ROC Abuse route

[TooBlessed 3]

It's sad that one has to stay in physically abusive relationship up to the point of suffering mental effects from the deadly acts before they will be believed. The squeezing life out via my throat & 8-10 hits from a big fist of 6ft 210lb male is enough for my 130lb self. I can't bear! I deserve more than that. Thank you all for your suggestions. Very informative. Will keep you guys updated.

[Sandra G. 5,090]

My dear I believe you have a problem understanding English.There is a difference between physical abuse (battered) and mental abuse (extreme cruelty).In your first post there is no one SINGLE MENTION OF PHYSICAL ABUSE. If you WERE NOT BATTERED, then you have to prove that you suffered extreme cruelty(mental abuse).Mental abuse is a pattern of CONSTANT threats,degradation,humiliation,degradation,coercion,control etc. The repeated emotional abuse should severely affect the victim's sense of self and of reality.

If one day your husband was yelling ,screaming, calling you names it doesn't mean USCIS will consider this extreme cruelty,it must be a repetitive pattern that you endured for months and months,and you have to prove that, and you must be diagnosed by a psychologist with major depression and or post traumatic disorder.The standard classification of mental disorders used by mental health professionals you can find in the The Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM).You didn't agree with the lawyer said and what with you read here,but keep in mind you are entitled to your opinion, but not your own facts.Physical abuse you don't have to show a pattern,if you were abused once is enough to claim that you were battered,but extreme cruelty YOU MUST show a pattern. USCIS didn't create the standards,nor did I. It's specified in The Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM) .

[TooBlessed 3]

Thanks to the favor of God, and to you all for your info. I received my PR within 6months of applying.

[alebrije 15]

  On 5/16/2014 at 1:19 PM, TooBlessed said:

before he left he assaulted me. Got arrested, jailed for some days. I pressed charges and later dropped

  On 8/11/2014 at 3:47 PM, sandranj said:

My dear I believe you have a problem understanding English.There is a difference between physical abuse (battered) and mental abuse (extreme cruelty).In your first post there is no one SINGLE MENTION OF PHYSICAL ABUSE

I believe she stated that she was assaulted once, before she left the home, including the jail time for the husband.

[Darnell 8,479]

  On 5/17/2014 at 12:02 AM, sandranj said:

If you choose to file the waiver based in extreme cruelty you don't need a divorce decree, if you decide to file based just in bonafide marriage then you need a divorce decree.

^^^ THIS ^^^

This is the major decision tree the OP needs to understand, what to do on each possible path.

  On 3/12/2015 at 5:26 PM, TooBlessed said:

Thanks to the favor of God, and to you all for your info. I received my PR within 6months of applying.

Congratulations ! I can only imagine the relief you feel !

can tell us 'which path' you took for the RoC ?