Roll Call of Fallen Commrades

[luckytxn 2,264]

The thread is what we want it to be. Right now we are here for Kip and show him the true path of happiness.

My wife is Filipina. My wife is NOT a submissive. (& Thank God she is not) I am NOT a submissive. (but) WE are submissive to each other.

My wife strives to be an excellent wife & expects me to strive to be an excellent husband. This results = us being Best Friends. Equals. Partners.

We maintain the POV = A Husband or Wife which is truly empowered in their relationship puts the best maxed out love into the relationship.

I suspect a submissive Husband or Wife is incapable of maxing out their love meter when dominated by the other. & I suspect the dominator has no clue what he/she is missing out. (but) I suppose a narcissistic person doesn't really care anyway...so each their own..(shrug).

ETA: Is this thread taking a turn to Marriage advice..? Wow...this thread is a beast living it's own life the way it wants.

[Leatherneck 693]

I also don't know why folks think Asian women are submissive. My wife sure isn't.

Sure is quite today. I think the Mods are massing on the border. Even the Day shift posters are in hiding .

I agree. That is a lie that has lived beyond its expiration date.

[Teddy B 17,252]

they do?

I would say men do much more than woman do, but definitely not all spouses do. Many judge their perspective spouse by the amount of 0's on their bank account, looks has nothing to do with it.

[decocker 7,198]

Yeah, including you.

not in the sense championed here, the catalogue approach.

[luckytxn 2,264]

I was just like Kip. If I can change my views on woman anyone can. So judge not unless you be judged. I personally think Kip is a good man and deseves a good woman.

like he'd have any issue with 'trading her in' for another. i doubt any guy can successfully settle down with any woman that is an object first and a human being second, or third (human probably comes after hard body).

[Leatherneck 693]

Kip. We just want the best for you because we like you. We have found good babes and are happy. Please think about settling down.

A good way to sum it up.

[GandD 5,966]

I would say men do much more than woman do, but definitely not all spouses do. Many judge their perspective spouse by the amount of 0's on their bank account, looks has nothing to do with it.

That's different. And they still judged them physically. They just chose to roll with it. Weighed their options as it was.

not in the sense championed here, the catalogue approach.

That's what I mean. Levels for sure.

[Teddy B 17,252]

That's different. And they still judged them physically. They just chose to roll with it. Weighed their options as it was.

Gotta disagree G. There are gold diggers who are out for nothing but money, looks are secondary at best.

[decocker 7,198]

I would say men do much more than woman do, but definitely not all spouses do. Many judge their perspective spouse by the amount of 0's on their bank account, looks has nothing to do with it.

physical appearence is important, you certainly want to be attracted physically to someone you intend to have a sexual relationship with. but in my case, and probably in lots of cases here on visa journey, i was already completely in love with my so before i'd ever seen a good picture of him. not everyone takes a bijillion selfies or markets themselves online. and i would be competely freaked out if i found out some dude i'd been chatting with online posted my pictures in a forum like this for other dudes to eyeball. it's just gross, but i guess that's why i'm not married to a dude who thinks that sort of play is optimal.

[The Nature Boy 4,224]

Everyone judges would be spouses initially by appearance. Some just get a little obsessed with it.

I don't know. I was attracted to my wife by her personality, simplicity, morals. I quickly bypassed all the women in sexy poses etc etc. I was looking for a strong, independent, woman with Morals. She is very attractive in my eyes, but in a modest simple way.

Despite all my talk in here, she runs our house, without question. She does a lot for me and I do a lot for her, not because I am a man or she is a woman. It's because we respect each other as people. I just got done cooking her breakfast while she slept.

INMHO the people, who go on and on about men being scared of a strong smart women are just as bad as the people who go on and on about a woman being in the home, doing chores etc.

The truth is make your spouse the most important thing in your life and treat them as a friend first. Then all that Women s role, mens role BS will not matter .People will assume whatever role they are comfortable with.

[decocker 7,198]

I was just like Kip. If I can change my views on woman anyone can. So judge not unless you be judged. I personally think Kip is a good man and deseves a good woman.

i wasn't judging kip. i don't know him. but no one here is suggesting kip change his views on women. i don't know what you mean by that.

[GandD 5,966]

Gotta disagree G. There are gold diggers who are out for nothing but money, looks are secondary at best.

Oh I know. I'm saying on a level, you judge "sexual compatibility" of any proposed "mate" almost immediately. The gold diggers you refer to do it as well but are able to overcome the mental thumbs down because intimacy is waaay down the list. Its a variable that enters everyone's mind when they look at the other, or same or some, sex. Guys may be worse considering the amount of times a day i consider whether or not "I'd hit it" when seeing chicks going about my daily routine. Although based on conversations with other males, I'd say I'm not alone in this.

Edited May 28, 2014 by GandD

[Teddy B 17,252]

I don't know. I was attracted to my wife by her personality, simplicity, morals. I quickly bypassed all the women in sexy poses etc etc. I was looking for a strong, independent, woman with Morals. She is very attractive in my eyes, but in a modest simple way.

Despite all my talk in here, she runs our house, without question. She does a lot for me and I do a lot for her, not because I am a man or she is a woman. It's because we respect each other as people. I just got done cooking her breakfast while she slept.

INMHO the people, who go on and on about men being scared of a strong smart women are just as bad as the people who go on and on about a woman being in the home, doing chores etc.

The truth is make your spouse the most important thing in your life and treat them as a friend first. Then all that Women s role, mens role BS will not matter .People will assume whatever role they are comfortable with.

The part in bold is spot on! I told my wife from the first time we started corresponding that this time around I was looking to marry my best friend. It's paid off tenfold.

[The Nature Boy 4,224]

The part in bold is spot on! I told my wife from the first time we started corresponding that this time around I was looking to marry my best friend. It's paid off tenfold.

Exactly. My wife was traditional. I told her up front I was looking for a partner and a friend for life. I was very point blank I was not one of those old horny men from America looking for sex. You can get that anywhere. Why fly overseas to get it .

[luckytxn 2,264]

Mine was an arranged marriage. I knew almost nothing about mine before I agreed. Basic stats and a picture. I just said I don't want a fat slob and that I was ready to settle down permanently.