Backaches, Bimbos, and Breakups

[SAT 9,609]

One could say that of any of us with foreign spouses, could they not?

Yes.

Now lend me your Starbucks card, you don't need it over there anyway

[N-o-l-a 7,167]

Yes.

Now lend me your Starbucks card, you don't need it over there anyway

Woah man, there are 3 Starbucks in the nearby city. 3!

Mind you, I'm not driving 45 minutes each way to get it and all I can have is part of a tall, but still!

I'm kind of regretting picking the obgyn 45 minutes the other way, I could have combined it with a coffee trip. I am so not looking forward to tomorrow's appointment, I hate doctors.

Edited September 7, 2014 by N-o-l-a

[SAT 9,609]

I know a little bit about um....

Obgyn stuff......

Ya want me ta um.......never mind lol.....

[NikLR 13,227]

One could say that of any of us with foreign spouses, could they not?

Well hubs could. There are honestly few people in the world who could deal with him. He tried once before with a US girl, but it was over after 11 months. I likely could have found someone in canada. I didn't search around. I found him and decided we were perfect, even if he didn't like horses. Lol

He said I'm a fantastic wife.

[SAT 9,609]

Well hubs could. There are honestly few people in the world who could deal with him. He tried once before with a US girl, but it was over after 11 months. I likely could have found someone in canada. I didn't search around. I found him and decided we were perfect, even if he didn't like horses. Lol

He said I'm a fantastic wife.

How long is his nose now?

[NikLR 13,227]

LOL shush

[kitthekat 1,317]

i paid for pretty much everything for the K1 (jonas paid postage and whatever kinkos charged to make copies) and we split the AOS fee. i've always paid for my own tickets to visit him. i also bought most of the furniture and household appliances we have now, because every time he said something was too expensive, i would say, well, i want it, so i'll pay for it.

we fought about it once, i said, why couldn't you have saved and at least shared the costs with me? he said he could have, and he wanted to, but would i have been patient enough to wait for him?

i have to say that after all that, now that we're married, he's been a good husband, a good provider. he's given up a lot on his end too - it's just not always financial.

[kitthekat 1,317]

rant: jonas' dad is giving a sermon at a church 45 minutes away and he agreed to go listen to him speak so now i also have to go...

i don't wanna go...

[NikLR 13,227]

If hubs had moved to Canada, much of the costs etc would have been mine

[JTB11 1,079]

J you ever thought of this? If he wasn't this way, he might have actually found a woman here, and not needed a sucker like you?

he did mention that when I leave he will stay with his parents forever but then we all tend to get a little dramatic at times.

Edited September 7, 2014 by JTB11

[JTB11 1,079]

If hubs had moved to Canada, much of the costs etc would have been mine

that is what I would have done also....I suggested it given I had a job and a place for us. I would have not cared if he worked probably would make him take language classes and what not because it was a familiar place for me and it would be easy for me to take care of him. But everything happens for a reason..maybe at some point I would get angry at him and resent him for having to be the "man" in the marriage or maybe not who knows...shoulda woulda coulda....

He just needs to be told everything a number of times and whatever it is you want you better make sure you do it yourself. He goes only as far as to say "ok" or "i dont care". I wish he looked at this as a way of realizing where he went wrong and what he needs to do with his life and grow up but instead he chooses the other way...."do nothing, be nobody because the person that provided the happiness and love that i crave is gone". *shrugs* Nothing I can do about that.

[N-o-l-a 7,167]

that is what I would have done also....I suggested it given I had a job and a place for us. I would have not cared if he worked probably would make him take language classes and what not because it was a familiar place for me and it would be easy for me to take care of him. But everything happens for a reason..maybe at some point I would get angry at him and resent him for having to be the "man" in the marriage or maybe not who knows...shoulda woulda coulda....

He just needs to be told everything a number of times and whatever it is you want you better make sure you do it yourself. He goes only as far as to say "ok" or "i dont care". I wish he looked at this as a way of realizing where he went wrong and what he needs to do with his life and grow up but instead he chooses the other way...."do nothing, be nobody because the person that provided the happiness and love that i crave is gone". *shrugs* Nothing I can do about that.

I think part of this is also that a lot of modern women are attracted to a certain type of man - emo/hipster/whatever and what they really need is something different.

You would of resented it because you already resent him for failing to provide. It is good to know for the future for you.

[JTB11 1,079]

I think part of this is also that a lot of modern women are attracted to a certain type of man - emo/hipster/whatever and what they really need is something different.

You would of resented it because you already resent him for failing to provide. It is good to know for the future for you.

I resent him for checking out and not sharing responsibilities ...that might be what you mean though in which case...yes. I told him I did not expect him to take care of me and I knew that the probability I would be the one making more money hence providing more support was high and was fine with it. His total lack of presence in real life matters is what got to me. I needed to know that if I get sick he would be there to help or if all of a sudden i was in trouble he would step up and every time anything remotely similar to such situations occurred he was just sitting there with blank stare.

But why do I even bother going over it geez....I gotta stop thinking about all of this...but then again....I spent 5 years of my life on this. Bleh. ( I do realize some people "waste" more time but it is my ....*facepalm moment in rant)

done talking about it. sorry.

I made cookies....with peanuts and peanut butter and chocolate sauce.

[N-o-l-a 7,167]

I made cookies....with peanuts and peanut butter and chocolate sauce.

Yum! Neighbors brought us cookies today.

[JTB11 1,079]

Yum! Neighbors brought us cookies today.

ooh what kind ?