Seeking violence association or center

[sara82 4]

Hi everybody, i wished if i have a good news, but i just have bad news.

since i moved to US to live with what is called my husband , he don't stop insulting me, he treat me bad even in a public places like markets/stores/restaurant, loud voice, bad words,

today morning when he woke up he wanted to cause a problems with me , he beated me in my arm, he trough my clothes in the bathroom,

if i knew this will happens to me i never trust him, i never let him lie to me,

what to do ? PLEASE help me, is there any centers i can go, to talk with somebody with, to cry in,

i live in south California

may Allah help you , help me , i tried to call the police to help me, but i don't want to do something like that, im alone and no body will be with me to support me, to follow any police process or something like that, plus one in my family is sick and i don't want to bother my family , kill them , i just tell them im FINE since i came here

Help me, please, i just have this place to ask and to except answers, , i have no body

Thanks

Edited April 26, 2014 by sara82

[Girl from Celebes 588]

Hi everybody, i wished if i have a good news, but i just have bad news.

since i moved to US to live with what is called my husband , he don't stop insulting me, he treat me bad even in a public places like markets/stores/restaurant, loud voice, bad words,

today morning when he woke up he wanted to cause a problems with me , he beated me in my arm, he trough my clothes in the bathroom,

if i knew this will happens to me i never trust him, i never let him lie to me,

what to do ? PLEASE help me, is there any centers i can go, to talk with somebody with, to cry in,

i live in south California

may Allah help you , help me , i tried to call the police to help me, but i don't want to do something like that, im alone and no body will be with me to support me, to follow any police process or something like that, plus one in my family is sick and i don't want to bother my family , kill them , i just tell them im FINE since i came here

Help me, please, i just have this place to ask and to except answers, , i have no body

Thanks

When you had your interview, did the consular officer give you a pamphlet about VAWA? There are lot information there and even number that you can contact if your spouse is treating you bad.

[sara82 4]

, he came to me again, , he wanted to call the police, against me, but i dealed the number 911 and houng out, they came , they take him to the jail, im now at the house, i have no idea what to do , i told them i forgive him , but they told me it doesnt mutter ,

what do i have to do now ? go talk to them in their office to forgive him , or what ? please help

Edited April 27, 2014 by sara82

[belinda63 3,038]

Please limit this to one post as I already answered your new post. He will be given a court date after he is released. He will probably be served upon his release with a court order to not return home or to be around you. You need to look on the internet or the phone book or call the non-emergency number for the police and find information for domestic violence. The police were supposed to give this information when they arrested him. If you call the police station they can provide you with a phone number. Speak to a person there and they will be able to give you more advice and specific information regarding your situation. Each area deals with these things differently.

You cannot just talk to the police officer and have him released. To arrest him they had to charge him with a crime which means he has to go to court.

[JE57 239]

You are in the USA which means that protection of women (and children) is taken very seriously. I would suggest that you do some internet searches for Battered Women's shelters and go to one. Not because you don't have a place to live but that they can start to give you some direction on where you can seek support groups and other services such as counseling. In the USA you can not forgive your husband for physically assaulting you and make the crime go away. Many of the organizations that assist women are Christian. I presume you are Muslim, don't let the fact that the organization is Christian based discourage you from going and asking questions. They may be able to point you to appropriate Islamic organizations as well.. If you find a Christian organization is trying to push Christian faith on you can politely walk away. Most all liberal and moderate and even many conservative Christians will see it as part of their Christian duty to help you irregardless of your beliefs. Good luck to you and may Allah bless you

[TBoneTX 45,291]

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