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Filed: IR-1/CR-1 Visa Country: Morocco
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The thing you need to think of first and foremost is your safety. From what you have said earlier, you have no family or friends here for support. Staying here in the U.S. without any friends or family will make your life very lonely and difficult. It's hard enough to live here as a new immigrant, but now you are an immigrant without any resources.

Talk to your family in Morocco and let them know what has happened to you. I don't know if your spouse is American born or from Morocco, but abusive people can get pretty scary when their world comes crumbling down. Your husband obviously isn't going to take sitting in jail for 4 days very well and will never see his fault in all of this. Abusive men think in the mode of "she made me do it."

Abuse comes in every society, you made a comment that you never saw this before in Morocco but be certain it exists all over the world. No matter the race or religion. Don't excuse him or think about forgiving him to try and make amends. Life in the U.S.A is not worth living if it's in an abusive relationship.

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if OP has no USCIS-related issue, then again the only legal issues are:

1. Restraining order

2. Divorce

Of course, for a day or so (until OP accepts that starting today her marriage is over, and there will be no more support from her husband) - OP requires re-assurance from her community that she will be able to handle her daily affairs. Police and DA office can help with referrals, and OP should try to be at Domestic Violence advocate's doorstep Monday morning. Remember to sort out all documents...

Being engaged in work activity is more important than all support talk. If OP can build her independent life and self esteem, she'll eventually meet her soul mate. And that's not luck or pray - it's a lot of work. Go for it girl!

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So hopefully, by now, you've changed your mind about what you said in below quote

you have to make 2 choices:

1. Do you want him convicted of the crime

2. Do you want to self-petition for permanent residency status in the U.S.

Assuming both are YES, you should save these copies:

1. When you sign for the Prosecutor that you're willing to testify, ask for a copy of what you signed. Make sure you have police report as well

2. Before he visits (with police escort) to collect whatever of his belongings that he can throw into his car, make sure you've made copies of his proof of citizenship, all of your documents, all of your joint paperwork (bank statements, letters addressed to both of you, insurance, tax returns, leases)

Remember: if he removes all these documents, including the original of Marriage Certificate, then you may not be able to self-petition to USCIS

i don't know what i will do about my conditional residence ,

what do you means by REMOVES? hide ?

She already has her green card. No need for a VAWA filing or a U-visa filing.

i have a 2 year green card , what do you mean by vawa? and u visa filing ?

I didn't see OP mention Green Card. That makes the situation easier. Then her priority is permanent Protective Order and divorce (hopefully, on her terms)

i need some clarification please about what you said * priority* , i don't understand

Edited by sara82
Filed: Timeline
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Sara, it seems in MOST situations people who hit other people (especially a husband hitting a wife) will not stop doing this just because he says sorry and says he will change. I am so sorry you are in this situation. Is there any way you can just go back to your family? It may seem like a touch decision but in all honesty, if you stay here you will just continue to be abused and if you stay you will have to figure out what you are going to do like living in a shelter. You should tell any family you can and see if they can help you go home. That is my advice. He will not stop treating you this way.

i'm thinking about different options

I'm again lost: why shelter? If OP has green card, is housing unattainable?

In the near month, before the accused batterer had his day in court, he's prevented by full restraining order to show up at their house (other than one visit to collect his belongings with police escort only)

i preferred to stay at the home until i know exactly what do i have to do, they meant by shelter , to stay there may be 30 days until i know where to go , this is what i understood , i'm not sure

Edited by sara82
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no, that was my mistake, you don't need anything for USCIS. Just make sure all YOUR original documents are safe...

But for your divorce lawyer: he'll appreciate all mutual paperwork that you can put into his hands. Everything to do with your incomes, expences, i.e. anything to help your lawyer to demand from your ex-'s lawyer to maintain the living conditions that your husband provided before

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My ex boyfriend worse than you he physically hit me but in the name of love i give lots of chances and to tell you honestly its hard to move on when you love someone... you have lots of what if i forgive him??? what if i give him a chance? lots of what if???? but that's his personality and you cant change it... i give more than 5x chances before i realized its too much... my advice NEVER give chances cos they only change a couple of days or weeks or month and after that they start doing that again and the worse they getting more violence.. the only way i can fully move on is the help with my family and friends... and pray.. and now i married to a very wonderful man who never hit or hurt me in any ways... and love me as much as he can... its not too late sara82... you have family and friends...right man will come and in a right time....

USCIS CR1

04-02-2014: I-130 NOA1

04-23-2014: I-130 NOA2

04-25-2014: Sent to NVC

NVC

05-09-2014: NVC Received..

06-03-2014: Case Number Assigned..

06-10-2014: DS-261 Available & Completed.. 06-12-2014: DS-261 Scanned..

06-11-2014: AOS Invoiced & Paid..

06-14-2014: AOS Mailed.. 06-16-2014: AOS Received.. 06-23-2014: AOS Scanned..

08-01-2014: AOS Accepted...

08-06-2014: IV Invoice & Paid.. ( 39 Business day)..

08-07-2014: IV Mailed.. 08-08-2014: IV Received..

08-12-2014: IV Scanned..

09-23-2014: One Day Medical Exam (PASSED).

09-30-2014: CASE COMPLETE...

11-10-2014: Interview Date (APPROVED).

11-10-2014: CEAC " ISSUED".

11-17-2014: Visa in hand.

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ROC
09-16-16: Received I-751 packaged.

09-16-16: NOA1 receipt date.

10-13-16: Biometrics Appointment Schedule.

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N-400

12-01-17: N-400 applied Online

12-02-17: NOA1 receipt date, Cashed Credit Card.

12-29-17: Biometrics Appointment Schedule.

05-07-18: Interview Schedule (Approved).

05-17-18: 10 yrs Green Card Received mail.

05-28-18: Oath Ceremony Notice Was Mailed.

06-22-18: Oath Ceremony.

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i have a question , i found out today how much bail they gave him to pay, he can stay in jail until the first of may , unless he pay the bail, on first may he need to be in court ,

he has no money to pay the bail they gave him

my question ;is the bail they gave him is going to change or no, in the court day ?

i meant the bail amount impossible to change or delete ? he must pay it whatever the reason is ? what do you think will happens on the first may (court) when the judge will know he didn't paid the amount? he will stay in jail or he can just don't pay in some reasons

Edited by sara82
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My ex boyfriend worse than you he physically hit me but in the name of love i give lots of chances and to tell you honestly its hard to move on when you love someone... you have lots of what if i forgive him??? what if i give him a chance? lots of what if???? but that's his personality and you cant change it... i give more than 5x chances before i realized its too much... my advice NEVER give chances cos they only change a couple of days or weeks or month and after that they start doing that again and the worse they getting more violence.. the only way i can fully move on is the help with my family and friends... and pray.. and now i married to a very wonderful man who never hit or hurt me in any ways... and love me as much as he can... its not too late sara82... you have family and friends...right man will come and in a right time....

Thank you to share your story with me

i'm happy finally you moved on

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Sara

I'm very sorry you're going through all this. If you decide to stay in the U.S. You will need to remove conditions form I-751 next year by yourself without your husband if you decide for a divorce. You need to show USCIS (immigration) that u entered the marriage in good faith but that you suffered abuse. Make sure to get a copy of the police report.

Filed: Citizen (apr) Country: Italy
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Sara

I'm very sorry you're going through all this. If you decide to stay in the U.S. You will need to remove conditions form I-751 next year by yourself without your husband if you decide for a divorce. You need to show USCIS (immigration) that u entered the marriage in good faith but that you suffered abuse. Make sure to get a copy of the police report.

I believe she is an IR1 and has her 10 year GC ... So not necessary

10/14/2000 - Met Aboard a Cruise ship

06/14/2003 - Married Savona Italy

I-130

03/21/2009 - I-130 Mailed to Chicago lockbox

11-30-09: GOT GREEN CARD in mail!!!!!!

Citizenship Process;

1/11/2013: Mailed N400 to Dallas Texas

3/11/2013: interview.. Approved

4/4/2013. : Oath! Now a U.S. citizen!

Filed: Citizen (apr) Country: Italy
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Im CR1 conditional residence

2years

Ok.. So later down the road that will be something you will have to deal with... But don't worry anything of that right now... Get safe, get some counseling and emotional support, the rest will come...

10/14/2000 - Met Aboard a Cruise ship

06/14/2003 - Married Savona Italy

I-130

03/21/2009 - I-130 Mailed to Chicago lockbox

11-30-09: GOT GREEN CARD in mail!!!!!!

Citizenship Process;

1/11/2013: Mailed N400 to Dallas Texas

3/11/2013: interview.. Approved

4/4/2013. : Oath! Now a U.S. citizen!

Posted

sorry this is happening to you SARA , i think the bail amount they gave him can be changed in the court , i know friend , they charged her husband who abused her $50.000 till know i don't know whats happened to him in the court , i need to call her , it seems like the bail amount they gave him is too much like his wife she said because the officer in the day of the investigation told her the amount will be around $2000 if she is not mistaken, i'm not sure , may be he has abusive history, for the amount to be $50.000 or may be this is normal/ symbolic number, until court day

 
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