Finally am forced to admit being scammed

[Merrytooth 5,748]

As it is such a big business for PI, you would have thought they would step in and provide some sort of 'warranty'.

This tarnishes their product.

[bronco37 16]

Only three weeks here and her intentions are very clear.On second night she stated at 60 I should not have a desire for relations and stated she never had sexual feelings, ever.I asked why she had not previously mentioned this to me and that it was odd considering not one month before we agreed that she should be on the pill which she started before leaving for the US. The next day she said she didn't love me "but who knows, in a month I might". This from a female in her 30s.

Before you end up w/ a false domestic violence charge slapped against your face, take heed to what I say:

1. Remove her access from every single personal document that contains your PII, PHI. This includes bills and stuff that you always thought you did not care about. In other words, everything.

2. Move yourself out of the house. If you are renting, break lease and move away. If you own, rent a small apartment and stay away from this woman.

3. Write a letter to the USCIS district director of your district describing the situation. Be truthful. (Do this ONLY if you believe she married you to come here.)

4. Depending on the state laws, divorce her ASAP.

5. Make sure you have some kind of a court order that prevents her from entering your property. (Do this ONLY if you believe she could be a threat - you're 60 and she's 30)

Be VERY careful. This may seem too much but, when the bough breaks....

[SingleDad2usc 71]

Once again, she's well past 30. Maybe closer to 40(?)

OP has reached amicable deal, and there are 6 nights left to closing. What might be worrisome: she takes the $$, but doesn't go thru customs.

[Merrytooth 5,748]

Once again, she's well past 30. Maybe closer to 40(?)

OP has reached amicable deal, and there are 6 nights left to closing. What might be worrisome: she takes the $$, but doesn't go thru customs.

Yah, then you can teach her how to milk the US welfare system.

[SingleDad2usc 71]

The immediate worry is with OP. Does he have contingency?

[fin fin 5]

Report her to USCIS. Divorce her ASAP if you haven't already applied for the adjustment to status. She used you to come here

[Unknown Guest 15]

I hope the problem will soon be over. She has agreed to sign the annulment in my lawyer's office the middle of next week. Of course I had to sweeten the pot ($), not a huge amount but worth it to get rid of her. In the agreement is a clause that states that neither parties emotionally abused the other. I believe I might have mentioned that her new filipina friends gave her a course in immigration law. After she signs the lawyer will hand her a plane ticket for the next morning. As my lawyer has told me, he will tell her that will be the only ticket she will receive. By the annulment will state that she committed fraud.

Her only concern now is what is she going to tell her parents.....maybe the truth? NO!! Can't do that! She will think of some lie and her parents being her parents will accept it.

I do worry that some other poor westerner with a shix eating grin on his face will be her next victim as I believe a annulment in the Philippines will erase the record of her being married. I guess in the end it is a case of you throw the dice and take your chances.

Thanks to everyone and may your journey be a happy one.

She seems pretty cooperative to sign the annulment and go back to her own country. That does not sound like a scammer to me.....her motivations to marry were not purely based on wanting to stay in the U.S. Sounds like you two just had different expectations. She might not have expected to have to have sex with a much older man. While you expected to have sex with a 30 something year old Filipino woman as part of the marriage.

[SingleDad2usc 71]

Past that: she has 2yr GC.

OP of course trusts his lawyer - but what contingency can he design?

[Avery Cates 1,141]

Yah, then you can teach her how to milk the US welfare system.

If you're gonna do it, might as well get expert experienced advice.

[destiny64 222]

I hope the problem will soon be over. She has agreed to sign the annulment in my lawyer's office the middle of next week. Of course I had to sweeten the pot ($), not a huge amount but worth it to get rid of her. In the agreement is a clause that states that neither parties emotionally abused the other. I believe I might have mentioned that her new filipina friends gave her a course in immigration law. After she signs the lawyer will hand her a plane ticket for the next morning. As my lawyer has told me, he will tell her that will be the only ticket she will receive. By the annulment will state that she committed fraud.

Her only concern now is what is she going to tell her parents.....maybe the truth? NO!! Can't do that! She will think of some lie and her parents being her parents will accept it.

I do worry that some other poor westerner with a shix eating grin on his face will be her next victim as I believe a annulment in the Philippines will erase the record of her being married. I guess in the end it is a case of you throw the dice and take your chances.

Thanks to everyone and may your journey be a happy one.

That's great news. I hope she shows up and completes what she has agreed to do! I would still report her to USCIS just to cover yourself in case she doesn't leave.

[palu 23]

A question if she signs the annulment and gets on the plane, what is my next move with immigration? I have been spending so much time getting to that point that researching what comes next. How do I handle the AOS? Could really use some guidence.

Oh, by the way, I am far from rich,even well off. This will leave me broke, but how much would you give to get rid of a cancer? The money I promised is after she leaves on a monthly basis for 6 months. But people make all kinds of promises to get out from under....

[SingleDad2usc 71]

A somewhat-expected twist: OP will sign sworn $$ obligation, which he is not intending to keep. Somehow, the wager is she ain't boarding

[destiny64 222]

All you need to do is notify them that your marriage is being annuled based on fraud. I would even go so far as sending them the signed agreement that she will sign from the lawyers office so that they can put it in her file. I do believe that is all you need to do, since no AOS from you. IF she stayed she would have to adjust status on her own with proof that your marriage was bonafide , however she is signing something that states your marriage is annulled and admitting to fraud. Sooooo, that will take care her chances of doing that on her own as well. Keep your fingers crossed that she actually does what she says she is doing, and do the happy dance when she does leave. Lesson learned for you I'm sure.

[palu 23]

All you need to do is notify them that your marriage is being annuled based on fraud. I would even go so far as sending them the signed agreement that she will sign from the lawyers office so that they can put it in her file. I do believe that is all you need to do, since no AOS from you. IF she stayed she would have to adjust status on her own with proof that your marriage was bonafide , however she is signing something that states your marriage is annulled and admitting to fraud. Sooooo, that will take care her chances of doing that on her own as well. Keep your fingers crossed that she actually does what she says she is doing, and do the happy dance when she does leave. Lesson learned for you I'm sure.

thank you destiny64 for your constructive advice. Even though this is an open forum I still am amazed at the number of truly nasty people on it. Even though I am trying to protect myself from a terrible situation this coming week will be one of the 2 or 3 most painful of my life. I would like to curl up in a ball and stay there for a year. I deeply loved the girl (still do) and it is hard to go forward but know I must.I am sure at least 1 shithead will attack me for this....a three fingered solute in advance

[destiny64 222]

thank you destiny64 for your constructive advice. Even though this is an open forum I still am amazed at the number of truly nasty people on it. Even though I am trying to protect myself from a terrible situation this coming week will be one of the 2 or 3 most painful of my life. I would like to curl up in a ball and stay there for a year. I deeply loved the girl (still do) and it is hard to go forward but know I must.I am sure at least 1 shithead will attack me for this....a three fingered solute in advance

Yes, some just come for entertainment to make others miserable , makes themselves feel better about their own lives. At the same time there are many people who come here to give good advice , sometimes advice we don't like to hear but nonetheless perspectives people may not have thought about. It's all in the way it's presented. There will always be those that just come here to poke fun at people who put themselves in a bad situation by being naive and trusting. Maybe some are even doubting that they aren't in the same situation as you , and just haven't figured it out yet. Just get through this the best way you can , move forward and don't look back.