This Whole Process Takes Too Long

[joechima 6]

My wife filed for me january and we have not heard nothing yet,this Seperation is damaging,we are going through a lot apart.I think this process takes too long

[NigeriaorBust 4,087]

You have just barely started , learn to be patient

[cpkuta88 4]

Yeah, its just started with you guys... my husband just got set up for his interview and its going on 14mos for our process . Its definitely going to be some ups and downs with this situation but at the end I'm sure you will see how strong the love for you both will actually be. Good luck to you!!!

[Avery Cates 1,141]

My wife filed for me january and we have not heard nothing yet,this Seperation is damaging,we are going through a lot apart.I think this process takes too long

If you think it's been too long and it's damaging your relationship already, I have bad news for you.

[glh618 2]

I think everyone here will agree with you that the process takes too long. Unfortunately for all of us the volume of petitions and bureaucracy make it so. Being apart is difficult as everyone here will agree. You and your wife will need to find ways to maintain your relationship (phone calls, Skype video calls, text, visits) until the process moves forward. Be realistic with your expectations. Look at timelines of others who are from the same country and filed the same visa type as you. We filed our I130 in March 2013 (China) and my wife's visa was approved on April 23, 2014. VJ is a great site to commune (and agonize) with others who share your frustrations. Be patient and good luck on your journey!

[Not a Tailor 1,370]

It's absolutely crappy, but at least there's an end in sight, you know? You don't know exactly when, but the day is rapidly approaching when you will have the love of your life and your best friend by your side every day. I've been LDR with my partner, now my wife for almost three years and until last July, there was literally no way for us to be together, in person, legally. Her career needs her to be in the US. There was no legal recourse for me to be able to move to be with her. Our best guesses on when we might possibly be able to be together were at least a decade out and they depended on her being able to get transferred, once she's done her PhD and at least one post-doc position, to a country where I would also be eligible for a visa (there's very little work in her field in Canada). And even if we succeeded at that, there was no guarantee either of us would be able to stay there long.

And now it's only a year. A year, even a year and a half, isn't that long. You can do it!

Edited April 28, 2014 by Not a Tailor

[pushbrk 12,898]

Everybody here agrees with you. Now, be patient. Expect your interview 10 to 12 months after the petition was filed. Nothing you can do to change that. Complaining will certainly not change it.

[JordanaYJuan 0]

Be patient. You have a long way to go. I filed for my Husband August 5,2013. And we are just now waiting for an interview date you won't hear anything until at least July. But you should be here by Christmas hopefully.

[Mina90 134]

My wife filed for me january and we have not heard nothing yet,this Seperation is damaging,we are going through a lot apart.I think this process takes too long

While you wait, read up all the details on what to do at NVC (check out the NVC filers thread for great info) and what to prepare for your embassy. This is what I did when I was waiting. Don't be that person who gets his/her petition NOA2 and then asks "now what?". Stay patient, stay strong, and stay informed.

[joechima 6]

Thanks@all it's just that it's very demanding on us,but patience is a virtue.I am grateful,thanks

[MahVika 16]

Well, what can I say, YOU JUST STARTED! My husband sent petition for me and a child 1 march 2013 and guess what....we are still waiting! Its been 14 months (almost). But the good thing is that our case is completed and we are hoping for June interview date.

Its really long time, just pray and wait wait wait!

Good luck in your visa journey

[Hotter Otter 1,211]

Try not to get too frustrated- I filed in June last year and my interview is in three weeks, this is a lengthy process. Use the time apart to get prepared for leaving together and think of it as a small part of the rest of your lives together

[bkghosh 121]

My wife filed for me january and we have not heard nothing yet,this Seperation is damaging,we are going through a lot apart.I think this process takes too long

Wasn't there a Carpenters song, "We've only just begun..." :)

Don't worry time will fly by...meanwhile there is always WhatsApp and Skype, and Telephone.

[tbellkzoo 23]

My wife filed for me january and we have not heard nothing yet,this Seperation is damaging,we are going through a lot apart.I think this processed takes too long

Trust us....we know. It'll be ok. Stay strong and positive!!! You're not alone my friend....we all can get thru this!!!

Edited April 28, 2014 by tbellkzoo

[Girl from Celebes 588]

My wife filed for me january and we have not heard nothing yet,this Seperation is damaging,we are going through a lot apart.I think this process takes too long

My fiance filed I-129F for me after 5 years in long distance relationship. Don't consumed your energy with such negative feelings. Learn next steps, make busy yourself with something more useful, read tons of posts here especially you're from the country that well known on VJ as "high fraud for US visas".