The True Approval doesn't come till Issued Status

[Krikit 1,164]

This is not an NVC topic so I am moving it to General Immigration-Related Discussion.

[dwheels76 5,468]

I agree... Quit being such a Debbie downer... I heard of glass held full or half empty, but you seem not just to be a glass half empty person... But a glass half empty and broken at the top and the sharp edges likely to cut you and you would bleed to death because you were unable to dial 911 with your bloody stump of fingers so you might as well never bother to drink from a glass again regardless of how full or empty... Sheesh...

Just sit back, let them do their process and wait for the passport with the visa. No need to microanalyze ... Celebrate for one moment that your fiancé did good... Tell him he did well, give him some positivity that is what a spouse does, supports through positive encouragement... Give it a try...

Danggggggggggg why it got to be "Debbie Downer" (Thats my first name) hehe. But very good point. sorry just had to chime in.

[pepper297 63]

I'm worry more that we havent hear anything from nvc yet! :/

Neither have we and our NOA2 date is close to yours, May 14th. I haven't called since last Thursday and as you know they are very difficult to get on the phone. However, I think it is really supposed to take weeks to actually get sent out of TSC to NVC, then be processed and documented by NVC (then they show the received it) and then finally sent to the country consulate. I think I will wait until Wednesday or Thursday to call because this is a holiday for the US and not even the mail is being delivered. The NVC or TSC are definitely not working today. Hopefully I'll call and get a pleasant surprise and the case will have already left the NVC! Then of course I'll be hoping it doesn't take a month for my fiance to get an appointment at this consulate :-/ We are close to the end at least!

[QueenComley 295]

I am concerned more for your anxiety level than how your fiancé's interview went.

I mentioned in one of your earlier posts this week that it is essential to try and minimize the stress and anxiety through your visa experience. I too suffer severe anxiety, which comes hand in hand with depression and sometimes OCD. My OCD was obsessing over situations in my mind and wildly exaggerating them. This causes anxiety, which caused depression. Its a vicious circle. And I see so many signs reading all your posts that you display a lot of these symptoms also.

I would recommend discussing your anxiety and how you manage your thought processes with a doctor, who may recommend CBT (cognitive behavioral therapy), or some written exercise which will help you understand your pattern of thinking a bit more clearly.

Even with what looks to be a successful interview you are seeking the worst possible outcome and whipping yourself up in to a frenzy. This all points to anxiety and a little mixture of maybe OCD and depression.

Take deep breathes, realize how far you and your fiancé have come in this journey and look forward to his imminent arrival in America.

But more importantly, look after yourself and seek help for your anxiety.

I wish you lots of luck.

[Hotter Otter 1,211]

I am concerned more for your anxiety level than how your fiancé's interview went.

I mentioned in one of your earlier posts this week that it is essential to try and minimize the stress and anxiety through your visa experience. I too suffer severe anxiety, which comes hand in hand with depression and sometimes OCD. My OCD was obsessing over situations in my mind and wildly exaggerating them. This causes anxiety, which caused depression. Its a vicious circle. And I see so many signs reading all your posts that you display a lot of these symptoms also.

I would recommend discussing your anxiety and how you manage your thought processes with a doctor, who may recommend CBT (cognitive behavioral therapy), or some written exercise which will help you understand your pattern of thinking a bit more clearly.

Even with what looks to be a successful interview you are seeking the worst possible outcome and whipping yourself up in to a frenzy. This all points to anxiety and a little mixture of maybe OCD and depression.

Take deep breathes, realize how far you and your fiancé have come in this journey and look forward to his imminent arrival in America.

But more importantly, look after yourself and seek help for your anxiety.

I wish you lots of luck.

Great advice. Advice given hasn't been heeded in her other 65971 threads but hopefully this will be.

[Leyla&Nodir 11]

I dont know what happened before, in other threads, but reading all the comments, i feel like most people are kind of being mean to OP. Every person is different, some are too emotional, some are holeric, others pessimistic. I am also worried, and will believe that my approved case is not a dream only after POE. OP, good luck, and hang in there!

[Novembro 1,763]

I would recommend discussing your anxiety and how you manage your thought processes with a doctor, who may recommend CBT (cognitive behavioral therapy), or some written exercise which will help you understand your pattern of thinking a bit more clearly.

He might also recommend something a little less invasive- logging off the internet.

[QueenComley 295]

He might also recommend something a little less invasive- logging off the internet.

Possibly that too.

[Glyn and Kathy 288]

Seriously, how do you not have an ulcer?? To the person who says some are being mean, no they are not...they are showing concern for a person who has stressed to a major degree through every step. I too suffer from anxiety. Its not fun...but sometimes you just have to let things go. Maybe talk to someone about learning to let things happen without worrying. Its hard, I know. But somethings are out of our control and worrying doesn't change that. Best of luck! I'm sure ALL WILL BE FINE!!

[Leyla&Nodir 11]

OP, if IO didnt ask for some document, which u think he should have, and he said yr case is approved, then he might just have waived it, to my surprise, they have such power to do that. Dont worry, it will be issued soon!

[Hotter Otter 1,211]

It's not being mean to the OP it's a feeling of unease at the potential scaring of other nervous filers too, I know of at least one person who was concerned by her medical thread "you will get denied for depression" etc.

I feel for the OP, I know it's a horrible process emotionally and mentally but she needs to tone down some of the scaremongering about every aspect of the process.

[Leyla&Nodir 11]

I just would like to see advices to the OP being written in a friendly manner. If ppl dont have anything nice to say, just dunt say it, ignore the topic.

[Darnell 8,478]

So we are okay then? Because he gave them my proof of income but not affidavit of support because they didn't request it. Where does it say I-134 isn't required at London and why not?

I note I have explained all

yet

you are coming back with more questions - but the questions are simply reworded from prior missives.

mmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm............. I suggest you reread my stuff - 3 times - but when you are starting again with this re-reading ----

use pen and paper - take copious notes - and draw 7 Venn Diagrams....

I just would like to see advices to the OP being written in a friendly manner. If ppl dont have anything nice to say, just dunt say it, ignore the topic.

Oh - tis a perfect world--yes?

In another perfect world - folk use the advanced search tool here - and get backstories on folk....

I invite you to do the same (use the advanced search tool)

else - yer concept as written --- really not apply to the OP.

[Darnell 8,478]

I would recommend discussing your anxiety and how you manage your thought processes with a doctor, who may recommend CBT (cognitive behavioral therapy), or some written exercise which will help you understand your pattern of thinking a bit more clearly.

I note it takes work in becoming cognitive.

No - this is not a dig on the OP - but rather -

a pointed shift with a request that one become cognitive.

Not become cognitive? Then one is reactionary - and IMO - based on what the OP has written these past 5 weeks - being reactionary helps to shut her down--massively...

I prefer cognitive approach to anything--REALLY!

[Rebecca Jo 1,962]

My concern is he only gave the VO my letter from employer, paystubs, tax return etc. But not the I-134 Affidavit of Support. So I'm pretty sure we're getting a 221 g in the mail.

Simple answer.

The I134 is not a required document for a non-immigrant visa. It is NOT required for grant of a visa according to the INA or anywhere in consular notes, guidance, etc.

Some consulates use it - some don't. There is total discretion according to consular policy and/or the AO.

London doesn't always do everything the exact same way, every single time. It's about the easiest consulate in the world. If paystubs etcetera show sufficient resources then they are going to be fine. If they had wanted something more they would have asked for it.

Again, and in caps.

LONDON IS JUST ABOUT THE EASIEST CONSULATE IN THE WORLD.

I'm not worried about POE, im worried about Affidavit of Support. How could they both forget such a mandatory document?

It's not mandatory.

Edited May 26, 2014 by Rebecca Jo