not want to sign divorce papers,,i love her

[broken heart 0]

hi every one,,,i will not go on with details on how my life is since I got to the state as good ,loving husband ,to cut this short ,we lived in my country for almost a year, I moved to states 9 months ago ,im living with crazy,moody,liar,game play person ,,who hates others and jealous of everyone,i tried my best to make good life with her ,, she wants me to love her under her rules only ,she is most talkative person ever,,guess what ? she is around 50 and living with her mother who controls her like a puppy- she refused to move ever to a place for us,, ,and they did same to me,, I called the police manytimes,,as I fear for my life after threatening me,,and lately found out she filled divorce,,i still think our life together is still possible if we move out,,im still at home with them and I have no place else as I not want to end this marriage,i really love her ,i not want to sign divorce papers ,, will that help?

if she got divorce will I be able to adjust my status alone? will our marriage considered as ended from date of filling divorce or from date divorce decree issued as final?

will I have to go for ins right after divorce to adjust my statues from conditional GC or I must wait for 2 years period?

im so broken ,,thought im love of her life as she is to me ,but she says now she never loved me, plz help

[Boiler 45,924]

Maybe if you both moved back to your country, seems the US is the issue?

[broken heart 0]

Maybe if you both moved back to your country, seems the US is the issue?

I wish and talked about it but she doesn't want to,,and already filed divorce

[Sandra G. 5,057]

It seems you came with CR1 visa, then now you will not adjust status, but you have to file ROC I-751( it's for those with green card already) after your divorce is finalized. As soon the divorce decree is ready then file I-751 waiver,she does not have to sign,you must prove bonafide marriage,showing commingling finances(joint bank account,tax return filed jointly , utilities bills in name of both,lease agreement etc...)without these documents your chances to have your ROC approved is almost non existent.

I heard people saying all the time"I want to save my marriage,I love her" ,really? do you really think your love is enough? course not, love has to be reciprocate in order for your marriage to be saved.

Edited April 22, 2014 by sandranj

[Avery Cates 1,141]

hi every one,,,i will not go on with details on how my life is since I got to the state as good ,loving husband ,to cut this short ,we lived in my country for almost a year, I moved to states 9 months ago ,im living with crazy,moody,liar,game play person ,,who hates others and jealous of everyone,i tried my best to make good life with her ,, she wants me to love her under her rules only ,she is most talkative person ever,,guess what ? she is around 50 and living with her mother who controls her like a puppy- she refused to move ever to a place for us,, ,and they did same to me,, I called the police manytimes,,as I fear for my life after threatening me,,and lately found out she filled divorce,,i still think our life together is still possible if we move out,,im still at home with them and I have no place else as I not want to end this marriage,i really love her ,i not want to sign divorce papers ,, will that help?

if she got divorce will I be able to adjust my status alone? will our marriage considered as ended from date of filling divorce or from date divorce decree issued as final?

will I have to go for ins right after divorce to adjust my statues from conditional GC or I must wait for 2 years period?

im so broken ,,thought im love of her life as she is to me ,but she says now she never loved me, plz help

You're going to have a very hard time doing it on your own, if even possible, which is unlikely.

[novedsac 355]

It doesn't matter if you sign the divorce papers or not, the Judge can grant the divorce without your cooperation.

Date the divorce is filed is inconsequential.

Date of the divorce will be dependent upon the wording of the divorce decree and the state you reside in. It is possible that the divorce could be effective prior to the date the actual decree is signed.

Edited April 22, 2014 by novedsac

[user19000 18]

Yeah, you love her so much that you call her "crazy,moody,liar,game play person ,,who hates others and jealous of everyone", "most talkative person ever", "around 50"... That's very sweet of you!

[eieio 1,594]

She sounds like she just has had a couple of bad days. I am sure it will blow over.

There is really no need to ask people on here what to do. All you need to do is ask God and he will provide the answer. No need to sweat the small stuff.

[Hotter Otter 1,211]

She sounds like she just has had a couple of bad days. I am sure it will blow over.

There is really no need to ask people on here what to do. All you need to do is ask God and he will provide the answer. No need to sweat the small stuff.

She's filed for a divorce it's not an argument over who does the washing up is it? Hardly small stuff!

[MacUK 983]

hi every one,,,i will not go on with details on how my life is since I got to the state as good ,loving husband ,to cut this short ,we lived in my country for almost a year, I moved to states 9 months ago ,im living with crazy,moody,liar,game play person ,,who hates others and jealous of everyone,i tried my best to make good life with her ,, she wants me to love her under her rules only ,she is most talkative person ever,,guess what ? she is around 50 and living with her mother who controls her like a puppy- she refused to move ever to a place for us,, ,and they did same to me,, I called the police manytimes,,as I fear for my life after threatening me,,and lately found out she filled divorce,,i still think our life together is still possible if we move out,,im still at home with them and I have no place else as I not want to end this marriage,i really love her ,i not want to sign divorce papers ,, will that help?

if she got divorce will I be able to adjust my status alone? will our marriage considered as ended from date of filling divorce or from date divorce decree issued as final?

will I have to go for ins right after divorce to adjust my statues from conditional GC or I must wait for 2 years period?

im so broken ,,thought im love of her life as she is to me ,but she says now she never loved me, plz help

Going by your post are you more interested in staying in your marriage or staying in the US?

You talk of how much you love her despite her many faults that you point out, then immediately ask if you can still adjust status on your own.

If you're only in the US for love then why would you want to stay without that love?

[TBoneTX 45,873]

Two posts removed for sideline commentary. Post constructively or don't post.

[Snag 57]

Going by your post are you more interested in staying in your marriage or staying in the US?

You talk of how much you love her despite her many faults that you point out, then immediately ask if you can still adjust status on your own.

If you're only in the US for love then why would you want to stay without that love?

Indeed. Fishy. OP, your first question was vague and for general opinions; prior to that making it evident that you think poorly of your wife; and then your second and third questions were all specifically about the status of your GC. I wouldn't want to stay in the US if my marriage had disolved.

[aaron2020 11,651]

I wouldn't want to stay in the US if my marriage had disolved.

True dat.

Unless the marriage was just a convenience to obtain a green card. The green card would be the goal and the marriage is meaningless because it's only for the green card.

Edited April 29, 2014 by aaron2020