Discouraged. Will it ever end...

[DarwishAE 19]

Excuse my novel, I need to vent.

My husband and I started this process a year and a half ago. His interview was September 1st and the CO told my husband he was lying and gave him a paper to submit more evidence of our relationship, specifically Facebook messages, since that is usually the most convenient way for us to speak. He really had an issue with there being a language barrier, something we both knew might be a problem.

We had red flags like most. Met through mutual friends and had a short courtship before we got married. There's definitely a language barrier, which has actually strengthened our communication considerably. We really take the time to listen to each other and talk things through.

Right now, I just feel numb. We submitted the extra evidence same day as the interview but I can't get ahold of the embassy to confirm if they recieved it. I've got a terrible cold which is not helping me physically or emotionally, nor is the fact I suffer from clinical depression and anxiety. I feel so exhausted with this process. Not having my husband here is taking its toll day by day. Cairo is known for lengthy AP and thinking about it just makes me sick to my stomach. I really thought things would be fine. I've made 3, month long trips to see him and we had plenty of photos with family and friends. We showed proof of ongoing communication and cards from special occasions. Receipts from two hotels booked in both our names. It all went the opposite of what we were praying for.

All I am doing now is retracing the steps, wondering what we could have done better. I know not having an actual wedding probably worked against us, but we really didn't have the money for one and I didn't want anything.

Going to Egypt wreaks havoc on my body. Not once did I come home and not end up in the hospital. My last trip I went to 2 different Egyptian hospitals and the ended up in the ER in Chicago on my way back home. Our backup plan is for me to move there and I just don't know how I will handle it physically. I don't even know how I will manage another trip there if I have to.

I'm not looking for tough love. I've been harassed one too many times on this site. I really am just looking for people who understand this feeling. We're all in this together.

[Ryan H 3,828]

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[Ning 619]

Excuse my novel, I need to vent.

My husband and I started this process a year and a half ago. His interview was September 1st and the CO told my husband he was lying and gave him a paper to submit more evidence of our relationship, specifically Facebook messages, since that is usually the most convenient way for us to speak. He really had an issue with there being a language barrier, something we both knew might be a problem.

We had red flags like most. Met through mutual friends and had a short courtship before we got married. There's definitely a language barrier, which has actually strengthened our communication considerably. We really take the time to listen to each other and talk things through.

Right now, I just feel numb. We submitted the extra evidence same day as the interview but I can't get ahold of the embassy to confirm if they recieved it. I've got a terrible cold which is not helping me physically or emotionally, nor is the fact I suffer from clinical depression and anxiety. I feel so exhausted with this process. Not having my husband here is taking its toll day by day. Cairo is known for lengthy AP and thinking about it just makes me sick to my stomach. I really thought things would be fine. I've made 3, month long trips to see him and we had plenty of photos with family and friends. We showed proof of ongoing communication and cards from special occasions. Receipts from two hotels booked in both our names. It all went the opposite of what we were praying for.

All I am doing now is retracing the steps, wondering what we could have done better. I know not having an actual wedding probably worked against us, but we really didn't have the money for one and I didn't want anything.

Going to Egypt wreaks havoc on my body. Not once did I come home and not end up in the hospital. My last trip I went to 2 different Egyptian hospitals and the ended up in the ER in Chicago on my way back home. Our backup plan is for me to move there and I just don't know how I will handle it physically. I don't even know how I will manage another trip there if I have to.

I'm not looking for tough love. I've been harassed one too many times on this site. I really am just looking for people who understand this feeling. We're all in this together.

No one here can say for certain what will happen in your case of course but From what you have said here and in other posts you have a very good chance being approved. I am hopeful that your case will be able to avoid the lengthy A P some endure because of the amount of time you spent in Egypt and other aspects of your relationship.

While I don't believe in your god I know Christians that do believe as you do. You said this was in gods hands before. If that is what you believe then find your peace in that while understanding if that's true it will all work out in the right time. I do believe in Karma so from what I have seen in your posts you have spent a lot of time and effort doing all the right things while enduring this painful process as I did in the past. Lets hope that whatever forces are part of this you will have what you worked for.

[GrayL 47]

Excuse my novel, I need to vent.

My husband and I started this process a year and a half ago. His interview was September 1st and the CO told my husband he was lying and gave him a paper to submit more evidence of our relationship, specifically Facebook messages, since that is usually the most convenient way for us to speak. He really had an issue with there being a language barrier, something we both knew might be a problem.

We had red flags like most. Met through mutual friends and had a short courtship before we got married. There's definitely a language barrier, which has actually strengthened our communication considerably. We really take the time to listen to each other and talk things through.

Right now, I just feel numb. We submitted the extra evidence same day as the interview but I can't get ahold of the embassy to confirm if they recieved it. I've got a terrible cold which is not helping me physically or emotionally, nor is the fact I suffer from clinical depression and anxiety. I feel so exhausted with this process. Not having my husband here is taking its toll day by day. Cairo is known for lengthy AP and thinking about it just makes me sick to my stomach. I really thought things would be fine. I've made 3, month long trips to see him and we had plenty of photos with family and friends. We showed proof of ongoing communication and cards from special occasions. Receipts from two hotels booked in both our names. It all went the opposite of what we were praying for.

All I am doing now is retracing the steps, wondering what we could have done better. I know not having an actual wedding probably worked against us, but we really didn't have the money for one and I didn't want anything.

Going to Egypt wreaks havoc on my body. Not once did I come home and not end up in the hospital. My last trip I went to 2 different Egyptian hospitals and the ended up in the ER in Chicago on my way back home. Our backup plan is for me to move there and I just don't know how I will handle it physically. I don't even know how I will manage another trip there if I have to.

I'm not looking for tough love. I've been harassed one too many times on this site. I really am just looking for people who understand this feeling. We're all in this together.

I would like to say first off, hang in there, and no one deserves to give you tough love. Love is the catalyst here and love goes beyond superficial limits like language, color, age. So I applaud you, when you've found 'the one' you've found it and you and only you has the right to validate that. I think a lot of people on here (including me and my wife) were put until scrutiny for suggesting one half of you ups and leaves their home country forever.

The way I like to see it (and saw it); Let people bring it on, it only increases the amount of egg on their face when you prove them wrong! That was definitely the case for us.

Anyway now that that is addressed, I want to address your issue:

I am sorry this is happening, it seems by what you're saying your evidence and proof of genuine relationship is solid and I am a firm believer that eventually this will pay off for you, keep on keeping on and don't give up the fight; ever! Not familiar with Cairo, but it might be one of their tactics, to accuse you to see the response.. a fraudulent application might just stop there "oh they got us", but you are genuine and must keep on the trail...

Every single person on here will feel your pain, you WILL have your husband here soon, it WILL happen, you just wait and see... remember you have the leg up, and don't even know it. you have a genuine relationship with plenty of love to boot, remember that and be strong.

And gosh, I hope you feel better soon, these process take down the best of us, that is true. Just remind yourself that when this is all done and your husband is home where he belongs, all this will be worth it.

Good Luck!

[Glyn and Kathy 288]

I don't know much about Egypt and the process there, but I do know about being apart from the person you love, and anxiety and depression (Spent my own time in hospital for that). Just wanted to say hang in there. I know its hard. We all do. In the end, you will look back at this time in your lives together as a brief blip....you'll have stories of "remember when". Good luck!

[HoussemAnna 20]

I GOT SICK VISITING MY HUSBAND THE ONE AND ONLY TIME I DID, AND EVERYTHING YOU SAID IS SIMILAR IN SOME WAYS TO MY STORY. MY HUSBAND JUST WAS SUPPOSED TO HAVE HIS INTERVIEW BUT OUR PAPERS NEVER ARRIVED SO WE ARE WAITING UNTIL THE EMBASSY IN TUNISIA RECEIVES THEM WE HAVE TO WAIT MORE...... IT REALLY MAKES YOU EMOTIONAL. I HOPE YOUR CASE WILL MOVE FASTER AND YOU GET APPROVED SOON .

[Torete 121]

OP,

Sorry to hear you've been harassed one too many times on this site; that's unfortunate.

I'm guessing the vast majority of us are able to sympathize if not empathize with what you're going through.

My only comment is in regards to your medical difficulties as I'm sure they're only exacerbating your situation.

At the moment and as best you're able, try to concentrate on that aspect of this journey as they are two conditions

you have at least some control over. If you're taking medications, continue doing so. Exercise, eat healthy...common

sense things like that. It may not alleviate your current feelings, but they may help.

Rest assured there are many who can identify with your situation.

Regards.

[DarwishAE 19]

Thank you to everyone who has commented. I really appreciate all the words of support. My husband is the one to be able to balance me out but even his words have fallen to deaf ears at times over this past week. Sometimes you just need someone else's insight.

When he tells me he still feels like everything will be ok, I know he means that 100% from his heart. It's just really hard for me to be able to truly believe that right now.

[LionessDeon 2,060]

I feel for you and understand exactly how u must feel. I'm doing the K1 but I'm also worried they won't believe our relationship is genuine.

I also was sick for an entire week after returning from my last visit with headaches and exhaustion. Traveling so far, flight delays, and time differences not to mention the pure heartbreak of leaving is enough to break you. I admire your strength and pray God will bring ur husband home to you! Best of luck for health and happiness!

Edited September 7, 2014 by LionessDeon

[Mark&GinaW 4]

You'll be okay Missy, my wife feels the same way. although I haven't had all the medical issues I have gone to see her a couple of times and I am about to do so again. This process takes a long time, longer than it should, but if you both stick it out and rejoice in every small victory you will make it through to the end as an incredibly strong couple. This process tries our very souls and exposes each others character right to its very core. If you have the conviction and the commitment there is no way they can deny your application, I wholeheartedly believe this. Stay strong everyone here is rooting for you. It might not hurt if you say a little prayer for the rest of us too while you're at it. ;-)

[DarwishAE 19]

I feel for you and understand exactly how u must feel. I'm doing the K1 but I'm also worried they won't believe our relationship is genuine.

I also was sick for an entire week after returning from my last visit with headaches and exhaustion. Traveling so far, flight delays, and time differences not to mention the pure heartbreak of leaving is enough to break you. I admire your strength and pray God will bring ur husband home to you! Best of luck for health and happiness!

I have flown home from Egypt twice with a kidney infection. It's so hard on my body. Like you said, add the heartbreak and it really is enough to break a person. I really hope your case goes smoothly and you will be reunited with your fiancé soon. We are all string for going through this crazy process. Someday it will end and we will be reunited.

[DarwishAE 19]

You'll be okay Missy, my wife feels the same way. although I haven't had all the medical issues I have gone to see her a couple of times and I am about to do so again. This process takes a long time, longer than it should, but if you both stick it out and rejoice in every small victory you will make it through to the end as an incredibly strong couple. This process tries our very souls and exposes each others character right to its very core. If you have the conviction and the commitment there is no way they can deny your application, I wholeheartedly believe this. Stay strong everyone here is rooting for you. It might not hurt if you say a little prayer for the rest of us too while you're at it. ;-)

My husband definitely thinks like you. He knows that if we keep our faith and are committed to the process it will end and we will be together. It's easy to get wrapped up in the emotions of it all. I'm grateful my husband not only emotionally supports me but can also help me see things in a better way. I will definitely be praying for everyone. All of us can use as many prayers and good vibes sent our way as possible.

[DarwishAE 19]

A huge thanks to everyone for giving me some faith back into this forum and this thread only being words of support and sympathy/empathy. You will all be in my thoughts and prayers.

[R.bwithlove 1]

Call your Senator for help.

[DarwishAE 19]

Call your Senator for help.

Unfortunately senators and congressmen can only inquire about your case. They have no authority with the AP process.