emotional baggage of the visa journey...

[Marry American 0]

I can't believe I am yet again forced to repeat myself. I am NOT complaining. I started a discussion because I was curious what people found in themselves after their SO arrived after all that time apart. If you all want to read more into it, that's fine. But my position remains, I simply wanted to discuss. But then again, its Thursday and time to wind up for the Friday night fights. I won't be participating in the usual rubbish.

I understand what you meant. I think that you have anxiety about all the changes you are faced with now. Those are very big changes. A new person to share a bed with everyday, share bathrooms. Toilet seat up or down, lol. Just the fact that your space has an additional person in it now. Then comes all the major things. It is not simple. Being married and divorced before, relationships are hard. You have to work at it each and every day. Sometimes every second. But then that is when maturity kicks in and you realize that you both are in it for the long haul.

I am glad you posted something you were feeling and it was honest. I could not be that honest and post something like that because people always have away to change what you meant around and look to the negative about it. It is called their baggage they have to carry with them that makes people act like that. Regardless as to how they may feel or think, the responses on here should be tactful.

Let the subject people be GOOD BEHAVIOR fo 2007. MANNERS.

I could complain that when I have a problem with my man, he seems to always turn it around like he is the victim. No sense of Ownership. But guess what I will not complain because then people will have something to say. LOL

gosh, I didn't realize that my baggage and I had been introduced to you yet. Maybe you would be willing to remind me what my baggage is also, I seem to have forgotten.

I will be tactful. But why wold you assume I am speaking to you directly from the many post on the topic. Since you do not know what baggage is, i will forwar you a poem on it for your pleasure.

[cbd2cai 0]

I will be tactful. But why wold you assume I am speaking to you directly from the many post on the topic. Since you do not know what baggage is, i will forwar you a poem on it for your pleasure.

Glad my baggage got lost before I landed at this airport . . . .

[peezey 0]

I will be tactful. But why wold you assume I am speaking to you directly from the many post on the topic. Since you do not know what baggage is, i will forwar you a poem on it for your pleasure.

You aren't being tactful, you are being presumptuous and arrogant. Do you have a phD in Baggage? If not, I'd suggest following your own rule of politeness and step off telling someone what it is and that they have it.

[doodlebug 3]

I can't believe I am yet again forced to repeat myself. I am NOT complaining. I started a discussion because I was curious what people found in themselves after their SO arrived after all that time apart. If you all want to read more into it, that's fine. But my position remains, I simply wanted to discuss. But then again, its Thursday and time to wind up for the Friday night fights. I won't be participating in the usual rubbish.

I understand what you meant. I think that you have anxiety about all the changes you are faced with now. Those are very big changes. A new person to share a bed with everyday, share bathrooms. Toilet seat up or down, lol. Just the fact that your space has an additional person in it now. Then comes all the major things. It is not simple. Being married and divorced before, relationships are hard. You have to work at it each and every day. Sometimes every second. But then that is when maturity kicks in and you realize that you both are in it for the long haul.

I am glad you posted something you were feeling and it was honest. I could not be that honest and post something like that because people always have away to change what you meant around and look to the negative about it. It is called their baggage they have to carry with them that makes people act like that. Regardless as to how they may feel or think, the responses on here should be tactful.

Let the subject people be GOOD BEHAVIOR fo 2007. MANNERS.

I could complain that when I have a problem with my man, he seems to always turn it around like he is the victim. No sense of Ownership. But guess what I will not complain because then people will have something to say. LOL

Holy ####### look who's talking!!!! YOU ... the one posting a mocking thread about someone who calls her dear one "my morrocan" has the audacity to come into this thread and dis long time members by accusing them of not having manners????? If you're talking about Sarah I'm sorry but one thing she does have is manners...you might learn a few lessons from her.

Geesh what a way to come into a board. If this keeps up I'll need a LOT of popcorn!!!

[Ban Hammer 13,337]

awww ####### i missed all the fun

[Chantelle 0]

I can't believe I am yet again forced to repeat myself. I am NOT complaining. I started a discussion because I was curious what people found in themselves after their SO arrived after all that time apart. If you all want to read more into it, that's fine. But my position remains, I simply wanted to discuss. But then again, its Thursday and time to wind up for the Friday night fights. I won't be participating in the usual rubbish.

Well I just want to Thank you for your post. I thought the point was to discuss emotional baggage that the process may have left you or your SO with or maybe just to vent...or express frustration at the whole process. I guess I expected that it would all be over once my sweetie was here but it just irritates me knowing I have to again go to an interview to prove my love to him. He is here. That is true that is all that matters and for those who's SO isn't here yet I think after that person arrives and they are in bliss they will understand...if they don't already how damn annoying it is when time starts ticking and the next step in the process is due..rudely interrupting the blissful happiness that Citizens of the same country who fall in love get to continue on without ever having to struggle with...I don't think your post was insensitive at all. But people will always have their own opinions. all I want to say is Thanks. I feel better having vented

[PalestineMyHeart 1,897]

Oh phew, thank you! I must say that Samsonite luggage is quite wonderful.

I like Hartman. But it's so dang expensive.

[Marry American 0]

I will be tactful. But why wold you assume I am speaking to you directly from the many post on the topic. Since you do not know what baggage is, i will forwar you a poem on it for your pleasure.

You aren't being tactful, you are being presumptuous and arrogant. Do you have a phD in Baggage? If not, I'd suggest following your own rule of politeness and step off telling someone what it is and that they have it.

Arrogant...I am glad you see me as that way. However, i again stated my opinion to someones post. As a matter of fact i do have a phd in baggage. I am also glad you were able to recognize that as well. I never attacked anyone on this post.

[Marry American 0]

I can't believe I am yet again forced to repeat myself. I am NOT complaining. I started a discussion because I was curious what people found in themselves after their SO arrived after all that time apart. If you all want to read more into it, that's fine. But my position remains, I simply wanted to discuss. But then again, its Thursday and time to wind up for the Friday night fights. I won't be participating in the usual rubbish.

I understand what you meant. I think that you have anxiety about all the changes you are faced with now. Those are very big changes. A new person to share a bed with everyday, share bathrooms. Toilet seat up or down, lol. Just the fact that your space has an additional person in it now. Then comes all the major things. It is not simple. Being married and divorced before, relationships are hard. You have to work at it each and every day. Sometimes every second. But then that is when maturity kicks in and you realize that you both are in it for the long haul.

I am glad you posted something you were feeling and it was honest. I could not be that honest and post something like that because people always have away to change what you meant around and look to the negative about it. It is called their baggage they have to carry with them that makes people act like that. Regardless as to how they may feel or think, the responses on here should be tactful.

Let the subject people be GOOD BEHAVIOR fo 2007. MANNERS.

I could complain that when I have a problem with my man, he seems to always turn it around like he is the victim. No sense of Ownership. But guess what I will not complain because then people will have something to say. LOL

Holy ####### look who's talking!!!! YOU ... the one posting a mocking thread about someone who calls her dear one "my morrocan" has the audacity to come into this thread and dis long time members by accusing them of not having manners????? If you're talking about Sarah I'm sorry but one thing she does have is manners...you might learn a few lessons from her.

Geesh what a way to come into a board. If this keeps up I'll need a LOT of popcorn!!!

Did i ever mention her name? No. But I am glad you are her personal body guard. Yes, grab some popcorn, have a seat, and get a life. Actually if you check past post from me, someone on VJ attacked my fiance and yes her post was a reminder of that to me. I never attacked anyone like you are doing right now. Fortunately, I have enough sense to know that this is an online forum and just not that serious to me. I simply stated my thoughts on that idea. My position remains the same.

[Ban Hammer 13,337]

Did i ever mention her name? No. But I am glad you are her personal body guard. Yes, grab some popcorn, have a seat, and get a life. Actually if you check past post from me, someone on VJ attacked my fiance and yes her post was a reminder of that to me. I never attacked anyone like you are doing right now. Fortunately, I have enough sense to know that this is an online forum and just not that serious to me. I simply stated my thoughts on that idea. My position remains the same.

[crazyinEgypt 0]

Yet another forum that's becoming a boxing match. Baggage, well, I guess I could say I have a lot of emotional baggage that I just cannot get rid of even though I think I have. During the whole K-! I started having panic attacks which I had never had in my life. Of course I was always the one saying people that had them were crazy, so now I'm crazy too! I actually thought I was having a heart attack the first time I had one, I was quite embassassed when I was told it was a panic attack. So now we are together and waiting for Amr's AOS and I still on occasion will feel a panic attack coming on and I don't understand why. There are nights that I wake myself {and Amr } up screaming. If I wake up and he is in the other room, I freak out. I know there is no reason for it now and I tell myself this all the time, but I guess my brain isn't listening to me. My doctor also thinks I have fibromyalgia now. Once again, I always thought this was a made up condition. He said he has seen many patients that have been or are very stresses develop this. Don't know if this is true or not, but it's not fun feeling like I have run 10 miles on some days. So that's my baggage. Thank you to my goverment.

[Marry American 0]

Yet another forum that's becoming a boxing match. Baggage, well, I guess I could say I have a lot of emotional baggage that I just cannot get rid of even though I think I have. During the whole K-! I started having panic attacks which I had never had in my life. Of course I was always the one saying people that had them were crazy, so now I'm crazy too! I actually thought I was having a heart attack the first time I had one, I was quite embassassed when I was told it was a panic attack. So now we are together and waiting for Amr's AOS and I still on occasion will feel a panic attack coming on and I don't understand why. There are nights that I wake myself {and Amr } up screaming. If I wake up and he is in the other room, I freak out. I know there is no reason for it now and I tell myself this all the time, but I guess my brain isn't listening to me. My doctor also thinks I have fibromyalgia now. Once again, I always thought this was a made up condition. He said he has seen many patients that have been or are very stresses develop this. Don't know if this is true or not, but it's not fun feeling like I have run 10 miles on some days. So that's my baggage. Thank you to my goverment.

OMG- I hope you feel better. You have those kids to think about. Wishing you much health and happiness. I have baggage right about now too. I'm pregnant. Alone even though Omar is in my heart everyday and wherever I go, I am going through this alone. I was sooooooooo sick a week ago and very very angry. I started and picking fights with my fiance everyday. When I started feeling better I stopped picking fights with him. I hope that if I feel really sick again and want to start fights in the middle of the nights, he understand what I am going through. Now that is sad, right? I pray that when I get sick again from the baby, I can still be kind and nice to my fiance. Especially since he does whatever I want to make me happy, including working two jobs now to save money for us and the baby.