How can a mid-20's man be in love with mid-50's woman?

[novedsac 355]

The good old saying "age is just a number" really annoys me.

Age is NOT just a number. Your age reflects your maturity, your outlook on life, your achievements, your maturity, your mind set, your life experiences, your life goals, your hopes and dreams for the future etc....People who say age is just a number are fooling themselves. Im not against relationships where there is a vast age difference, but the fact remains that age is not "Just a number" for the simple reasons listed above.

That said, it should not be pre-determined that everyone who is in a relationship where there is a vast age difference is in it primarily for a green card. Humans fall in love for many reasons, and just because it may seem odd or unusual to some, it does not mean that that relationship is wrong.

Hardly.

I've met many older people who've lacked maturity, had little to nothing to show for achievements and whose life experiences were appallingly shallow.

[B_J 2,752]

Hardly.

I've met many older people who've lacked maturity, had little to nothing to show for achievements and whose life experiences were appallingly shallow.

Don't judge me.

[The Nature Boy 4,224]

I'm sure the google searchers you guys have been talking about will see it that way.

I just dipped in here. Looks like the subject of "Couples screwing" is ok for our other forum. Cool

Hardly.

I've met many older people who've lacked maturity, had little to nothing to show for achievements and whose life experiences were appallingly shallow.

I am 52 and my 19 year old wife loves me for being me, and is way more mature than me.

[N-o-l-a 7,168]

Hardly.

I've met many older people who've lacked maturity, had little to nothing to show for achievements and whose life experiences were appallingly shallow.

Apparently those older people of whom you speak are the ones searching out partners young enough to be their child.

Edited June 3, 2014 by N-o-l-a

[novedsac 355]

Apparently those older people of whom you speak are the ones searching out partners young enough to be their child.

Not necessarily - in fact I was thinking of a couple I know when I wrote my comment - they are about the same age and equally daft, but happy together.

I don't have a problem with people being a different age, even a wide gap, to each their own.

[Messybrownhair 251]

Whatever floats their boat..

[Harpa Timsah 13,258]

Whatever floats their boat..

Right, Viagra

[elmcitymaven 9,712]

Right, Viagra

A whole sea of it.

[sumranbi 12]

IMO a relationship is all about maturity. There are 30 year olds who act like they are 3 and 20 year olds who can pass as 50. Love doesnt come with a manual or terms and conditions. If you are lonely at 50 or 60 or 70 you will go out and look for someone and when someone shows interest you wont ask for their year of birth....

[LionessDeon 2,060]

The actual number of the age really doesn't have anything to do with it. It depends on what page in life your on. If you're both headed in the same direction and looking for the same things then age doesn't matter so much. Physical attraction is personal preference. There are always some people scamming to take advantage of others....it doesn't mean that is the case just because there is an age difference.

[GandD 5,966]

Apparently those older people of whom you speak are the ones searching out partners young enough to be their child.

Yes. If age is just a number, then why do people specify a range on the search page of the dating site they used before they came here?

[christeen 966]

Even if age gap is not an issue when people are in the mid-life stages... Sometimes it becomes an issue as on person ages and their priorities change... 50 and 20 there are. Still things that they can do together, and are in the building stages of life... However, look at them at 70 and 40... Vastly different stages of life... The age gap makes many grow apart cause the spouse cannot relate...

[QueenComley 295]

Even if age gap is not an issue when people are in the mid-life stages... Sometimes it becomes an issue as on person ages and their priorities change... 50 and 20 there are. Still things that they can do together, and are in the building stages of life... However, look at them at 70 and 40... Vastly different stages of life... The age gap makes many grow apart cause the spouse cannot relate...

I agree christeen... this is the point I was trying to make in my previous comment on this thread but you seemed to word it much better than me

[The Nature Boy 4,224]

Yes. If age is just a number, then why do people specify a range on the search page of the dating site they used before they came here?

Great question sir

BYW for those who don't know me I was joking about my wife being 18, she is 40

and I agree. More than about 15 years is going to be a struggle but I guess could work