This is so hard

[raven52 233]

It would help all members so much if posters would ""PLEASE FILL IN YOUR TIMELINE".,.,IT would really help.,.,.,it should be a requirement, ""IF"" you have a timeline to post it before being allowed to post questions.

I know your pain, me and my wife was 10 months 4 days, ""FOR A K-1 VISA".,.,., I feel your pain!

No. 1 suggestion, only check the computer once a week, as "you" are just torturing youself.,.,,.what could possibly be here to up-date you at the 3 and 1/2 month mark?

Cannot say anything, I wass on here every day..,.,.just looking for encourgement.,.,.,I feel your pain.

I was able to visit my wife to be several times, in Cebu, Philippines,.so it was better, but each time I left, I thought I was going to leave my heart in "Cebu".,.,..,literally.

Good luck for a speedy approval,.,.,.,just TRY to keep the computer "thing" down..,,.you will get used to it.,,,.and actually look forward to it.

[EOC 440]

I have been waiting for almost 12months. Next week is our wedding anniversary and we ain't even going to spend it together. This long immigration process is really frustrating and killing. We do talk on the phone everyday and we talk on Skype also and lots of emails and facebook chat.

Just hang in there and try to keep yourself busy, you can also plan to visit each other or meet in a third country. Very soon all this long immigration process will soon be over and we all will be with our loved ones.

[Ed and Gina 45]

Yup...that's why it's called Visa Journey....it's a long haul to get from here to there. And the "fun" hasn't begun for you, yet! Buckle up and hang on for the ride...it's a pain in the **s - to say the least! As others have said, you have to remain vigilant and try to remain focused. Been through what you're going through...it's frustrating.

[averageguy6 22]

I really think you should do everything you possibly can to arrange a visit together. Sacrifice elsewhere as needed.

[derrickmichille 55]

We thought we could not do this either, the last time we was together in person was September 22nd 2013, and now it's August. Her interview is on September 10th and when she passes her interview and has her visa in hand, I am not waiting another moment to purchase her ticket.

You can do this, we never thought we could spend a second without being together, but here we are a year later and we did it. In the beginning my fiancee cried every single time we skyped. We Skype every day for 5 hours in her morning, my night and 5 hours my morning, her night. We laugh, talk about everything and anything. And when we are not skyping, when we are asleep, we text each other everything we did or are doing for the day. I mean everything, when we are eating lunch, what we are watching on tv, when we go to the bathroom lol!!! I know some people might say that's too much; but it works for us, that's how we got through the whole year being a part from each other.

The time seems like it's moving a second every two weeks, it's hard but you will make it. Trust me. Just love each other and pick each other up when either of you are feeling down. You are still husband and wife so you still have to work on your marriage, living together or living apart. It's a process a very long and most of the time a difficult process. It's upto you two to make it a very pleasant and memorable journey.

You can do it!! Take each day one day at a time.

Good luck to you on the rest of your journey!!!

[Monalisa22 84]

I can understand how you feel. I have not seen my husband since last July. Our baby boy was born feb of this year and we were both sad he could not be here to see his first child born. This process is long, emotional and cruel. If you don't believe in God you better find a pretty good substitute because faith is what you need to get through this process. In the beginning I used to cry a lot but with the birth of my baby boy I have to stay strong. I talk to my husband everyday. We talk about other things like politics, crack jokes, share youtube videos, articles, listen to music together on FB. Our case is at the end of the process at NVC so we are trying to hang in there. The best way to deal with separation is to stay busy and find a support system.

Edited August 16, 2014 by Monalisa22

[Brit Abroad 166]

In 10 months time when you're with your husband you'll be crying over missing the people back in your home country. Trust me, once you have left home you will suddenly realise just how much family and friends mean to you.

Instead of being miserable about being apart, go visit your friends and family. Take a camera, a notebook, something to record video snaps of your everyday lives together so that when you do arrive in America you have them to watch and enjoy, because it will probably be at least a year before you see them again. Start planning what items you can't take with you are going to which people. Think about what you want to do for employment, for hobbies and social life in America and start researching your new home town in the US. Don't just sit there and drown in self-pity, that won't help the time pass any faster.

We've all been through the separation issue and it sucks, but there's no reason to drown in sorrow at both ends of the immigration process.

[AFT...Ths 1]

I feel the same way. :-(

[jamyestrella 8]

I think a lot of us on this site have all been there. After I got married and came back to the states I spent about a year depressed. It feels like you are missing a part of you, thats why it's so emotionally draining and hard. But you will drive yourself mad if you give into the stress of it. I haven't seen my husband since December of 2012. It's the longest we've gone without seeing each other in person, but we've drawn a tremendous strength from each other and honestly our relationship has never been stronger despite the time. Keep strong and try not to be overwhelmed.

[ashleyveronica1 0]

Ive only been waiting 2 months and 20 days.

[Ketsuban 1,034]

Definitely the hardest thing we've had to do so far. We thought we could get through this with just Skype and texting, but we've been caught in backlogs from the get go, so I'm currently in the US on a visit. It'll suck to have to leave again, but I think I will feel better knowing there's only a few months left of this before I can come here on a one-way ticket.

[nalacandi 11]

This is by far the hardest thing I have had to do, as well. If you love him you can get through this. I have my days where I don't want to get out of bed, then I have other days where the time goes. Just keep doing all you can to communicate because that's the most element in a marriage. This experience will teach you that you can get through anything. I just wish that the Skype thing would work for us and it would be so much easier for me. We did skype and that never worked. We tried messenger cam and that didn't work. Now we us oovoo and that works okay, but not hardly at all most times. We are guessing it's his country because we try different times of the day and night. We just tried earlier but it was a no go yet again. If I was able to see him and talk to him on cam every day I would he the happiest girl in the world. So instead we spend most of our time talking through rebtel for cheap calls. We talk several times every day. Since the day we met in April 2012 we have never missed one day talking on the phone. I have to send him money for Internet usage just to try cam so that gets very frustrating when it doesn't work. If cam was free for him and it worked I could save so much money on phone calls and then I would be able to take that trip to see him. With lower incomes immigration processes are even harder. But, keep going because the end result is what your waiting for and I know that day will be the best day in the world for me. We tried so hard to get pregnant when I was there and that didn't work, but seeing how long this process has been I'm glad about that because he would have missed the birth of his first child. There will be ups and downs but your love, strength, and faith will carry you till the end. And most importantly you both need to lean on each other when it's the most difficult because after all that's what a true partnership is about. When I'm struggling my husband carries me through and when he struggles I am there for him. I know all this pain will end and on that day I will just be thankful that I pushed through and never gave up. You can do this! If I can, we all can. Finding this site had been the best thing for me emotionally already just knowing I am not alone and others can relate to my pain makes it just a little easier. Before all I had was my husband, but now I have him and an outlet.