculation isn't it, and why not when you are dealing with NVC..... I don't know if I have a checklist coming but here is how the call went.

I give her my case number and clearly hear her tapping her keyboard.... In a moment almost instantly she tells me, "I see your AOS was received on July the 30th and it's not been reviewed yet". I once again ask her "So it's not yet been reviewed yet right?" and she replied "Yes it's not been reviewed it." I say "oh ok".. It's then she told me "NVC communicates by email, and you need to keep an eye on your email" I said "I surely will do that". She asked me "anything else". I said "ah nothing else but thanks a lot for the information" She said "Bye and have a nice day"

Now, I don't know what you guys can make out of this call, but I surely am going to need some sleeping pills through the week end!!!

[samreen23 461]

Ahhhhhhhhh................ A lot of speculation isn't it, and why not when you are dealing with NVC..... I don't know if I have a checklist coming but here is how the call went.

I give her my case number and clearly hear her tapping her keyboard.... In a moment almost instantly she tells me, "I see your AOS was received on July the 30th and it's not been reviewed yet". I once again ask her "So it's not yet been reviewed yet right?" and she replied "Yes it's not been reviewed it." I say "oh ok".. It's then she told me "NVC communicates by email, and you need to keep an eye on your email" I said "I surely will do that". She asked me "anything else". I said "ah nothing else but thanks a lot for the information" She said "Bye and have a nice day"

Now, I don't know what you guys can make out of this call, but I surely am going to need some sleeping pills through the week end!!!

Lol it's what they tell everybody Anuspras! Relax and enjoy ur weekend. U have a good news coming ur way on Monday

[iffatnasim 3]

No romii they tell everybody to keep an eye on email because according to them they send a reponse right away when something is reviewed and they don't want us to call them repeatedly. I don't thnk it's anything to worry about

samreen23 can you please tell me from where you translated and attested your Urdu nikahnama

[samreen23 461]

samreen23 can you please tell me from where you translated and attested your Urdu nikahnama

I got translated it from the place beside FTC where there are people sitting for attestation. But. Never got any different stamp on my Nikah Nama. I got my nadra marriage cert, birth cert attested from ministry of foreign affairs, that too from FTC.

[anuspras 65]

Lol it's what they tell everybody Anuspras! Relax and enjoy ur weekend. U have a good news coming ur way on Monday

Thanks a lot samreen23... You really are an angel!!! Will keep you all posted about my progress next week...

Shall keep praying for your AOS checklist to get reviewed and accepted at the earliest... Have a wonderful week end buddy!!!

[samreen23 461]

Thanks a lot samreen23... You really are an angel!!! Will keep you all posted about my progress next week...

Shall keep praying for your AOS checklist to get reviewed and accepted at the earliest... Have a wonderful week end buddy!!!

Aww Thankyou so much! Yes we all are waiting to hear the good news and celebrate with u!!

[Robisons 91]

I wish I was there to give you a big hug and look into your eyes and tell you WHAT ARE YOU TALKING ABOUT, SORRY FOR THE RANT! That's what this thread is for and if anyone has the right to rant it's you. All governments seem to be the same with some exceptions. I know very well how unfair they can be. You have to wonder how they get to these conclusions. I'll tell you here in the USA they would have let your husband stay they take anxiety and agoraphobia seriously, but I think that might be the only difference. I also find the inequality of men and women disturbing, most women cry they aren't equal but men are the ones that suffer when it comes to family as in your case and mainly in divorce.

I totally understand your anguish when it comes to being pushed to do something against your will, our lives are in the hands of strangers (immigration) who don't care or know us at all. For now we are in their hands but soon God willing we will have our lives back.

Yes we have waited a long time but it doesn't make your pain any less nor do I think your whining at all. Your pain and anguish is just as valid as ours and your little one well poor sweet baby but soon her heart will heal and forget about this nightmare. Please remember we are always here for you to listen and if possible try to help.

You're in my prayers and in the prayers of many here I know, these are the most wonderful people I have met and we will get you through this. God bless you and many prayers going your way.

This made me so teary eyed. You are such a sweetheart. I just feel like i'm teetering on the edge of a huge panic attack/melt down. In May I didn't get out of bed or eat for 2 weeks due to anxiety over this. Saying goodbye and driving away from the airport will be one of the hardest days of my life.

I just need a volcano in Iceland to erupt and stop air travel so I can keep him here!

If I get a checklist, I honestly have no idea how I will cope. I will lose my PhD candidacy and not see my husband -- it's too much to think about.

[iffatnasim 3]

I got translated it from the place beside FTC where there are people sitting for attestation. But. Never got any different stamp on my Nikah Nama. I got my nadra marriage cert, birth cert attested from ministry of foreign affairs, that too from FTC.

Thank you so much samreen23 for your reply...we already sent out civil documents without original nikahnama ...our attorney is such an incompetent person delaying our process

[romii 150]

No romii they tell everybody to keep an eye on email because according to them they send a reponse right away when something is reviewed and they don't want us to call them repeatedly. I don't thnk it's anything to worry about

Really oh sorry! I hadn't heard that before, which is why I concluded that.

[romii 150]

Ahhhhhhhhh................ A lot of speculation isn't it, and why not when you are dealing with NVC..... I don't know if I have a checklist coming but here is how the call went.

I give her my case number and clearly hear her tapping her keyboard.... In a moment almost instantly she tells me, "I see your AOS was received on July the 30th and it's not been reviewed yet". I once again ask her "So it's not yet been reviewed yet right?" and she replied "Yes it's not been reviewed it." I say "oh ok".. It's then she told me "NVC communicates by email, and you need to keep an eye on your email" I said "I surely will do that". She asked me "anything else". I said "ah nothing else but thanks a lot for the information" She said "Bye and have a nice day"

Now, I don't know what you guys can make out of this call, but I surely am going to need some sleeping pills through the week end!!!

Don't worry anuspras, yes that doesn't sound like what I was told. He just said "you should be getting an email" to me, which triggered my whole thought process. InshAllah you will have them reviewed and accepted by Monday. I didn't mean to cause you worry

[samreen23 461]

Thank you so much samreen23 for your reply...we already sent out civil documents without original nikahnama ...our attorney is such an incompetent person delaying our process

Oh no! When did u send the IV documents? Send ur original Nikah Nama both English Urdu ASAP with IV cover sheet! They will definitely checklist u for that.