Trying To Bring MY Wife And Step Daughter From VN

[dn7309 0]

Ok I filed two petitions with USCIS to bring the two of them over the United States. I just got my i-797 last week. They made a typo on my birth date and address. I will call them to fix it while I am waiting for the next step. While I am still waiting I thought I ask around here on what to expect and what to do under my circumstances.

Here is a quick overview about myself and my situation

• I am 27 year old, my spouse is 37 (yes she is 10 years older than me)
  
• I am a US citizen and currently a pilot student in the United States Air Force
  
• Income wise I consider myself middle class so I am definitely above the 125% above the poverty level to support my spouse and step daughter. My spouse unfortunately is pretty poor making like 5-6 mil VND/month in a hair salon and her dead beat family is pretty much making her life harder than it to be (working 12 hrs/day to take care of her daughter and her family still steals from her)
  
• Been back and fourth to VN four times since 2007. No ticket stub but my passport stamps can validate my trips
  
• I known since I was young since she was literally the girl next door for as long as I can remember.
  
• I left VN when I was 6, came in 20 years later. Didn't see her. Went back to VN again in 2012 ran into her and we just "hook" up.
  
• We did not have a wedding in VN or plan to. I will want to have an Air Force Military style wedding she gets here.
  
• My mom is currently in VN and I can't stand my her. My mom doesn't approve our union because she rather match me up with some richer younger Vietnamese girl so I can give her a ticket to the US so my mom can cash in (typical fake VISA gig). I also hate my spouse's family because they're greedy and selfish A***Holes. This means we don't have a typical wedding or wedding photos.
  
• My mom still harasses my spouse in VN
  
• My mom in VN is threatening to sabotage the process by going to the ward or consulate and tell them my wedding is fake and I'm doing a fake VISA (which I am not, since my spouse have nothing of monetary value like money to offer me other than being with her). If she can't stop me from marrying my spouse, she figure she'll find another way to keep us apart.
  

Ok so my are my questions

• What can I expect to happen in a couple of months now that I received my i-797?
  
• Without the typical wedding pictures as proof, is that an automatic fail? We do not like to take pictures, but we got some intimate pictures and when I'm in the US we FaceBook message all the time
  
• Do I have to be at the consulate for the interview with my spouse? The way it looks like now, the Air Force doesn't let student take a break from training because if I miss any part of training I will have to start over therefore wasting the taxpayers money.
  
• And lastly, can my mom really sabotage us?
  

Edited June 16, 2014 by dn7309

[Boiler 45,559]

Are you married or not, your post is extremely confusing.

[dn7309 0]

Are you married or not, your post is extremely confusing.

yes we are married. I thought making bullets points might help.

What is it what make it confusing? I put it in chronological order.

Edited June 16, 2014 by dn7309

[Boiler 45,559]

Then you are not looking at a K1 Visa.

We did not have a wedding in VN or plan to

[dn7309 0]

Then you are not looking at a K1 Visa.

I did not specifically asking about K1 or K3 Visa. I know what I filed a i-130 and got a i-797 six months later in the mail.

K1 Visa is for fiance, K3 Visa is for married spouse, I am obviously looking at that

I did not have a wedding as in a ceremony or reception. We got married in court. See the bullet about our family in VN

Edited June 16, 2014 by dn7309

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• Filed for:K-1 Visa

[dn7309 0]

• Filed for:K-1 Visa

my bad on that one, must have picked the wrong choice on the drop down. Totally my fault.

My apology for the confusion. I got clickly happy in the registration process to get it over with and didn't realize I have two more drop down to go. Changed to K3. Again sorry for the confusion.

Edited June 16, 2014 by dn7309

[nightingalejules 678]

I answered your other post. Technically, what you've applied for with the I 130 is a CR1/IR1 immigrant visa, not a K type visa at all. CR1 is if you have been married for less than 2 years, IR1 is more than 2 years. Both are immigrant visas, which means that your spouse will get a green card upon arrival (basically).

In a few months, you will (assuming all your info is in order) get the NOA 2, which will be approval of your I130 petitions. Then your case is sent to the NVC where you will provide your financial evidence that you can support your family, and your wife will (or you will on her behalf) file the visa application. Once that is all accepted, your petition will be sent to the US embassy in VN. Your wife and child will have to have a medical exam, and an interview (which you don't have to attend, I don't think, if you don't want to) and then if all goes well, her visa will be issued and she can join you in the US.

It is unlikely that your mom will be able to cause too many problems for you. Honestly, it's hard for us to get ahold of anyone official - harder still for her, who doesn't have access to your case numbers etc.

It would, however, be a good idea to collect up some photos of the two of you together and any other evidence you have of a bonafide (ie: real) relationship.

[BatonRouge Bill 2]

I answered your other post. Technically, what you've applied for with the I 130 is a CR1/IR1 immigrant visa, not a K type visa at all. CR1 is if you have been married for less than 2 years, IR1 is more than 2 years. Both are immigrant visas, which means that your spouse will get a green card upon arrival (basically).

In a few months, you will (assuming all your info is in order) get the NOA 2, which will be approval of your I130 petitions. Then your case is sent to the NVC where you will provide your financial evidence that you can support your family, and your wife will (or you will on her behalf) file the visa application. Once that is all accepted, your petition will be sent to the US embassy in VN. Your wife and child will have to have a medical exam, and an interview (which you don't have to attend, I don't think, if you don't want to) and then if all goes well, her visa will be issued and she can join you in the US.

It is unlikely that your mom will be able to cause too many problems for you. Honestly, it's hard for us to get ahold of anyone official - harder still for her, who doesn't have access to your case numbers etc.

It would, however, be a good idea to collect up some photos of the two of you together and any other evidence you have of a bonafide (ie: real) relationship.

I have to agree with all you said, and would also add special emphasis to the statement about photos and other evidence time stamps, etc.

Also take care of the address change with USCIS and ask them to be sure it is corrected. I did the same and had corrected even got the paper reciept of the change and still the original mistake was left for my wife's then fiance' address and the consulate recieved the wrong address not the correction and they mailed the interview package to the wrong address.

[kehills 217]

Don't tell your mother what you're doing, when you're doing it, or any other information. Easy solution to that problem, at least.

[Avery Cates 1,141]

Tell your mother to set you up with that rich girl. Play along while bringing your actual wife here.

Once wife is here, stop all communication with rich girl and mother, horribly shaming mother.

Live life.

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Well that is a pretty impressive first post.

[dn7309 0]

Thanks for the replies so far. Made the process less stressful.

My story so far is basically like a soap opera, but one thing I learn from Vietnamese family in VN is that any goes.

[JRF 117]

A consular officer is surely going to question why neither you or your spouse have close relations with your families - as I am sure you know this is very uncommon in Vietnam. The absence of a formal wedding and photos, while not a show-stopper, is nevertheless unusual. By a court wedding I am assuming you meant you simply signed paperwork at the Justice Department.

Have your wife and step-child ever been to the US?

[dn7309 0]

Wife and step child never been to US.

As far as not having close relationship with family and not being able to have a wedding ceremony in VN is very uncommon, I just hope whoever interviews my wife understand that not everyone is the same and under the same situation. I honestly can't stand being 'traditional' Vietnamese and I don't like their close tie family values stuff. So why have wedding in VN when you can't invite anyone you like and accept you for who you are?

My friends and family in the US can accept this support me, which make more sense for me to have my wedding here. And I still want a US military wedding. I can't have that in VN ever.