Interview in Nigeria

[crazi4christ 1]

Well, I just wanted to say Steve had his interview on Tuesday. It bad. They didnt ask him for really anything. They asked him for my Tax papers from 2004 and he gave them it. Then they asked for our marriage certificate and all of our birth certificates which he had, and gave to them. Then they said how is he forsure that our daughter kelita is his. He gave them the copies of my passport to show when I was there a letter from my doctor stating that I had been pregnant. And then her Birth certificate again showing when she was born. 9 months stupid. But that wasnt enough. the CO wants me to do a DNA test of my daughter and then they well send one to steve for him to do it and when the Results come back they will finish the interview. I AM MAD. to do a DNA test is 700.00 This is money I dont have. Let alone I know that kelita is Steves we dont question that they are. Steve showed them pictures of her. and they said that when she was an infant she looked more like him than she does now. But that still doesnt prove that Kelita is his.

SO, I dont know what to do now. i dont feel I should have to pay for this DNA testing to be done. ANd I dont know why this has come down to this.

I am so tired of this Embassy I await the day when we are done with them.

Does anyone have any suggestions on what to do?

I have my congressman involved but, she is out of the office until monday.

So thanks everyone for your help.

[blah0323 0]

I'm sorry this is happening to you. I hope that your congressman can help you, with this situation. This must be another way of prolonging the visa process.

Good Luck

[crazi4christ 1]

Well, a little update. my husband went to do his fingerprinting. And it all went well they gave him a paper of what he has to have before he can return to the embassy and it is. The DNA test. So we will see what we are gonna do. I will be contacting Laura(senator) when she is back in the office on Monday. I have to send her some emails so she is aware of everything going on but I have spoken to her assistant and they are aware of everything.

The Co told my husband that once they recieve the DNA testing they will finish the process and it will be issued depending on the DNA test. So, i dont know. I am stressed. But I seriously want to belive that GOD is INCONTROL.

Thanks for all your prayers GOD is pulling us through. Please Pray though.Not for me but for my husband. These trials are hard, he though does not express his fustrations and I can tell in his voice that he is sad. But he keeps saying Honey GOd is INCONTROL. And he is. So thanks everyone for listen to me and being in this Long Journey with me that I pray soooooooooonn will come to an end IN Jesus NAME.

[sweetee 0]

Janita,

Sorry to hear about all this "drama" that they r still putting u guys thru. Yes, GOD is DEFINITELY IN CONTROL! Just go on ahead and do the DNA test b/c there seems to be no way around it. If you need anything, just call us...We r still here!

Michele

[sercontigo 1]

Oh my! I didn't know they delve into people personal lives to that extent! I mean to question a baby's father...wow! That man is your husband! You have really tripped me out...I can't believe they are asking for DNA tests! I am so sorry about that. My question is how are they supposed to do the test? Isn't the baby in the states and the father in Nigeria? How will they compare the DNA?

[ForeverAmen 0]

You are in our thoughts and prayers. Continue to stay focused, and never stop trusting in God.

Boaz

[Ta Ta 1]

That is just so crazy, they do anything to hassle people !

[forchika 4]

You are in our thoughts and prayers. Continue to stay focused, and never stop trusting in God.

Boaz

DITTO!!!!!!!

[idocare 3]

Janita,

Sorry to hear of all your struggles, but as many of us now know, it's probably the best that they be more reserved in just handing out visa's. Many many women have been burned from Nigerians looking to come into the states and scamming every step of the way, only to leave that American women once paperwork, or timing permits.

I'm sure the immigration office is equally as tired of hearing all the stories from us women whom these men choose to use. NOT EVERYONE'S MARRIAGE WILL END IN DIVORCE but I'm sure that the immigration offices get alot of complaints after these men come here and then leave their american families, as they say, once you bring them here, and in some cases file their paperwork, or they receive their greencard, it's then their decission to stay in that marriage. It's then that you realized that he's played you from your first meeting.

Janita, you have been through so-so much, that I'm wishing a happy reunion and life-long marriage, but do keep in mind that some of these men can be so evil and desparate to come to America, that your feelings don't matter, they will say and do what's necessary for you fight for them to come. Then when they are ready to leave, they will turn against you so fast.

I'm currently one of those people who is just as aggressive in asking the immigration to deport my ex-husband back , as I was in bringing him here, and we have a child together.

His first son. At the end of the day none of that mattered, and I feel he'll receive his justice soon and take his flight back to Nigeria with his mind wondering how did this happen!

So even tho it does seem like that immigration office is messing with you all, just take a deep breath, and thank God that they don't let everyone that tries to come into this country come in. Actually it sounds like once you return the blood tests your case will be proved, you know I'm no expert or nothing but that's how I read it, anywho, good luck with everything.

[ursy 0]

Janita,

Sorry to hear of all your struggles, but as many of us now know, it's probably the best that they be more reserved in just handing out visa's. Many many women have been burned from Nigerians looking to come into the states and scamming every step of the way, only to leave that American women once paperwork, or timing permits.

I'm sure the immigration office is equally as tired of hearing all the stories from us women whom these men choose to use. NOT EVERYONE'S MARRIAGE WILL END IN DIVORCE but I'm sure that the immigration offices get alot of complaints after these men come here and then leave their american families, as they say, once you bring them here, and in some cases file their paperwork, or they receive their greencard, it's then their decission to stay in that marriage. It's then that you realized that he's played you from your first meeting.

Janita, you have been through so-so much, that I'm wishing a happy reunion and life-long marriage, but do keep in mind that some of these men can be so evil and desparate to come to America, that your feelings don't matter, they will say and do what's necessary for you fight for them to come. Then when they are ready to leave, they will turn against you so fast.

I'm currently one of those people who is just as aggressive in asking the immigration to deport my ex-husband back , as I was in bringing him here, and we have a child together.

His first son. At the end of the day none of that mattered, and I feel he'll receive his justice soon and take his flight back to Nigeria with his mind wondering how did this happen!

So even tho it does seem like that immigration office is messing with you all, just take a deep breath, and thank God that they don't let everyone that tries to come into this country come in. Actually it sounds like once you return the blood tests your case will be proved, you know I'm no expert or nothing but that's how I read it, anywho, good luck with everything.

Amen!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I agree that they should be questioned to the highest. I think they should prove every step of the way even DNA. So i consider the immigration officers as my allies. They may see something that I do not see. So whether we like it or not it is a reality and many men who come to this country from NIgeria and the rest of the world give the impression that they are in love today but actually they have an alterior motive in the future!!!!!!!!!!!!! Thanks for pointing that out.

[sweetee 0]

well i just had to add my .02cents again. First of all, I wanna say I know "idocare" and "crazi4christ". Those are 2 of the women here on VJ that I have contact with very often. (Not as much as we used to, but still they my gurlz!!!! )

Now Karen, u didn't even have to go there. Y'all know doggone well them people don't need a damn DNA test. Hell, from the beginning she already gave them the statement from her doctor stating date of conception, not to mention the girl also gave them proof of her travel itinerary showing that she conceived the child there. Oh and let's not forget that she was even there standing in front of those damn people at that interview. Also let's not forget how one Nigerian working at the embassy when Steve was called back after administrative review, damn near just came out and asked for a "bribe" and when he realized he was not getting any, he came up with someother b/s about his paperwork being misplaced or something........ENUF SAID!!! Bottom line is, they are not treating this guy fairly and you know it!!!! Call me when u get a chance!!!!!!!!!!

Ursy, I really don't know you, but I want to say this....Not everything that shines is GOLD!!! And not everything that is good to you is actually good for you. I feel from your reply that you are taking this very personal for one reason or the other. I maybe wrong, but assuming I am correct, ONLY YOU know whether or not you are being deceived or preyed upon by a "scammer." To be honest with you, I think that those of us who have married a foreigner and have found out that they have been scammed just for a green card, already saw the signs and just totally ignored it b/c they were so blinded by love. I don't feel a scammer can keep his act up for that long...somewhere down the line he slipped and it went totally ignored. And then hindsight allows u to see it way after he has found some type of way to leave u.

Nita, u know just continue to P(pray) U(until) S(something) H(happen)!!!!! All those damn no good a** people over there want is some type of bribery. I don't feel u should have to pay for the DNA test of ur daughter since they are the ones requesting it, but I still don't see no way around it. Maybe ur Senator can find some type of loophole. And if you need assistance with financing the DNA test, Iyke said for you to just call and we'll be willing to help out.

Look, Steve is ur husband and I feel that he genuinely loves and care for you and his daughter. Had it not be, he could have been left and forgot about u and Kelita and just go back to Dubai, since it seems all their friends there are doing good anyway. It's not like he didn't have his own business there. Iyke spoke with Steve last weekend and yes he may be getting a bit frustrated with all this drama from the embassy, but everything still remains the same as far as your family is concerned. GOD will see u thru all of this. Besides, those people at the embassy just want to see if either of you will give up and let them win. But remember you have the victory, not them!!! Don't let negative thoughts and comments get to u. Being married to a foreigner, I have really learned what is meant when they say "misery loves company!"

Now this is not intended to start some type of feud here, this is only my comments.

Michele

[NaijaPrincess Need NaijaPrince 0]

I am in total disbelief with that US embassy in Nigeria. They do not represent the US beauracy that is here in the US. It makes me believe that they have no clue as to what love is. In a country where fake documentation can be bought at a price to look so authentic, it drives me crazy that they want to see lots of "papers (docs)" before approvng a visa. The CO has complete control over whether a visa is issued or not....bottom line.

For some of the women who have been "played" for a green card I want to ask, Do you think your expectations were not realistic? It is a fact that Every One from a 3rd world country that marries a USC must know that INITALLY the thought in the man/woman's mind is "opportunity to come to America & become rich" Anything else is secondary. Once here and the reality sets in that what they have seen on tv is make believe then the focus is on the spouse. Cultural difference then come into play and may be very hard to overcome. In America, women are more in control of the household and buiness matters than in their home country. In Africa, they hardly ever get divorce & the women are more submissive. A woman has got to be smart prior to getting into the relationship. You must ask them & test them over and over again do you want me soley to come into the US. I did and will continue to ask until we are married for 60 years.

As far as immigration, it is set up to make money. America is a capitalist nation and it does not really care about the spouse loving you. How often is it that you see the government protecting USC. Case in point...look at Katrina and Louisiana. It is so much more difficult to marry someone who is overseas than a person who is here with an expired visa. I don't know how many men have approached me with marriage for green card in mind when on US soil. The embassy has no idea that I as a person have dealt with this very situation on US soil and I would know what to look for. For the most part, I personally know some Nigerians who are here & have told me that the name they are using is not theirs. It is the fakes that get through and the real ones who have hell to get through.

The DNA test I agree should not matter. Even if the daughter is not his(which she is), what difference does it make. It has nothing to do with the marriage. USC married to each other have children that are not even their husbands. What's to say Steve would not adopt her and make a family. That Embassy stands in the way of progress being made here in America. Once the USC has spent all of their money fighting for their spouse, the USC will have to rely on US government assistance. All of the illegal Mexicans walking around here makes me very sick!!! Not to be racist or anything but if more Africans can come up through Mexico then immigration would really put their foot down.

It is funny to me that the USC working in the Embassy can manipulate the Nigerians working there to bring their fellow country men down. The Nigerians that work there are so very brain washed. I wonder if they themselves have ever applied for a visa to travel to the US. It may be the Embassy's policy is that if you work there you are not even allowed to apply to come to the US.

I just wish that a union or some force could be formed to fight against that Embassy. If anyone has any ideas on how to do that, please let me know. I would like it if we all could fly to the Embassy and storm on them as a group. That would be awesome!!!

well i just had to add my .02cents again. First of all, I wanna say I know "idocare" and "crazi4christ". Those are 2 of the women here on VJ that I have contact with very often. (Not as much as we used to, but still they my gurlz!!!! )

Now Karen, u didn't even have to go there. Y'all know doggone well them people don't need a damn DNA test. Hell, from the beginning she already gave them the statement from her doctor stating date of conception, not to mention the girl also gave them proof of her travel itinerary showing that she conceived the child there. Oh and let's not forget that she was even there standing in front of those damn people at that interview. Also let's not forget how one Nigerian working at the embassy when Steve was called back after administrative review, damn near just came out and asked for a "bribe" and when he realized he was not getting any, he came up with someother b/s about his paperwork being misplaced or something........ENUF SAID!!! Bottom line is, they are not treating this guy fairly and you know it!!!! Call me when u get a chance!!!!!!!!!!

Ursy, I really don't know you, but I want to say this....Not everything that shines is GOLD!!! And not everything that is good to you is actually good for you. I feel from your reply that you are taking this very personal for one reason or the other. I maybe wrong, but assuming I am correct, ONLY YOU know whether or not you are being deceived or preyed upon by a "scammer." To be honest with you, I think that those of us who have married a foreigner and have found out that they have been scammed just for a green card, already saw the signs and just totally ignored it b/c they were so blinded by love. I don't feel a scammer can keep his act up for that long...somewhere down the line he slipped and it went totally ignored. And then hindsight allows u to see it way after he has found some type of way to leave u.

Nita, u know just continue to P(pray) U(until) S(something) H(happen)!!!!! All those damn no good a** people over there want is some type of bribery. I don't feel u should have to pay for the DNA test of ur daughter since they are the ones requesting it, but I still don't see no way around it. Maybe ur Senator can find some type of loophole. And if you need assistance with financing the DNA test, Iyke said for you to just call and we'll be willing to help out.

Look, Steve is ur husband and I feel that he genuinely loves and care for you and his daughter. Had it not be, he could have been left and forgot about u and Kelita and just go back to Dubai, since it seems all their friends there are doing good anyway. It's not like he didn't have his own business there. Iyke spoke with Steve last weekend and yes he may be getting a bit frustrated with all this drama from the embassy, but everything still remains the same as far as your family is concerned. GOD will see u thru all of this. Besides, those people at the embassy just want to see if either of you will give up and let them win. But remember you have the victory, not them!!! Don't let negative thoughts and comments get to u. Being married to a foreigner, I have really learned what is meant when they say "misery loves company!"

Now this is not intended to start some type of feud here, this is only my comments.

Michele

[ursy 0]

I am in total disbelief with that US embassy in Nigeria. They do not represent the US beauracy that is here in the US. It makes me believe that they have no clue as to what love is. In a country where fake documentation can be bought at a price to look so authentic, it drives me crazy that they want to see lots of "papers (docs)" before approvng a visa. The CO has complete control over whether a visa is issued or not....bottom line.

For some of the women who have been "played" for a green card I want to ask, Do you think your expectations were not realistic? It is a fact that Every One from a 3rd world country that marries a USC must know that INITALLY the thought in the man/woman's mind is "opportunity to come to America & become rich" Anything else is secondary. Once here and the reality sets in that what they have seen on tv is make believe then the focus is on the spouse. Cultural difference then come into play and may be very hard to overcome. In America, women are more in control of the household and buiness matters than in their home country. In Africa, they hardly ever get divorce & the women are more submissive. A woman has got to be smart prior to getting into the relationship. You must ask them & test them over and over again do you want me soley to come into the US. I did and will continue to ask until we are married for 60 years.

As far as immigration, it is set up to make money. America is a capitalist nation and it does not really care about the spouse loving you. How often is it that you see the government protecting USC. Case in point...look at Katrina and Louisiana. It is so much more difficult to marry someone who is overseas than a person who is here with an expired visa. I don't know how many men have approached me with marriage for green card in mind when on US soil. The embassy has no idea that I as a person have dealt with this very situation on US soil and I would know what to look for. For the most part, I personally know some Nigerians who are here & have told me that the name they are using is not theirs. It is the fakes that get through and the real ones who have hell to get through.

The DNA test I agree should not matter. Even if the daughter is not his(which she is), what difference does it make. It has nothing to do with the marriage. USC married to each other have children that are not even their husbands. What's to say Steve would not adopt her and make a family. That Embassy stands in the way of progress being made here in America. Once the USC has spent all of their money fighting for their spouse, the USC will have to rely on US government assistance. All of the illegal Mexicans walking around here makes me very sick!!! Not to be racist or anything but if more Africans can come up through Mexico then immigration would really put their foot down.

It is funny to me that the USC working in the Embassy can manipulate the Nigerians working there to bring their fellow country men down. The Nigerians that work there are so very brain washed. I wonder if they themselves have ever applied for a visa to travel to the US. It may be the Embassy's policy is that if you work there you are not even allowed to apply to come to the US.

I just wish that a union or some force could be formed to fight against that Embassy. If anyone has any ideas on how to do that, please let me know. I would like it if we all could fly to the Embassy and storm on them as a group. That would be awesome!!!

well i just had to add my .02cents again. First of all, I wanna say I know "idocare" and "crazi4christ". Those are 2 of the women here on VJ that I have contact with very often. (Not as much as we used to, but still they my gurlz!!!! )

Now Karen, u didn't even have to go there. Y'all know doggone well them people don't need a damn DNA test. Hell, from the beginning she already gave them the statement from her doctor stating date of conception, not to mention the girl also gave them proof of her travel itinerary showing that she conceived the child there. Oh and let's not forget that she was even there standing in front of those damn people at that interview. Also let's not forget how one Nigerian working at the embassy when Steve was called back after administrative review, damn near just came out and asked for a "bribe" and when he realized he was not getting any, he came up with someother b/s about his paperwork being misplaced or something........ENUF SAID!!! Bottom line is, they are not treating this guy fairly and you know it!!!! Call me when u get a chance!!!!!!!!!!

Ursy, I really don't know you, but I want to say this....Not everything that shines is GOLD!!! And not everything that is good to you is actually good for you. I feel from your reply that you are taking this very personal for one reason or the other. I maybe wrong, but assuming I am correct, ONLY YOU know whether or not you are being deceived or preyed upon by a "scammer." To be honest with you, I think that those of us who have married a foreigner and have found out that they have been scammed just for a green card, already saw the signs and just totally ignored it b/c they were so blinded by love. I don't feel a scammer can keep his act up for that long...somewhere down the line he slipped and it went totally ignored. And then hindsight allows u to see it way after he has found some type of way to leave u.

Nita, u know just continue to P(pray) U(until) S(something) H(happen)!!!!! All those damn no good a** people over there want is some type of bribery. I don't feel u should have to pay for the DNA test of ur daughter since they are the ones requesting it, but I still don't see no way around it. Maybe ur Senator can find some type of loophole. And if you need assistance with financing the DNA test, Iyke said for you to just call and we'll be willing to help out.

Look, Steve is ur husband and I feel that he genuinely loves and care for you and his daughter. Had it not be, he could have been left and forgot about u and Kelita and just go back to Dubai, since it seems all their friends there are doing good anyway. It's not like he didn't have his own business there. Iyke spoke with Steve last weekend and yes he may be getting a bit frustrated with all this drama from the embassy, but everything still remains the same as far as your family is concerned. GOD will see u thru all of this. Besides, those people at the embassy just want to see if either of you will give up and let them win. But remember you have the victory, not them!!! Don't let negative thoughts and comments get to u. Being married to a foreigner, I have really learned what is meant when they say "misery loves company!"

Now this is not intended to start some type of feud here, this is only my comments.

Michele

Well, I am not trying to start anything but it would be foolish for the US embassy not to question the fiance. I and I do not think the DNA test is going too far. As for the comment about the US not concern about its citizens I disagree with that too. The "Katrina"situation does not reflect the government. That situation revealed lack of preparation on the part of the citizens and the devastating effects of poverty. No one who is sane would wait for the government to save their life when facing nature. I live in Louisiana and the hurricane warning was broadcasted for about a week before the event. Everyone was told to leave New Orleans and the vicinity. Louisiana has a long history of hurricanes . The Katrina situation reveals the problems with minimizing the power of nature. Anyone who stays in a place where hurricane is expected to hit is gambling with nature and underestimating the harm it may cause. Too many people depend on the government for things they should handle themselves.

Now Regarding the K-3 visa case

She was not denied just asked for a DNA test. If she truly believes that God is Incontrol then she should give them what they ask for.......... prove her case and she and her husband will be together. That minor extra time should be just a blink of time in their relationship considering they will be together for a lifetime. Sometimes :The greater the test The greater the future blessing will be.

[idocare 3]

Hey Michelle,

How have you been ? Me and mines are doing fine.

Now to the point, I guess what I was saying is that I see the immigration officer asking for a blood test the same as asking for proof of divorce, or proof of children, my thinking is once they see that he's likely the father, that they MAY not require any more evidence, heck, they have asked them for everything else already over the years, my thinking is that they don't have anything more to dought. ( But I do know were dealing with immigration so who knows)

Then were dealing with a country that's notorious for scamming , so that don't help much either, one more thing, you and I and the consular all know that for the right price you can buy anything in that country, so I feel all this can go against anyone's case if the person being interviewed gives them reason for prying deeper.

[sweetee 0]

alright karen, i feel ya and i do understand totally and completely.

oh btw, we all are fine here also.

but come on now, that girl has been dealing with that no-nonsense embassy since 2004 (their very first interview). Those people have asked for everything from that couple that they could possibly want. Only thing left is the demographics of the conception of the child. They just being some big ole a**holes. Yeah, I think she should just give them the DNA results, but you know as well as I do, they don't really want that nor do they need it. Steve is not being treated fairly and you know that as well. And i won't be surprised that even after the DNA test; they come up with another lame a** excuse asking for something else. Why didn't they just ask for the DNA results even b4 Nita applied for the CR1? They knew of the child back then. Hell she is already a year old. Everytime she gives them what they need, they still ask for more. Seems to me that they keep asking for things they dont feel Janita and Steve can supply them with and when they see that it can be done; they think of something else which they feel will be inevitable. There should be some kinda law in the immigration policy handbook that states a "statue of limitations on RFE's and administrative reviews. There's no need to keep requesting more information and when that is given, u come up with some new request. That ain't nothing but a bunch of beaurocratic ######!!!!I have to agree with Naija princess!!! Even though everything went smooth for Iyke and myself from the beginning to the end without any questions or RFE's; I still feel the same way "princess" does when she said that we should all go there and "storm" on them as a group. Something needs to be done about those people there. Yeah, there are some beneficiaries that go thru that embassy with intent to scam, but there are still some that have good intentions also. And it seems that most of the ones that are getting visas are those that have "no good" intentions. I guess the good have to suffer for the bad. Well anyway, like I said, that is just another ploy by them over there to probably see if they can acquire some type of "bribe" from Steve. And that goes for the American (citizen) CO. Maybe the CO's themselves have been in Naija way 2 long working there and the ways of the "bad" Naija people have come to rub off on them.

MICHELE