PLEASE HELP , I NEED HELP

[Cathi 5,748]

well here we have a disagreement: if she is steadfast that this marriage is over, then she'll need a family (divorce)attorney soon enough. Then why not apply tomorrow? The application intake includes an opportunity to briefly see a lawyer; not the lawyer who will eventually be assigned to take her case pro-bono, but still an experienced lawyer. If this lawyer sees fit that she needs to do something in preparation for May 5th court, this lawyer will advise her accordingly

she understands nothing, nothing nothing nothing, The first thing she needs to do is get safe, NOW. She shouldn't be working on a divorce lawyer first. she needs to work on having a safe place to live THEN worry about the divorce. You are confusing this poor girl even more. Please let her deal with her immediate needs before anything else. Please stop throwing all these things at her, she has enough to worry about...she really does.

[SingleDad2usc 71]

mimolicious, of course she is getting out of the house. but why do you think she is incapable of applying for pro-bono attorney, if she were told the address to apply. Why advise NOT to see a free attorney?

Sara posted yesterday that her family overseas loves her husband, and that she is afraid of their displeasure with her actions against him. An attorney in Sara's area could alleviate this pressure on her

[belinda63 3,038]

An attorney is for filing or responding to a legal action. At this time it does not apply to her. She has enough on her plate without you adding more. Please stop trying to advise her to do more than find a safe place and get some advice. She understands nothing, her comprehension of English is little, she has no transportation, she needs emotional support, a safe place, and time to think.

[SingleDad2usc 71]

This is what Sara was posting today, 20min apart:

"i couldn't request restraining order against him and stay home because some of his family i know and respect i don't want them to understand how much i can charge him , ans my sister she cried yesterday from my home country she didn't wanted anything like that to happens, i just want to leave in peace and leave everything, until they decide in the court , they can don't give him any prison , but ill be happy i just co operate with him"

The best thing you could do is to get the restraining order than you can stay in the house without him there until you figure out what to do.

Jon

beleie me this is the best solution, but my family they will be veryyyy sad if they know i did something like that , they love him, they still don't know whats happened, except my sister she cray all time, blaming me because i called the police, we are musulmane conservative, no body like whats is happening,

So under pressure from home, Sara may not testify. If she had attorney's back, then she would be able to follow through with what's necessary to achieve protective order, and force the abuser into court-ordered therapy

[Cathi 5,748]

This is what Sara was posting today, 20min apart:

"i couldn't request restraining order against him and stay home because some of his family i know and respect i don't want them to understand how much i can charge him , ans my sister she cried yesterday from my home country she didn't wanted anything like that to happens, i just want to leave in peace and leave everything, until they decide in the court , they can don't give him any prison , but ill be happy i just co operate with him"

The best thing you could do is to get the restraining order than you can stay in the house without him there until you figure out what to do.

Jon

beleie me this is the best solution, but my family they will be veryyyy sad if they know i did something like that , they love him, they still don't know whats happened, except my sister she cray all time, blaming me because i called the police, we are musulmane conservative, no body like whats is happening,

So under pressure from home, Sara may not testify. If she had attorney's back, then she would be able to follow through with what's necessary to achieve protective order, and force the abuser into court-ordered therapy

give it a rest, ok? At this point that you are attempting to prove means nothing . Sara needs so many more things than a divorce attorney, or any attorney at all at this very moment. We have her best and most important interests in mind and you need to understand that. This girl know NOTHING about this country, our language, our culture, let alone the legal system...NOTHING, ZILCH, ZIP, ZERO, NADA. stop confusing her and move on. We have it under control and your continued efforts insisting she needs an attorney are leading no where and are contributing to confusing her even more. Drop it.

[SingleDad2usc 71]

I'm out. Thanks again, everyone knows you're doing max for her

[OregonLive 1]

It would really be helpful to this poor lady if everyone sticks to and answers the questions she's asking. Seems like everybody is rushing to give their unsolicited advice on what she needs to do and in the process confusing her. Most of the advice, while well meaning, fails to take into context her current situation. She is new to this country, unable to drive, and almost penniless. That alone is a challenge in itself. Her interest lies more in how she can figure out her current predicament, get back on her feet, and find a way forward rather than on trying to get even with her husband.

[fatimazahrae 5]

i'm with you mimolicious , this woman is alone, and its normal for her to take time to understand the process, she has nobody , no friend, no good English , no car, she still didnt contacted us yet , because she just walk , or may be she just take a bus, i understand her perfectly, she thought everything will be clear and easy because he is in jail and she is at the house until Wednesday like they told her, to find out herself with him again at the house, now she started from all over asking what to do, the restraining order , or shelter something to keep her away from him , how can she think now about divorce how she will do that too, and if there is any free domestic advocate online who would help for free singledadtous help her with that, i imagine she call and call all day to have legal assistance ,they may answer her calls , or voice mails they may not they may help they may not ,, she is doing her best, hopefully she can just have place where she can live until court day, i pray for her , hope she can come back soon

[Rafael+Felicia 9]

Just asking...? Which country is Sara from? Jol as given you the number to call... Make the call and ask question later. I understand that you are scared and worried about what next! But right now... You should worry about yourself and yourself alone.

It's a pity how things changes after the romance of the Internet.

I know that love is blind... But right now you can see

[Golden Gate 530]

Just asking...? Which country is Sara from? Jol as given you the number to call... Make the call and ask question later. I understand that you are scared and worried about what next! But right now... You should worry about yourself and yourself alone.

It's a pity how things changes after the romance of the Internet.

I know that love is blind... But right now you can see

She is from Morocco. Not sure if this is an internet romance or if her husband is from her country too. Very hard situation when you don't speak English well and are dependent on your husband for everything.

[magysd 9]

It's not a romance of internet that led her to marry , her husband was living in Morocco , he's not a Moroccan but American Nigerian . he was lovely with her but later he changed like a crazy with her . Sara is surprised from what happened , she can't imagine that she will face such a problem .

[Krikit 1,164]

Post derailing thread has been removed.

[Cathi 5,748]

It's not a romance of internet that led her to marry , her husband was living in Morocco , he's not a Moroccan but American Nigerian . he was lovely with her but later he changed like a crazy with her . Sara is surprised from what happened , she can't imagine that she will face such a problem .

actually it is an online story. They met on the internet, her US citizen husband wasn't living in Morocco.

[QueenComley 295]

actually it is an online story. They met on the internet, her US citizen husband wasn't living in Morocco.

How is OP doing Mimolicious? I just want to say that I think the way you and your husband are supporting OP through this awful ordeal is wonderful. What you are doing is a breath of fresh air. We need more people in this world like you.

[Cathi 5,748]

How is OP doing Mimolicious? I just want to say that I think the way you and your husband are supporting OP through this awful ordeal is wonderful. What you are doing is a breath of fresh air. We need more people in this world like you.

I haven't talked to her today, but I'll update everyone when I hear from her. She's doing the best she can given the circumstances, she's a strong woman.

I"m just glad we were and are hopefully helping a fellow human being who is in need, I think most people would help another person in need. It is scary to be in a country where you don;t have family and friends and don;t know the language or culture. I try to put myself in her shoes and think what I would do if I were in Jordan(where my husband is from), I don;t know the language or culture there and I wouldn't know how to get help. And we aren't doing much, just relaying info people have posted in this thread and helping her understand it all. Luckily I have a husband who knows her language and culture and he has gone over and above with giving her good, sound advice...and making sure she is safe. He gave her the same advice he would give his own sisters, which is to get out, stay away from her husband, contact her family and contact the people in her area who can give her the help she needs in San Diego. We live in New Hampshire, 3500 miles away from San Diego, I just wish we were closer and we could have done a lot more.