My wife hates everything here.

[jsjs 10]

it is never ok to threaten with divorce. NEVER. Whichever culture you may belong in, love is love. If you love someone you just try to make things better. Don't just expect the other person to do everything for you and when they don't live up to your expectations, you complain and cry DIVORCE! She has to put in EFFORT. Just because she is Chinese and that's how she might do things, doesn't mean it is ok! Race doesn't excuse you from abuse. She is mentally and emotionally abusing her partner. She needs to understand his point of view too! If she does not have it in her to try, then she does not love him...enough? It cannot always be him him him him. Marriage takes 2 to work. She has to put in effort. AND NO, her moving to the states isn't enough effort. It's a given that you will go where your partner goes. It's the "working things out" that's hard.

Edited July 28, 2014 by jsjs

[bubblebubble 16]

it is never ok to threaten with divorce. NEVER. Whichever culture you may belong in, love is love. If you love someone you just try to make things better. Don't just expect the other person to do everything for you and when they don't live up to your expectations, you complain and cry DIVORCE! She has to put in EFFORT. Just because she is Chinese and that's how she might do things, doesn't mean it is ok! Race doesn't excuse you from abuse. She is mentally and emotionally abusing her partner. She needs to understand his point of view too! If she does not have it in her to try, then she does not love him...enough? It cannot always be him him him him. Marriage takes 2 to work. She has to put in effort. AND NO, her moving to the states isn't enough effort. It's a given that you will go where your partner goes. It's the "working things out" that's hard.

Yes, she is. But her partner needs to know what she really means and helps her to get better. Some people just don't know how to express love, period. Sometimes, they think the put in efforts already. It is all about perspective, she needs to be told what she did was not OK. Nobody told her that! Please be understanding and helpful, not so judgmental!

[fishoil 3]

Except our air and water. Other then that. She regularily complains that she wants a divorce and wants to go back to China. I'm about to oblige her.... She is not adjusting well. And from reading on here. Our life is pretty decent. She really doesn't have to do anything , Anything she wants I get her. Were holding our own, the neighborhoods nice, quiet, works ok. sex, ok. we just got her combo travel, work card. Even have a Chinatown here. I like her cooking. I love her , really. She don't like anything.

All comments are welcome.

Sounds like my first wife. Let her go.

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