4 months in the U.S. and wants a divorce

[NanaBaby 1]

Hello,

A friend of mine has been married close to 2 years now. She has his conditional GC. When he gets here, the woman is not what she appeared to be when they first met. She's very controlling. She hid his GC, SS#, and passport. She finally gave him back his passport. He cannot apply for any job. She does it for him and even the verification of employment she takes care of that. He wants to go get his D.L. but she insists that she goes with him because she will not give him his green card. She said he is going to run away like the other man she had married and as soon as he received his papers, he left her. [Now he knows why.] She is miserable and cantankerous. He cannot talk to anyone on the phone or even the neighbors. In fact she went and got him a tracking phone that tracks every text message and phone calls he makes and then fuss with him about it.

She had him believe that she is okay financially and only needed a companion/husband but when he came to the U.S. he is living worse than he was living in his country. Shabby apartment and no vehicle. Every where they go, she had to call a friend to pick them up and take them places. He feels like he's in prison. If he talks to his family members or friends, she sits right beside him and there is no privacy when he talks to his mother. In fact, she buys the calling card to make the phone call because he cannot make international calls on his phone. Sometimes after an argument she had a friend or family member of hers call him to counsel him and tell him what he's doing wrong.

She already threatened him that if he leaves her and divorce her, she's suing him for alimony. He entered the marriage in good faith but did not know he had to prove it, therefore, she has all documents including photos of them hidden somewhere. What he had in his old phone is long lost. They don't have a bank account together and she refused to put him on the lease. She often flips out on him for no reason and he doesn't trust her and fears that she will flip any minute.

The only reason why she gave him back his passport it's because she spoke to his mother and told her that he's coming home and when he went to get the passport it was missing. His mother told her to give him back his document so he can come home where he is free. yet she kept the GC and SS#. He was going to go back home without them and that's when I told him to hold on and I'll find out more information.

[Boiler 45,922]

He has his passport and a route home.

[belinda63 3,041]

Depends on what he wants to do. If he wants to return home he has the way to do it.

If he wants to remain here he will need to contact the police. The green card and social security card are his and she has no right to withhold them from him.

[NanaBaby 1]

I convinced to to stay but when it's time to renew his GC will it be enough to for him to get permanent GC?

[Boiler 45,922]

Why did you do that, everything you said suggests it is time to quit Dodge.

[melanieuk 19]

Why did you do that, everything you said suggests it is time to quit Dodge.

Boiler, IMMIGRANT on IMMIGRANT aggression is not necessary on this post. If you have nothing to say that can help the OP, maybe you shouldn't post anything.

Depends on what he wants to do. If he wants to stay, he has to file Removal of Conditions under a waiver.

[Boiler 45,922]

Boiler, IMMIGRANT on IMMIGRANT aggression is not necessary on this post. If you have nothing to say that can help the OP, maybe you shouldn't post anything.

Depends on what he wants to do. If he wants to stay, he has to file Removal of Conditions under a waiver.

Would you want to stay in that situation or leave?

[melanieuk 19]

Would you want to stay in that situation or leave?

There are provisions in the law specifically to help people under these circumstances. If OP's life or "OP's friend's life" is here, he doesn't have to leave because of the described circumstances.

[Boiler 45,922]

There are provisions in the law specifically to help people under these circumstances. If OP's life or "OP's friend's life" is here, he doesn't have to leave because of the described circumstances.

What was it is that post that drew you to that conclusion.

All I saw was that he is a situation here.

Edited August 12, 2014 by Boiler

[NanaBaby 1]

CLARIFICATION: When I said I convinced him to stay...I didn't mean in the relationship. I meant stay in the United States. The problem is she holds all evidence that the marriage was entered in good faith. All his family turned on him because they wanted her to marry their choice.

[belinda63 3,041]

First he needs a place to live. After he has secured that he needs to call the police and report her holding his personal property. They may or may not get involved. Then he will need to file for divorce. Does he have a plan for supporting himself and transportation to and from a job when he obtains one? I am not for or against his remaining in the US but he needs to understand how difficult it is to survive here.

As to evidence of a real marriage for ROC he will have to ask the court to order her to return the items such as photos, letters, etc he will need to support his claim. Her refusal to place him on any joint accounts is going to make it hard to prove a real marriage.

He could also try for the abuse route on the ROC but it will mean lots of work on his part proving she abused him.

[Janelle2002 3,865]

Why stay if the purpose was for the person he loves?

You said the conditions are worst than in his country which means he left his country for the conditions not for love.

[NanaBaby 1]

Thank you all for your response...

Belinda63...he has family here but in another state. He also has a job now that she lined up for him. He got the call from a place that he never personally applied for.

Janelle2002...he sold everything at home, gave up his job, and gave up his place that he was renting. He's a grown man that would have to move in back with his parents. He also has a child that he plan on supporting once he begins working. Out of frustration he was willing to go back to his country where he wouldn't feel like a prisoner.

[NikLR 13,231]

She's illegally holding his green card.

[eieio 1,594]

Out of frustration he was willing to go back to his country where he wouldn't feel like a prisoner.

It seems you want him to stay more than he does. Is that a fair assessment?