The return...back in the PI

[Jeff @ Missy 9]

Five months later we are back in the Philippines, she prefers life here in the PI to that in the USA, one of few I would guess. So I am also here in the PI, not really what I wanted to do, was a lot of effort to bring my wife to the states. She felt somewhat isolated in the spectacular place where we lived, she enjoyed many of the amenities of living there but friends, family ties and the food back home was too much, so many thousands of dollars and travel and moving we are now settled "back home".

Now many of you may say "she should have joined a Filipino group so she felt welcome", but, as so many have also told me that is a HUGE mistake. She had filipinas there that she saw but not a large group. Since we have been back many of the guys I know reiterated the position of if she is in a large community of Filipinas that one of them will grab her ear and coach her on the niceties of how to get a divorce, support money etc, happens way to often. I have a good friend going through this and have heard endless stories since my return, way to common, buyer beware so they say. Now for us we have no issues such as this and I intend to keep it that way.

So my commitment to USCIS as in the change of address form for the I-864 I-865 is not needed here, her 10 yr GC will expire without a trip back in the coming year. I have many personal feelings on not living back in our wonderful USA home but....as Joe Dirt learned after searching so long for his parents, "home is where ya make it".

God Bless

[S_R 148]

So, is she is practically abandoning her residency?

[Jlgarcia 1]

There is no place like home, but I hope the decision of going back here is mutual. Being here means to start anew, find a job which I know is hard because most of the company has this age limit requirements. If you decided to stay here for good, huge savings on your account would only support your family for a while after that what comes next is the question unless you decided to establish a successful business here then you'll be good.

Anyway, I know you will enjoy your stay here because you are with your love one. God Bless you and your family.. Good luck!!!

[kzielu 1,149]

I guess good thing out of the story is - she is in it for you, not for US residency. Not always the case as we saw multiple times on VJ.

[malenliam 18]

There is an application for you to keep her GC. She can be out of the US gor two years..then before it expire she need to get back then renew if she still doesnt want to stay there...you should keep ger GC so you still have an option in case something happened and you need to ho back in US.

[VOL 425]

Since we have been back many of the guys I know reiterated the position of if she is in a large community of Filipinas that one of them will grab her ear and coach her on the niceties of how to get a divorce, support money etc, happens way to often. I have a good friend going through this and have heard endless stories since my return, way to common, buyer beware so they say.

I have seen this myself.

You must watch whom your wife befriends and if you have a bad gut feeling about them, then you must not allow her to remain friends with that person.

Good Luck

[Hank_ 9,174]

Five months later we are back in the Philippines, she prefers life here in the PI to that in the USA, one of few I would guess. So I am also here in the PI, not really what I wanted to do, was a lot of effort to bring my wife to the states. She felt somewhat isolated in the spectacular place where we lived, she enjoyed many of the amenities of living there but friends, family ties and the food back home was too much, so many thousands of dollars and travel and moving we are now settled "back home".

Now many of you may say "she should have joined a Filipino group so she felt welcome", but, as so many have also told me that is a HUGE mistake. She had filipinas there that she saw but not a large group. Since we have been back many of the guys I know reiterated the position of if she is in a large community of Filipinas that one of them will grab her ear and coach her on the niceties of how to get a divorce, support money etc, happens way to often. I have a good friend going through this and have heard endless stories since my return, way to common, buyer beware so they say. Now for us we have no issues such as this and I intend to keep it that way.

So my commitment to USCIS as in the change of address form for the I-864 I-865 is not needed here, her 10 yr GC will expire without a trip back in the coming year. I have many personal feelings on not living back in our wonderful USA home but....as Joe Dirt learned after searching so long for his parents, "home is where ya make it".

God Bless

Sorry to hear that, just the same I do understand. We have not made a trip back yet and there were some difficult moments, yet time can also be the healer as you make a new life together. I also agree with not joining some of those groups, in fact my wife doesn't even like that, she has found a few friends, she is very selective as I have watched her disconnect from some Filipinas also.

Too bad visits of 6 months or less won't work... then once she has her citizenship all bet are off. That is our plan.

All the best

[Hank_ 9,174]

I have seen this myself.

You must watch whom your wife befriends and if you have a bad gut feeling about them, then you must not allow her to remain friends with that person.

Good Luck

hmmmm ~ it's not the 1800's anymore, and she is not one of the kids.

[Jeff @ Missy 9]

Hey,thanks for the positive replies, I thought i would have been flamed on the filipina group part by a few, it can be a positive and negative thing, actually one of the ones who liked stirring the pot came to our house once, but only once. Yes my wife never really wanted to go to the USA in the first place, as in not her motive,we were married and lived together in the PI a few years. That being said, I myself am not thrilled with living in the PI forever, been there done that and saw both of the recent disasters a bit to close. My young child is the one that loses the most from this I believe, health and education is not the same in the PI.

Did not have time to do a reentry permit as an 'insurance policy' so to speak if we decided differently, still have a year here I believe before the GC goes inactive, and the cost of a reentry permit is 445$ plus biometrics and the travel. Sure would be nice to do a 6 month here and there schedule for awhile but the cost issue and also never really feeling settled.

FYI there is something called an SB-1 for returning after the GC times out but I hear it is hard to obtain, there has to be circumstances beyond your control as to why you did not return, not our case.

It's more fun in the Philippines? it can be but....

[Hank_ 9,174]

I wish you all the best, you have a tough row to hoe being you each would rather be in another country.

[danver 15]

Five months later we are back in the Philippines, she prefers life here in the PI to that in the USA, one of few I would guess. So I am also here in the PI, not really what I wanted to do, was a lot of effort to bring my wife to the states. She felt somewhat isolated in the spectacular place where we lived, she enjoyed many of the amenities of living there but friends, family ties and the food back home was too much, so many thousands of dollars and travel and moving we are now settled "back home".

Now many of you may say "she should have joined a Filipino group so she felt welcome", but, as so many have also told me that is a HUGE mistake. She had filipinas there that she saw but not a large group. Since we have been back many of the guys I know reiterated the position of if she is in a large community of Filipinas that one of them will grab her ear and coach her on the niceties of how to get a divorce, support money etc, happens way to often. I have a good friend going through this and have heard endless stories since my return, way to common, buyer beware so they say. Now for us we have no issues such as this and I intend to keep it that way.

So my commitment to USCIS as in the change of address form for the I-864 I-865 is not needed here, her 10 yr GC will expire without a trip back in the coming year. I have many personal feelings on not living back in our wonderful USA home but....as Joe Dirt learned after searching so long for his parents, "home is where ya make it".

God Bless

good luck to u both. Been here for over 7 years but never was homesick to think that my 2 kids were in the Philippines back then. If she decides to keep her LPR status she can't be out of the USA for over a year but if she really decides to live there then that would mean she will abandon her residency .. and if she decides to come back here later in the future then she will have to start the process all over again once status is abandoned.

With regards to being in a Filipino group,, I don't think it is a huge mistake as you have the option who to befriends with.

I just chose to be with a group that prioritize family and not friends that has this, and has that.

Divorce, money?? it still depends on u..coz true love conquers all unless one is here for green card and not love