Need help (denied by his american citizen father)

[Sweet28 0]

Hi just wanna ask if anyone can help me with my case about my son. My son denied by this own father who is an a a filipino but already american citizen, first is he went home here in the philippines December 2011 and to make the story short i found out by February 2012 that i was pregnant..but that time we already separated/broke up because of his attitude. I told him late by May that im pregnant and he was the Father,but he didnt believe me. When the time pass by..he always message me how is my pregnant i told him if he can help me financially, but instead of to comfort me, he told me some bad things about me by personal message me thru facebook .he always told me to assure that kid is his own kid..i already told him everything..until one day i told him i will not let my son meet his father ever. And then my friend told me if i can go back to US (my fiancé is applying for K1 visa for me) i can file a case against his father for abandon my son.would that be the right thing to do?need help ...

[hardrockangel 21]

What I suggest as a filipina also..if you already found someone to be your lifetime partner, maybe it's time for you to forget and forgive the father of your son,move on, I dont know what might happen but for sure even your present relationship will suffer.just raise your son without any anger from his father..just my point of view, but you are the one who can still decide what to do.GOD bless

[VOL 425]

If he is USC then you can contact the Attorney General in the state where he lives.

With the way the US Fanily law is I would think they would make him pay child support

They courts can order him to take a DNA test, I would think

[aaron2020 11,651]

If he is USC then you can contact the Attorney General in the state where he lives.

With the way the US Fanily law is I would think they would make him pay child support

They courts can order him to take a DNA test, I would think

The AG deals with criminal matters. The AG does not deal with civil disputes especially when when the mother is seeking to establish legal paternity and child support.

If the OP wants family law to help and get a DNA test, she calls on her own attorney to sue the father. She does not call the AG.

Edited June 15, 2014 by aaron2020

[aaron2020 11,651]

Hi Sweet28,

Once you are in the US, you can hire a lawyer to sue the father to establish paternity and get child support.

You can not sue for "abandonment" since paternity has not been legally established. Right now, its only your words that he is the father.

Once you establish that he is the father legally in court, he gains rights as a parent. He will be entitled to see his child. He may even be granted shared custody. If you die while the child is a minor, the father will automatically get custody.

You need to think about the pros and con's of establishing paternity.

Edited June 15, 2014 by aaron2020

[mike56427 6]

... I think that is very wise advice

What I suggest as a filipina also..if you already found someone to be your lifetime partner, maybe it's time for you to forget and forgive the father of your son,move on, I dont know what might happen but for sure even your present relationship will suffer.just raise your son without any anger from his father..just my point of view, but you are the one who can still decide what to do.GOD bless

[hardrockangel 21]

... I think that is very wise advice

Thanks Mike5627,If I we're her I will do that, to be able to live peacefully?? Edited June 15, 2014 by hardrockangel

[Ryan H 3,812]

Moved from What Visa Do I Need - Family Based Immigration to Philippines regional forum; topic is about legal issues and the OP is already on an established visa path.

[Al422 221]

The father is US citizen? Do you know his address? Getting support from him once you are in the US is very simple. You go to the local court to you that handles child support filings and tel the clerk you want to file a USDL petition (stands for Uniform Support of Dependents Law). Whatever agency is responsible to prosecute child support matters in his home state (all states have one) will sue him for support for you in the state where he lives, send all monies collected to the support enforcement agency in your state, and they send it on to you.

[Sweet28 0]

The father is US citizen? Do you know his address? Getting support from him once you are in the US is very simple. You go to the local court to you that handles child support filings and tel the clerk you want to file a USDL petition (stands for Uniform Support of Dependents Law). Whatever agency is responsible to prosecute child support matters in his home state (all states have one) will sue him for support for you in the state where he lives, send all monies collected to the support enforcement agency in your state, and they send it on to you.

I dont know where his insact address is..but he is in california..yap he is an american citizen born in philippines..he was a US Army before but the time we meet he already went to culinary school..nd i dont have any news about him lately...

[Al422 221]

There are other ways they can find him, like a Department of Motor Vehicle address search.

The first step in any event is go to to the local court where you will live that handles support cases and ask the clerk for a USDL petition.

[Greenbaum 12,259]

I agree with "hardrockangle" that maybe you should leave well enough alone as your options are very time consuming and costly. If you are happy with your current "husband" and he has accepted your child then I think that it is the best for all three of you.

[hardrockangel 21]

I agree with "hardrockangle" that maybe you should leave well enough alone as your options are very time consuming and costly. If you are happy with your current "husband" and he has accepted your child then I think that it is the best for all three of you.

Thanks "greenbaum", live life to the fullest..don't chase him because maybe it will bring more problems in the future..and also the boy will be in a traumatic situation..she said from the start the man already deny her son..so she needs yo prove first that the boy is his son, then she can file the case, for sure her son will be involved in every moved that she need to take..spare the boy from disappointment, I am a mother with 1 daughter..the father also same like that man..but instead of chasing him I stood by my self.and now we're very much ok without him..be strong and always pray.?

[hardrockangel 21]

One more thing,love your fiance now as much as you can..if he found out that you have other plan aside from being with him in america, for sure you will have a problem in the future.For sure he petition you to be with him and to have a happy life together.not to chase your ex.

[Al422 221]

I think it is a safe bet your fiance knows the father of your child is someone other than him.

Be that as it may, involve him in the decision: Do the two of you want to pursue this man to get him to attend to his responsibility as a father, or do you want to let sleeping dogs lie? If you get support from him, he may be able to establish visitation rights with the child, and he might exercise them solely to be vindictive. You need to consider that before you open Pandora's Box.