What do you think? Marriage Fraud?? Help!!!

[Jawaree 718]

He's a fraudster and an alley-cat, I can never understand ppl go about their

biz have kids , move from woman to woman never marry one until they meet

a USC, (GC) after meeting a few times and then a proposal personally I'd run.

The guy maybe bi from what U said & really don't like women, he is abusive &

U should get an infopass appt. and report him , then get a restraining order, then

U can change your locks, U cannot just up & change the locks its not legal.

His daughter who will turns 18 soon I would have her get a job, then find her a room

elsewhere, so there's no reason for him to communicate with U, encourage her to

take a few classes partime & try to stand on her own feet.If U can help her with

food, motivation, and to stay as level-head & a good person do that, she is obviously

abused by him too...I say act now ! Do not help him to AOS Divorce him asap

Edited August 26, 2014 by Jawaree

[gnoumou 0]

He is very very naughty,keep away from him as long as possible for you, God bless you

[ISLANDBOY 21]

My 2cents.

If you adopted her when you were married then you have to be responsible for her and if not, he has abandon her and you can call the authorities on him

he threaten you, you should have called the cops

yes he played you, he basically made sure to keep what he was really doing away from people that would have warned you what you were getting ur self into, he gave you a picture of comfort to get what he wants and then being there in america showing is true colours. SO IT FRAUD.

aslo since he loves to talk bad about AMERICAN show him how well the justice system works when you abandon a child, thats only if you didnt adopt her?

[sheldonsgirl 19]

He doesn't live with me anymore

That's awesome news!

[sachin1 42]

So many same story. This is fourth same type of story I am reading in a month.

I hope you get out of this soon.

This guys/girls are doing this for Green card.

[UnaMexicana 153]

To answer your question.. my advice is to file for divorce and if you have not yet adopted the girl, report him to the authorities and get out of that mess as quickly as possible.

She is not your daughter and if you did not adopt her, she isnot your responsibility. Time to start fresh.

Best,

UnaMexicana

[Gosia & Tito 199]

. I have had to leave my house in the middle of the night one time because he threatened to kill us all. Himself the daughter and me. She is scared of him and even though it is her dad she doesn't want to live with him! Any advice???

First thing to do after leaving the house (for your safety and the daughter) is to call 911. Maybe he is just trying to scare you, but the cops will not find it very amusing.

At the very least, a reports will be made, and you can press charges

[Jawaree 718]

We were all young and don't get to choose our parents

we cant be accountable when they behave badly, she is

not OP responsibility a soon becomes 18 yrs.

In life we at times have to look at how it would be if we were

that young girl, seemingly the girl has bonded with her, she

may have never been shown love,she is not disrespectful to

her after she got here like her con-man father, & clearly he don't

care about her, so I say help the girl from even afar (don't live in

the same home because of the father) but do not turn your back

on her, she may one day give U a drink of water if U cant get it

yourself out of gratitude, adopted or not at 18 yrs she is her own

adult...OP U seem to have a good heart, if the girl continues to be

for you don't follow advices to be rid of her.

[sheldonsgirl 19]

We were all young and don't get to choose our parents

we cant be accountable when they behave badly, she is

not OP responsibility a soon becomes 18 yrs.

In life we at times have to look at how it would be if we were

that young girl, seemingly the girl has bonded with her, she

may have never been shown love,she is not disrespectful to

her after she got here like her con-man father, & clearly he don't

care about her, so I say help the girl from even afar (don't live in

the same home because of the father) but do not turn your back

on her, she may one day give U a drink of water if U cant get it

yourself out of gratitude, adopted or not at 18 yrs she is her own

adult...OP U seem to have a good heart, if the girl continues to be

for you don't follow advices to be rid of her.

I wholeheartedly agree. The girl shouldn't have to suffer because of what her father has done or may do in the future. You prob need to contact a lawyer and find out what your rights are regarding the girl I'm not sure but I believe most will give you a free consultation or many times the lawyer's secretary knows a lot about the law as well and may be able to advice you. One would think that since he threatened both of you that she could also get a restraining order. When my son was a teenager, he got a restraining order against his father

[Eric-Pris 1,607]

Really what does it matter if it is fraud or he is a jerk? File for divorce, get a restraining order, and decide what to do about the daughter. He can ROC with a divorce waiver although it sounds like he doesn't know this and is setting you up for domestic violence charges.

Exactly. It won't matter with immigration, they won't do anything anyway. You will just waste your time running around trying to get him deported. Send the kid back (it's not your kid) to the family, unless you want to raise her.

[Jon York 156]

Get a restraining order, have him evicted from the home, send his daughter back home, and file for divorce.

I would say keep the daughter and consider it the one blessing from all of this - that you get to keep her safe from him and provide her with a good life here.

[LionessDeon 2,060]

We were all young and don't get to choose our parents

we cant be accountable when they behave badly, she is

not OP responsibility a soon becomes 18 yrs.

In life we at times have to look at how it would be if we were

that young girl, seemingly the girl has bonded with her, she

may have never been shown love,she is not disrespectful to

her after she got here like her con-man father, & clearly he don't

care about her, so I say help the girl from even afar (don't live in

the same home because of the father) but do not turn your back

on her, she may one day give U a drink of water if U cant get it

yourself out of gratitude, adopted or not at 18 yrs she is her own

adult...OP U seem to have a good heart, if the girl continues to be

for you don't follow advices to be rid of her.

I completely agree. I raised a child that wasn't mine from newborn - 7yrs old. Her biological mother still doesn't treat her well. Please continue to be there for this girl in whatever way you can, even if it is only moral support. And please protect yourself with a restraining order, just in case, you never know....

[David & Diana R 1,005]

My step daughter doesn't have anyone but him, right now he is not even talking to her because he thinks she has taken my side. When really she is upset with him for her own reasons.. I don't want her to have to go back with him and she is almost 18. She is scared of him and I fear for her going back to Jamaica she cannot take care of herself. I cannot get a restraining order because she is here.

I work in the domestic violence field. (Prosecution) I can assure you that you can get a TRO even if the daughter lives with you. There can be all kinds of conditions written into a restraining order. Including contact only allowed for purposes of visiting daughter at a public place, etc... Go see a support group there that assists you in getting a TRO. They can give you all the ins and outs. You need to protect yourself and this girl if you so desire.

Good luck, GET HELP

[David & Diana R 1,005]

That's what a con man is going to do: Keep people from getting together and comparing notes.

It's too late. He got in. You don't have evidence that is going to interest immigration authorities. You have to just get on with your life. Divorce him and move on.

Yes I agree, move on. And as far as immigration goes. FORGET IT. Let it go. It doesn't really matter whether he scammed you or not. It doesn't really matter whether he gets to stay in the US or not. What really matters here is your safety. If you try to get him deported it will only eat away at you. Get rid of this guy like the piece of trash that he is. He's not worth the effort. Run, run like the wind. Divorce him. Get the TRO, move out or change your locks if the house is yours.

[LearningLesson 8]

We were all young and don't get to choose our parents

we cant be accountable when they behave badly, she is

not OP responsibility a soon becomes 18 yrs.

In life we at times have to look at how it would be if we were

that young girl, seemingly the girl has bonded with her, she

may have never been shown love,she is not disrespectful to

her after she got here like her con-man father, & clearly he don't

care about her, so I say help the girl from even afar (don't live in

the same home because of the father) but do not turn your back

on her, she may one day give U a drink of water if U cant get it

yourself out of gratitude, adopted or not at 18 yrs she is her own

adult...OP U seem to have a good heart, if the girl continues to be

for you don't follow advices to be rid of her.

I do not plan on getting rid of her, I wouldn't think of it. I have developed such a bond with this beautiful young lady I wouldn't think of her father and his wickedness having any effects on how I deal with her. I appreciate all the advice but she is not going anywhere. I know I might not be the birth parent but when I accepted him I also did her. She is a respectful, loving little girl that has missed out on a lot of happiness and I plan to give her all the happiness I can. I don't think he is going to make it an issue anyway, he doesn't even call her to check on her and has not been around.