The waiting time: how to kill boredom while on AOS via k1visa

[millionmileslove 8]

Hi VJ friends,

Im back and im in mixed emotions now.

REALIZATION:

Waiting needs patience... lot of them!

I know most of k1 visa entry will relate how boredom and frustrations can really get into your nerves while you wait... and wait... and wait....

Get yourself ready for tons of waiting on the ff:

1. Marriage license: getting married on a California county (i am not generalizing but i have read a lot of issues like this all over CA) will have to take you 6-8 weeks.

*i got married at LA county im lucky we were able to receive it after 4 weeks

2. Without marriage license

i was not able to register myself as a spouse to receive health benefits from my hubby (they wont accept the customer copy for it has no license number)

and most important

***** i went to DMV 3x and still got rejected for cali id or drivers license

1st attempt: they wanted my original marriage license because i had no ID with my new name on it (surname same as spouse)

2nd attempt: they wanted to see all originals of the ff: NOA, passport, marriage license, I-94...

3rd attempt: they told me that my I-94 validity date is nearly to expire:

• my entry April 2014 expiration of visa July 2014
• marriage license June 2014
• DMV application June 2014 (one month before visa expiration) they wanted a longer validity

so they told me i needed to show them my greencard like... *&(^&$%$&^^*&()*)() it will be 6 months of waiting??? haha anyways this is how i understand it as explained by DMV

*k1 visa holders have 90 days allowable stay on US unless got married w/in the time frame given and have applied AOS. the application of AOS actually disregards the I-94 or passport stamp of deadline of stay. However, DMV doesnt accept marriage license as proof of your condition. They need a PROOF of your application like:

*NOA (AOS accepted/approved with date of validation)

*greencard or anything with same value ex: EAD/AP card (with date of validity)

so the waiting again begins......

k1 visa CONS: k1 visa PROS:

*waiting sucks. -------------------------------------------- you get to be a wife long enough to enjoy it, get used to it, adjust

*boredom kills -------------------------------------------- love heals the boredom but home sickness worsens it

*it will take 3-4 months without an ID and

a job --------------------------------------------------- you have all the time to explore, get used to the culture and new environment

CONCLUSION/TIPS:

I cant drive. i thought the 3 months of waiting for working permit will give me ample time to learn how to drive but as stated here, i cant. i still have to wait for EAD to apply a drivers license. TIP: have a drivers license while you wait for your visa at your home country because it is valid here in the US for 3 months (please recheck) enough time to learn driving rules in the US and as it expires EAD arrives.

SPONSORS/CITIZENS/PETITIONER: it is really BORING without your help. we are in a new place, we have no job for months, give us something to do, tour us around, give us something to look forward to like out-of-state visit next month or some volunteer work anything to keep our sanity haha... to preserve our self-worth

i am a very successful professional in my home country. it is hard for me to be bum you know. it is hard here without a car and husband is out and you cant drive, people are all busy, friends and family are far. you get to be weak and cry sometimes but here is what keeps me going:

1. I love my husband

2. Im happy with him

3. I have accepted that this is my new life

4. Dont waste time not knowing anything new about this country, there are a lot of things to know

i started reading books, novels, barnes and noble is a great place to go to, i walk everyday 5pm-7pm, driving isnt everything you have your feet, i ask about the culture the people and the law, i search for volunteer work, possible job, i am learning how to cook, do laundry, so when the time comes that you are all set to work and live as an independent citizen with all the required papers needed, you know how to live, you have visited every place nearby, you have eaten the common food, can speak the language and blend in...

but my most precious boredom medicine is my mi amore, my husband. who i cuddle everyday you have all the time in the world for love. before work complicate things

Lets all stay positive.

[cresh_20 0]

Hi, I can relate with you with your situation right now. Just got here in US last March 27 and im still waiting for my EAD. On friday will my biometric fingerprinting for 1-765. Im done with my first fingerprinting for I-485. But since I have a drivers license from Canada, I am starting to practice driving in here to get to know the road signs better. Coz road in USA is more busier from Canada. I came from Canada for 6 yrs before I get here in US. Yah, sucks waiting for everything. I am here for 2 months.