Divorce before green card reveived.

[Boiler 46,362]

I was wondering troll, but not a new account, VJ is not very helpful in accessing past posts, looks to me if is is straightforward fraud.

[El Mayimbe 6]

This sounds fishy. You already met another man to marry. You don't have a phone but you have a CPU. Sorry this sounds fraudulent.

[JohnR! 5,495]

We have discussed it but he has two young children which would make it harder. He has full custody and COULD move with them, but I know moving from the US to the UK is difficult, which is why I moved to the US in the first place.

Neither of us want to marry, not for at least 5 or so years anyway, so entering on a K1 visa again does not appeal to me.

He wouldn't have to apply for yout K-1 right away. You can return home and come back to the US and visit until both of you are ready to get married. On a personal note, consider that you really would be best served by getting to kow this other person first, lest he too turns out to be a bad choice.

Moving from the US to the UK is as difficult as the other way around. In fact, having lived in other countries myself, the UK is quite possibly the easiest coutry for any American to adjust. If he is telling you that, be on the alert - he may be stringing you along.

[TariesL 0]

If you don't have access to a phone - sorry if this seems like a delicate question - but how are you communicating with the new man you're looking to be with? Assuming that you would be in communication to want to pursue a relationship.

Knowing that you are posting here, you must have some computer based access. If this is at home - then maybe think about installing Skype, or something similar to be able to call a relative if you needed to in a emergency.

Failing this - you can pick up cheap burner phones for around $10. They can be pretty small, and can be easily hidden - possible in the garden or somewhere he is unlikely to look, and save it for emergency - don't use it to text or anything that could give away the fact that its yours.

As mentioned in my previous posts and others - Step one - if you want to end this relationship - is to end it. There are shelters you can get to if you have nowhere else to live. By having someone else you are already discussing how many years you want to wait until you get married, to me indicates you have given up on your current marriage. If this is the case - then regardless of your husbands many faults, it would only be fair on him for you to end the relationship too, as oppose to planning an alternative life with someone else. Also - if you were to stay with him, and go for a green card, knowing your intent to be with someone else - I think this would fall under some section of visa fraud - but someone else might be able to advise for sure?

And again, there are plenty of options for you to consider furthering a relationship with the new guy. If you go back to the UK - the both of you could travel back and forth, to test and build the relationship, and see in a couple of years where it goes. Whilst in the UK, if you decide to move but don;t want to marry, there are Visas that you could look into applying for. A student F1 visa for example.

Unfortunately - in your scenario - there is no easy way for you to leave your husband and pursue a new relationship. So its time to start looking at your other options.

And to some others. Yes, it sounds fishy, and moving directly on to another guy whilst in a marriage definitely raises concerns - lets not all ump to conclusions, every scenario is unique and different, and when abuse is present, its hard for us to understand the decisions made by an individual - and the reason I joined here was for help - not judgement.

[jaygee011 6]

I agree with others sounds a bit dodgey. You can post on here and get to know the other guy while being married lets not forget. a phone only costs $20 and if this guy really liked you would he sit there and let this abuse go on I for one would have got you out of there right away.

[Lisa098 0]

I love everybody's skepticism.

I have an ipod touch that I can use to Skype. My husband and I share a laptop as he broke mine back in November. We share his phone but he keeps track of any calls that are made.

[Lisa098 0]

I was wondering troll, but not a new account, VJ is not very helpful in accessing past posts, looks to me if is is straightforward fraud.

Oh and I made this account as my husband knows the login for my regular VJ account.

[TariesL 0]

I love everybody's skepticism.

I have an ipod touch that I can use to Skype. My husband and I share a laptop as he broke mine back in November. We share his phone but he keeps track of any calls that are made.

Lisa098 - Surely you must be able to look at the situation from outside of your own, and see why people may be slightly skeptical? However, only you really know all of the facts, so don't worry about the skepticism.

However, so fair, there as been a lot of useful information so far, that can benefit you. Especially having access to Skype from an iPod touch, maybe just change the password on this and don't stay signed in to it. It will serve as an emergency phone if you need it.

Maybe the simplest question of all to ask you currently is this.

Why haven't you left your husband?

[Lisa098 0]

Lisa098 - Surely you must be able to look at the situation from outside of your own, and see why people may be slightly skeptical? However, only you really know all of the facts, so don't worry about the skepticism.

However, so fair, there as been a lot of useful information so far, that can benefit you. Especially having access to Skype from an iPod touch, maybe just change the password on this and don't stay signed in to it. It will serve as an emergency phone if you need it.

Maybe the simplest question of all to ask you currently is this.

Why haven't you left your husband?

At first it was because I thought he wild change and be the person he seemed to be at the start again, but I have since realised he will not change. He hurt me again over the weekend and conveniently has no memory of it, but has been sucking up to me ever since.

Right now I'm just waiting for the right time. I would happily go home, but if I do I probably will never return as it took a lot to get me here in the first place due to anxiety issues. I figured that if I at least wait for my green card then I'll have more options for what I can do next.

[TariesL 0]

At first it was because I thought he wild change and be the person he seemed to be at the start again, but I have since realised he will not change. He hurt me again over the weekend and conveniently has no memory of it, but has been sucking up to me ever since.

Right now I'm just waiting for the right time. I would happily go home, but if I do I probably will never return as it took a lot to get me here in the first place due to anxiety issues. I figured that if I at least wait for my green card then I'll have more options for what I can do next.

And ultimately this is where everyones skepticism comes in. You are staying with someone just to get your green card - of whom you then have plans in place to leave for another man once you get said Greencard,

The problem here, is that this basically constitutes fraud. Which is why people are skeptical.

If you are happy to go home - Why don't you? IS being here worth all the punishment you're being put through, and committing Visa fraud for?