Fiance's new friend

[eieio 1,594]

[tsepal 1]

I dont think ur relationship will end good. I m sorry, but I would my sister the same if she was u.

[eieio 1,594]

I dont think ur relationship will end good.

I think it already has ended well.

[AKukreti 24]

After talking to everyone on VJ, multiple friends and family I myself decided not to make a quick decision. I still have time to figure things out. I know he isn't scamming me. I know he loves me. And he has agreed not to see her. So lets see what happens. I will keep you all posted. This is honestly the first time this has ever been a problem.

[Boiler 45,497]

No dunking his donuts?

How will you know?

[Avery Cates 1,141]

After talking to everyone on VJ, multiple friends and family I myself decided not to make a quick decision. I still have time to figure things out. I know he isn't scamming me. I know he loves me. And he has agreed not to see her. So lets see what happens. I will keep you all posted. This is honestly the first time this has ever been a problem.

No. Don't backslide now.

That's a rookie mistake. Gosh, you just hate to see it.

[LmmL 46]

After talking to everyone on VJ, multiple friends and family I myself decided not to make a quick decision. I still have time to figure things out. I know he isn't scamming me. I know he loves me. And he has agreed not to see her. So lets see what happens. I will keep you all posted. This is honestly the first time this has ever been a problem.

On the previous posts you wrote that you have nobody but him, and now you just wrote "multiple friends and family". You actually have people around you to support you and that's good.

anyways, most India people are still holding the "marry the same nationality" tradition. I have three stories:

Story 1- my best friend is an India man, even though he's a mature man, on his 30th his parents set a marriage plan for him, he had a foreign gf and his parents knew about it but he couldn't do anything but to end his relationship and married the girl his parents chose for him.

Story 2: my co-worker was a filipino and her bf was an India guy who

lives in Australia. Even though they live in Australia they still arranged his marriage with an India girl. Again, his parents knew his relationship with my co-worker. But he couldn't do anything but end the relationship with my co-worker who became so sad because of it.

Story 3: even in The Big Bang Theory, Raj's parents want his sister to marry an India man.

That's the tradition/culture that happen in most India families.

[Boiler 45,497]

Raj's parents might just be happy for him to marry a member of the opposite gender.

[christeen 966]

I revert to other posters saying "this will not end well"... You need to listen to what your intuition is telling you... You know that little voice deep in your gut that lets you know when something is not right... I think you are trying to ignore it...

[Morningmist 76]

Best part his mom doesn't thing there is anything for me to be upset about it.

Ah geez, they are ALL using you for a Green Card. His parents want him to marry that girl ( probably has tons of money). They are going to let him first marry you, get GC and then marry that girl. GC from you, familial wealth from her. Drop him. Let his parents fulfill their retirement through someone else.

[Caryh 5,206]

Ah geez, they are ALL using you for a Green Card. His parents want him to marry that girl ( probably has tons of money). They are going to let him first marry you, get GC and then marry that girl. GC from you, familial wealth from her. Drop him. Let his parents fulfill their retirement through someone else.

Out of love, she's gonna get burned big time. The smell is just way too heavy in the air.

[Morningmist 76]

They have a useless man child for a son who probably wont be working anytime soon, so they need to find a rich daughter in law who will fulfill their retirement plans through her dowry. A future GC is attractive selling point to the girls family otherwise what woman with a medical degree would marry a drop out in a place like India. You're a stepping stone at best and a doormat at worst.

[Morningmist 76]

On the previous posts you wrote that you have nobody but him, and now you just wrote "multiple friends and family". You actually have people around you to support you and that's good.

anyways, most India people are still holding the "marry the same nationality" tradition. I have three stories:

Story 1- my best friend is an India man, even though he's a mature man, on his 30th his parents set a marriage plan for him, he had a foreign gf and his parents knew about it but he couldn't do anything but to end his relationship and married the girl his parents chose for him.

Story 2: my co-worker was a filipino and her bf was an India guy who

lives in Australia. Even though they live in Australia they still arranged his marriage with an India girl. Again, his parents knew his relationship with my co-worker. But he couldn't do anything but end the relationship with my co-worker who became so sad because of it.

Story 3: even in The Big Bang Theory, Raj's parents want his sister to marry an India man.

That's the tradition/culture that happen in most India families.

Usually I've seen Indian men listen to their parents if Parents are rich. Like they have a house and land the kid could sell to get money later on. Parents threaten to ex communicate kid, kid folds.

[PallasAthena 101]

After talking to everyone on VJ, multiple friends and family I myself decided not to make a quick decision. I still have time to figure things out. I know he isn't scamming me. I know he loves me. And he has agreed not to see her. So lets see what happens. I will keep you all posted. This is honestly the first time this has ever been a problem.

When I was dating my ex husband, everyone warned me. I didn't listen. Eventually I married him. People warned me, the warning signs were there, and I didn't listen. I married him and he immediately stopped working, abused me, you-name-it-he-did-it. He took me to the cleaners when I divorced him. He got almost everything. He even stole my identity after the divorce because he wanted to use my medical insurance to pay his hospital bills. It was a sordid mess to say the least and never in my wildest nightmares did I ever imagine a man I loved would do this to me.

I made the stupid mistake at age 24 of 1) getting married too young and 2) overlooking the warning signs and 3) thinking that all the problems will be fixed and go away once we get married. BOY WAS I WRONG.

However, had I not gone through what I did, I wouldn't know what I know today. If I had listened to everyone, I'd probably be wondering if he was the one who got away.

I had to experience what I did to learn some harsh lessons. I went to hell and came back.

You'll probably marry this guy and I can tell it won't end well... but these are lessons for you to learn. They will make you a stronger woman and you will learn a lot from this whole experience.

The biggest lesson I learned was to put myself first. I applied all these things to my current marriage and despite the distance, I'm happy and I found someone who deserves me. Not sure if I would have found him had I not gone through what I did.

[christeen 966]

In the meantime, we add an unemployed Man-Child to the USA and leave a broken-hearted woman and her poor child, however, I suppose the upside is he will eventually bring his doctor lady friend that his parents arranged for him, so I guess the USA will gain a doctor?