Can a spouse live in the USA while waiting for K3 Visa to be approved.

[Turtle's Wife 0]

Or what if he doesn't? Then he no longer can use the VWP. They already know he has intent because of the I-130. It's a risk with possible long-term consequences.

The possibility is there. However, when anyone files the I-485 with the I-130 there is always intent from the way I look at it.

No, we're going to reluctantly do this the route we have started.

In the mean time, He is coming back for three months visits... We not bare to have our family split up into two countries. So we have to pay the price for not filing the I-485 with the I-130. Huge screw up on my part...

His second three month visit to be with us starts June 24th 2014... Next month!

I'll be sure to let anyone else I know that is going through this process to not make the same mistakes we did.

Cheers,

Turtle's Wife

[Not a Tailor 1,370]

I would be careful to avoid saying he was definitely coming for three months to the girls, if I were you. There is a possibility that they will feel that kids and a wife in the US is stronger ties to US than any ties he might have to Australia and he could get rejected. So I might not use that as a comfort point to your girls. When they're sad, I would probably say something like 'don't worry, we're working to make it so he won't have to leave again' rather than 'he's coming to visit at the end of June!'

Just so they don't get hurt if there are problems.

[Turtle's Wife 0]

I would be careful to avoid saying he was definitely coming for three months to the girls, if I were you. There is a possibility that they will feel that kids and a wife in the US is stronger ties to US than any ties he might have to Australia and he could get rejected. So I might not use that as a comfort point to your girls. When they're sad, I would probably say something like 'don't worry, we're working to make it so he won't have to leave again' rather than 'he's coming to visit at the end of June!'

Just so they don't get hurt if there are problems.

Nothing is ever definite is it? We all are helpless hopefuls waiting on a glimpse of a reality that may or may not ever arrive.

Thank you for pointing out how this situation should be direct to the girls. I never thought of putting it that way to them. How you word things is key, especially to children. I'll keep that in mind when they're upset. Xx

Thank you,

Turtle's Wife

Edited May 24, 2014 by Turtle's Wife

[Not a Tailor 1,370]

No, nothing is ever certain. I'm supposed to be visiting my wife in the US at the end of June, but I've got to keep telling myself I might get rejected.

I used to be a nanny, so I know a couple things about kids and them wanting parents around. And if he does get to come (he should, I hope) I would make sure they are aware from the moment they see him that he's going to be going back to Australia for awhile. Possibly put it along the lines of 'He's going back to Australia to finish things up so he can come here and stay" or whatever would work for the girls.

[Turtle's Wife 0]

No, nothing is ever certain. I'm supposed to be visiting my wife in the US at the end of June, but I've got to keep telling myself I might get rejected.

I used to be a nanny, so I know a couple things about kids and them wanting parents around. And if he does get to come (he should, I hope) I would make sure they are aware from the moment they see him that he's going to be going back to Australia for awhile. Possibly put it along the lines of 'He's going back to Australia to finish things up so he can come here and stay" or whatever would work for the girls.

Xx Thank you so very much. You must have been a great nanny! We will put it that way.I defiantly will use your suggestions with them. I'll keep you posted on their reactions

Right now I just keep telling myself he's is over there for work. To try and keep myself sane but its a whole other ball game when the children get upset. (It surely hurts you when you see your own child in distress) .

Cheers,

Turtle's Wife

[Not a Tailor 1,370]

I don't have kids and I know how stressed out this whole situation is making me. I can't imagine trying to navigate it with children in the equation, honestly. We've all chosen a tough row to hoe, but we'll get to the end eventually. I spend a lot of time telling my cat stories about what the US is going to be like, honestly. So I'm not entirely sure you could say I'm maintaining my sanity. But I'm trying.

For me, as the foreign spouse, I've got a possibility at a larger, better paid contract coming up at work (not sure yet) and I'm trying to decide if, if it gets offered to me, I should take it, since I don't know if I can commit to a year. I'm really hoping it'll be less time than that. And I know I have six months of leeway to enter after getting the visa, but do I really want to either a) break the contract or b) wait longer to be with my wife?

Borders are so stupid. I know why we have them, but I don't have to like their existence!

[Turtle's Wife 0]

He has no intent what so ever. He will be returning the end of next month for a visit with us. He will be returning to Australia at the end of September.

I think I stress more then the children do at this point. They are happy to talk to him on Voxer (a smart phone App that is a walkie talkie and world wide and in real time) plus Skype and free calling through Facebook.

Cheers,

Turtle's Wife

[Turtle's Wife 0]

I just received our NOA 2 by text today! This is exciting! What's the next step?

Edited June 4, 2014 by Turtle's Wife

[Darnell 8,478]

http://www.visajourney.com/wiki/index.php/NVC_Process